To think if someone is four inches taller than you that is not short

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in relative terms?

I was talking to a friend who said he met a girl who was 5 feet 2 and he is just over 5 foot 6 she said she liked everything about him, but he is "too short for her."

I told him height is relative. For his height, someone who is between 5 feet to 5 feet 3 it is not really too short because it is still a significant difference. I have heard other stories from friends as well another guy who is about 5 feet 9 and a girl who is 5 feet 3 thinks, he is too short for her. Is it me or if someone is a few inches taller than you at least that should not be classed as short speaking in relative terms?

Of course it is possible she isn’t telling the truth. Perhaps she doesn’t actually like him or aspects of him but finds it easier to blame something he can’t change than tell him that.

Maybe she wants someone taller to offset the short genes she will give to her children?

YANBU. The short women should leave the tall men for us tall women!

Shes probably not that into him, I think if you really like someone you wouldn't notice height. I'm 5ft nearly 1😅and😅and my dh is 5 ft 7 and he looks tall when in next to him

Meh, my DP is short. I don't care about height. He's 5'7 and I'm 6 foot. Still wear heels.

When I was much younger I found tall fat men very attractive. I was not tall or fat myself. Should I have not been permitted to seek out tall fat men?

YANBU but it that's what they they/want.

One of my friends was like this was on OLD a few years back. She is only 5'1'' and wouldn't consider a man under 5'10'' and really wanted 6'' plus. I thought it was a bit odd. She considers my 5'9'' husband to be on the short-side, something I hadn't even considered and I'm 5'6.5''! It's a good job that 6'1'' man she is seeing didn't rule her out for being too short...

Ill stick with short to medium guys for a happer life. All the shallow women can stick to their bean poles 😂

www.telegraph.co.uk/men/active/mens-health/11906258/The-five-surprising-health-benefits-of-being-short.html

If you really like someone height shouldn’t matter . If women on this thread are insisting they date only 6ft or taller, I hope they’re fine with the same men not wanting to date women with a flat chest for example. Think the response would be different tbh.

Some very short women commenting. Can any women be too short?

He is not too short in terms of their relative heights. A 4" difference is fine.

However, her preference is clearly for a taller man and she is entitled to her opinion.

Lol

We get the opinion thing. It’s a bit shortsighted though - for a decent opinion.

People are allowed personal preferences, none of it is “relative”.

I’m 5ft 2. ExH is 6ft 6. I’ve never dated a man under 6ft. I’m not sure it’s a preference as such, as in I don’t actively target only tall men and reject all others.

I’ve been a lone parent for 7 years, I reject all men these days.

I'm 5' 11". Ive only dated two guys taller than me, two guys shorter than me, and a couple my height, including my husband. Shortest guy was 5'7". I think that's probably as short as I'd go, even then I felt a bit like a hulk next to him as he was slight too. But if I only dated guys taller I'd never had met my husband!

Of course it’s not relative when it’s a preference. Is he short compared to her, no, and that’s relative but she’s expressing a preference. I don’t think she’s saying ‘he’s too short for me’ as in she thinks he’s too close in height to look right or whatever, I think she means, he’s too short compared to what she usually likes.

Of course you can say it even if it applies to you as well.

I’m short, I don’t find short - for men - men attractive. It doesn’t put me in denial about my height or anything like that. It’s just that I like tall men.

Is it also hypocritical of slim men or women who like bigger partners?

I don't have a problem with people having their own sexual preferences/desires in a mate. Anyone should be able to have any reason why they don't want a relationship with someone.

Neither may get what they want, but they can still aspire to it

Like men don’t have preferences 🤣

This was me. I hate being short and while I didn't purposely reject men for not being short I had a little voice at the back of my head when I dated tall men that I might get a child who could be a basket baller or a supermodel or a flight attendant or any of the other professions that required a particular minimum height.

I come from a family of shortarses. I married into a family of tall people. Prior to meeting my DH I had no preference on height as that wasn't really something that I felt was that important in the whole scheme of things.

Are you tall yourself?

5ft 6 is very short for a man

You'd love looking through records of my ancestors. The tallest one was around 5' 6

A man under 6ft is short no matter the height of the woman

So that'll be the majority of men in this country that are short?