To think if someone is four inches taller than you that is not short

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in relative terms?

I was talking to a friend who said he met a girl who was 5 feet 2 and he is just over 5 foot 6 she said she liked everything about him, but he is "too short for her."

I told him height is relative. For his height, someone who is between 5 feet to 5 feet 3 it is not really too short because it is still a significant difference. I have heard other stories from friends as well another guy who is about 5 feet 9 and a girl who is 5 feet 3 thinks, he is too short for her. Is it me or if someone is a few inches taller than you at least that should not be classed as short speaking in relative terms?

They certainly are not.

DH is 5ft 6in, but was a very good-looking boy and very popular even with girls taller than him! My grandma used to say " They're all the same height when they're lying next to you in bed! "

Men judge on appearance all the time - especially when it’s just hypothetical, i.e. ‘my preference is….’

They really don’t like it when women do it back. Women should just be satisfied with a nice personality, apparently.

You're being ridiculous. People have whatever preference they want. So short fat people must date short fat people or they're hypocrites? Doesn't matter if a tall slim guy of hot and funny. No. Date people that look like you only???

And of course I can say someone else is fat. Me being fat doesn't change the fact they're also fat.

The date is short. Your mate is short. Your mate is too short for the date. For the next date he might be perfect. My 5ft 8 friend is married to a guy who is 5ft 6. He is short. He isn't to short for her.

I can quite honestly say, hand on heart that the height of any future children did not ever cross my mind when I was dating.

5’6” bloke here with a son on a lower centile than that.

he’ll be fine. He’ll get a bit of stick from both men and women but only rarely is it really nasty. It’s just a part of who he is (I am).

preferences are fine, it’s just that I note a fair few threads where mens preferences (weight, breast size, height, age) are derided. Anyone can prefer whatever they like!

Maybe. I don't see it that often, I'm probably on different threads.

But it works both ways. I'm 5'2 and DH is 6'4 and he wouldn't be attracted to a 6ft woman. Personally I don't care about height, I've dated both short and tall men, DHs height is not what attracted me.

Men need to stop dating short women if they aspire to Danish-level heights for their children (lighthearted btw!!)

I had read that tall women were sexually selected for, and that’s why Danes are so tall nowadays (save the immigrants). But no idea if it’s true 😆

I'm 5'1 and DH is 5'6 - he's the shortest man I've dated and I'd definitely consider him short. Being short myself just means more men are taller than me, it doesn't automatically make them all tall.

Exactly, if there is a thread about height, people who have preference are more likely to reply.

But a lot of women are very shallow in that regard.

I don't agree, men and women can have whatever preferences they choose. What they can not do is decide the person they want to date preferences.

But height and weight aren't really comparable in this instance. Obesity is generally seen as a less desirable characteristic for both sexes whereas being short is only deemed to make men less desirable. So saying short women should like short men because they are in their attractiveness category (for want of a better word) doesn't really work as short women are seen as just as attractive as tall women.

I'm short and only date/marry men at least 6' tall. Years ago there was a short man at the place I worked. He must have been 5' 4". The women there kept going on about how "cute" we'd look if we dated. They seriously wanted us to date each other because we were both short.

Women vs short men.

"I’ve asked around, and the most common explanation I get for female height preference is that they like to feel “surrounded.” They want to hug someone bigger than them, lie next to someone large, someone who can put their arms around them and really…surround. So then I had to ask around and find out what the fuck that meant. The best I could come up with is that tall men make women feel protected. Comforted, cozy, and looked out for. Height, apparently, subconsciously offers that. It better be subconscious, because I’m 6’2″ and I’ll tell you right now ladies, I ain’t protecting you from shit. If a murderer, or a burglar, or even a strong wind should enter your room in the middle of the night, me and my 74 inches are getting the hell out of there. At least a short guy can fit under the bed, so there’s a decent chance you’ll have someone to hide with. I’d keep that in mind."

A short woman can see a man is below average height, just like anyone else. If she wants a tall man rather than a man taller than herself, you'll not convince her otherwise. I don't think it's a 'being shallow' thing, more of a basic animal instinct which a lot of women feel. Luckily for short men, not all women feel the same.

How often do you marry men?

Well, I am clearly an outlier! At 5'10 and a half, my partner is 5'6'. I have never been out with a tall man. I feel a bit intimidated by them, to be honest. Anyway, love for short guys!

Well I'm quite the opposite to you. I'm pleased my son's are shorter than average.

It's a scientific proven fact shorter people are less prone to cancer, blood clots and generally live longer life's amongst many other benefits.

Facts are out there for you to find! 😏

Yeah, because men are so picky that short women literally couldn't stay in the gene pool.

I don't think it's a 'being shallow' thing, more of a basic animal instinct which a lot of women feel.

Anyone who specifically wants a man 'over 6'' is 100% shallow, especially if you're like 5' yourself

Now, I don't actually care, because we all have our own wants, but that is oddly specific. There's no difference between 5'10-11 and 6' so why do they have to be over that threshold? Just to say your dating a tall guy?

I do feel sorry for men when it comes to height, they are severely judged

Ridiculous. Men judge women on absolutely every aspect of their bodies and physical appearance, but women aren't allowed to have even ONE physical preference?

There has always been this idea that women have to choose men based solely on personality or they're 'shallow bitches' and it needs to stop. Everyone is entitled to physical preferences, it's simple biology and human instinct.

And I say this as someone who prefers "short" men.

I'm a short female and would not date a man that was under 5'8".

How else would I reach the top shelves of the kitchen cupboard?!

Everyone is attracted to different things, fair enough, but if I met someone and we got along like a house on fire and everything was perfect, and they told me they couldn't be with me because I was a few inches below their height requirement, I don't even know how I'd feel! I'd probably laugh and run for the hills away from him! 🤣

Hear hear.

You're allowed to be as shallow as you like in your romantic/sexual life. You're not entitled to be a dick about it but you don't owe anyone a date or a shag.

Of course, the shallower you are, the harder it will be to find anyone or sustain relationships. But that's your concern.

In real life, very few women will turn down a handsome, solvent, emotionally available, generous and confident man because he's "only" 5'10".