To not want to give lifts with baby in the car

[alwaysfrazzled]

My baby is four months old and is a nightmare in the car. She screams the place down and always drops her dummy which upsets her even more. If I need to go anywhere in the car I make it short journeys and if I have to go anywhere longer than ten mins I always go with someone else in the back.
Sister in law is in hospital and needs a lift home. She stays a half hour drive away so that's an hour round trip.
She would have to sit in the back with the baby but it won't stop the screaming, on the way home would be a nightmare. I hate driving with constant screaming.
I don't want to do it. Would I be unreasonable to suggest she gets the bus home?
My partner is working away so not home to help. Her mum is on holiday. Nobody else can drive her home. Nightmare.

So let's follow this logic.

I'm a bit ill and need food shopping done for me, what should I do?

A. Arrange an online supermarket delivery/takeaway/Deliveroo/delivery from a local business (a lot of businesses have been doing this since covid)

B. Ask my immediate family to help if they live close enough

C. Ask a close friend to help me

D. Ask a friendly neighbour

E. Ask for help on a local Facebook group, this has been very common since covid.

F. Ask my brother's partner, whom I'm not particularly close to and I know has a baby and school aged children to look after. I also know that the baby doesn't cope well with being in the car. I'll ask her anyway because A-E are clearly not sensible options?

What option would you choose?

FYI I've been stuck in the house with a baby and husband who had covid at a time we all had to stay in due to isolation rules. I live in a small market town and was able to get food deliveries from local businesses on the same day, my friend dropped off food shopping for us the next day. Didn't occur to me to call my SIL who lives an hour away.

Have lots of people on here never got a taxi before? It’s not some kind of hellish ordeal. You don’t need to put your feet through the floor and run like Fred Flintstone. It’s just like getting a lift, except you have to pay (and you don’t have to sit next to a screaming baby).

Who cares? Not for me to help you, regardless of our relationship. Sort it out yourself - ask a neighbour or some random off the street or something.

I do wonder though how op fares when she needs help. But maybe she is one of those ‘MY family’ types who never wants or asks for help either. In which case it’s just a very isolated family culture.

For making her four month old baby's welfare paramount? Sorry but it's a shit parent who'd put their baby through that for an hour rather than ask another adult to call a taxi.

I don't. Have any of those things.
Is that OK with you or should I just throw myself off the nearest bridge?

This car dependency is wild. Do you have a phone? Then you can get a taxi. Uber/ Bolt in the cities, local firms further afield. Or buses; every hospital is served by buses, buses link to train stations, all pretty easy to use.

We actually live all the time without a car. That means that we get around everywhere whether ill or healthy, including hospital. We get shopping, we go on holiday, we go out all over the place and we've never needed to demand that random people drive their cars to collect any of us. In fact, when needed I've sent bolt taxis for the PIL, who were amazed to be picked up in under 3 minutes. The cumulative cost for us all is a hell of a lot less than running a car too.