Adults only weddings - Yay or Nay

[Knittingpandas]

I am not very familiar with the concept - it only happened once to be invited in such a wedding and I have also heard of another.

But how is it possible to invite adults only? I mean if parents go to the wedding then who is supposed to look after toddlers, babies etc. ?

Is it a way to say to people “we invite you but please don’t come?”

We have no family/support around and this invite sounds a bit weird and discriminatory … If you want someone to share the joy and happiness with you then you must welcome his other half and, of course, children under 18 years old! Where are they supposed to stay while their parents celebrate with you?

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I think @Knittingpandas seriously thinks this though!

@JorisBonson well I wouldn't have enjoyed it anymore really. Just my opinion on some modern weddings these days.
Everyone is entitled to have the wedding they want but I can have my opinion. I do keep it to myself from anyone attending the wedding....but I do think when planning a wedding I personally would have children and think children should attend weddings, they are family too...and sometimes it makes it easier for a couple attending when the go to babysitters are also attending the wedding.
I will personally have children at my wedding and I won't be spending 20k or spending two hours on photos but again that's just me.

@somethingdifferent789

not having kids there doesn’t automatically mean that there will be extensive photo shoots or Instagram or 20k spent

Yes but also, no one ever tells the bride and groom that their wedding is shit. Which is how you get so many MNers saying they served guests tap water and dry bread and everyone still says it was the best wedding they’ve ever been to

Exactly this. Our wedding 32 years ago cost less in today’s money than many brides would spend on a dress. We actually had fewer photos taken at the reception than we would have liked because the caterers were pushing for the meal to be served. We had some taken cutting the cake and that was that. But meh, we are still together so who cares.

Meh, I think a lot of the time you can tell.
if guests are all up dancing their socks off, chatting, laughing, singing along to music, pretty obvious they’re enjoying themselves.
I went to a wedding once and the atmosphere was awful. It was beautiful and planned well, just dull as ditchwater, had a dj who wants great, food was ok ish just no atmosphere. I did feel for the bride and groom as it was quite obvious.

Oh don’t be so silly. Of course it’s not discrimination.

We had a child free wedding and I’d absolutely do it again. Nobody wants screaming babies or annoying toddlers spoiling their big day.

You realise nobody really gives a shit about your kids but you, yes?

And I say that as someone with children myself, including a toddler. Weddings aren’t appropriate for them.

@YellowTreeHouse

“You realise nobody really gives a shit about your kids but you, yes?“

I do! And they should realise that I also don’t give a shit that I won’t be able to attend their wedding

I think it's fine for the B&G to have a child free wedding if that's what they want

But I hate it when people dress it up as if they're doing you a favour by giving you the opportunity of a night out

And they should realise that I also don’t give a shit that I won’t be able to attend their wedding

I reckon they'll survive.

Just don't go then, I'm sure you won't be missed.

Well don't then!

I have a feeling that might be bit of their end goal here tbh

@notanothertakeaway

for some people they are though

some people love to have a legit excuse for a night away from the kids to have some well deserved part time

@KimberleyClark

ah well, alls well then 😀

@HerMajestysRoyalCoven if they will survive I bet they really don’t need their guests in their wedding and they can celebrate on their own in style

And they also won’t give a shit you’re not there 🤷‍♀️

Are you aware just how petty you are coming across?

But they will!

cos weddings are boring and shit without kids there, it’s should all be about faaaaaaamily!

I would rather have gotten a babysitter and went child free 💁A lot of people do

@Knittingpandas

well yeah you’re right, they will survive cos the most important person there is their soon to be spouse

cos it’s about the bride and groom and their love

everyone else there is peripheral in that sense including you and your kids should they be invited

Sounds like a win-win for all concerned!!

@AryaStarkWolf and @LuckySantangelo35

Yes, I realise many people choose to leave their children at home. And that's fine. But they could have chosen to do that even if the children were invited

If B&G want a child free wedding that's fine. But they should own it, not pretend they're doing the guests a favour

I love a child free wedding. People I've spoken to who have been upset about not being able to take their children would happily get a baby babysitter for a night out or a party, but resent it for a wedding. I think its being they wanted the family to see their children and for the children to join in, but its about the bride and groom and their wishes.
I do think if you are going to go child free then you can't be an arse about it. Having favourite neices "for the photos" whilst denying everyone else is going to cause resentment. I also don't agree with exceptions necessarily being made for babies, because the presence of a babies change the mood completely; its child free or it isn't. Also, the bride and groom have to accept that a no child policy will mean that some people won't be able to attend, probably because their babysitters are at the wedding! I have have attended a couple of weddings that a family member hasn't be able to attend because of the child exclusion, yet a cute bridesmaid was there (bored in the corners) and friends with babies were at our table with the interruption that babies bring. That caused quite a lot of resentment.

You're making a pretty big deal for someone who claims not give a shit OP.

This!