To not want to give lifts with baby in the car

[alwaysfrazzled]

My baby is four months old and is a nightmare in the car. She screams the place down and always drops her dummy which upsets her even more. If I need to go anywhere in the car I make it short journeys and if I have to go anywhere longer than ten mins I always go with someone else in the back.
Sister in law is in hospital and needs a lift home. She stays a half hour drive away so that's an hour round trip.
She would have to sit in the back with the baby but it won't stop the screaming, on the way home would be a nightmare. I hate driving with constant screaming.
I don't want to do it. Would I be unreasonable to suggest she gets the bus home?
My partner is working away so not home to help. Her mum is on holiday. Nobody else can drive her home. Nightmare.

Yes, a taxi. OP is not in the position to do it. End of story.

She is being released. Which means she is no longer on antibiotics. She is being released from hospital. And it is simply not possible for the OP to pick her up.

She is a far better option than two people who are not in the pissing country.

OP is the least best option considering due to her circumstances with her child it is simply not possible for her to do it. The best option would be for CF SIL to take a bus or taxi like any other non self-centred CFer would do. The second best option would be her best friend or a colleague or even a neighbour to pick her up. The third best option would be for MIL to cut short her precious holiday and be there to pick her daughter up.

No, I will not give up. I will correct rubbish where I see it. And this is the second abusive comment of yours I will be reporting. Take your own advice.

But if it’s an antenatal class you’re hardly hugely experienced in childcare, and want to take on looking after another newborn are you?

Correct rubbish?

why not start by correcting the rubbish you’ve been spouting!

4 month olds are newborns - factually incorrect

most women take 4+ months to recover from birth - factually incorrect

You need a hobby

4 months old are seen as newborns by most people. They're only 16 weeks old, not even 6 months old.

Many women do take a long time to recover from birth, and an even longer time for their hormones to get back to normal. This, is fact.

Perhaps you should get a hobby yourself instead of continually posting all over this thread in order to defend a CFer.

You need to calm down.
Reported. Again.

🤣🤣🤣 again????

Yes. It means another time.

YABU who needs family hey 🙄 Poor SIL.

You people are crazy 😂 I’m glad I’m not in your families!

‘Hi, I’m a bit ill, any way you could drop some shopping off to me this weekend?’
‘WHAT? Fuck off you cheeky FUCKER! I’ve got my newborn 7 year old to worry about, who the fuck cares about you! You’re just my mum! Get someone from your antenatal class to do it you self centered fucker! Or get a taxi! Christ.’

Why on earth does anyone who's just come out of hospital want to sit and listen to 30 minutes of a young baby's scream, potentially have them vomit in the car thus prolonging the journey as the Mom will need to stop and see to the baby or the ex-patient will need to sit in the back and sort the baby. In what world is that a desirable thing to do vs calling a cab? Most hospitals even have a direct telephone connection so she doesn't even need to know a number. If she can't afford a cab, surely her MOTHER or BROTHER can help her out paying for it as families are meant to help each other where reasonable.

no decent doctor is going to medicate a young baby for a non essential car journey when they can't actually identify the issue. Baby MIGHT feel sick, dizzy, feel uncomfortable, want Mom, have a pain etc. There's very little the Dr can tell at that age even if they get in the car and drive with Mom. It's ridiculous to think this is something to put onto a GP when the obv answer is to minimise the upsetting thing until they're older. Its an utterly entitled, selfish idiot who think that its better to drug a baby up until it sleeps or let is scream for an hour so they don't have to get a taxi

@SleepingStandingUp I think you missed my post where I said there's a good chance it's not actually just travel sickness and could be being caused by something else, especially as her older child has the same issue.
Id be getting their ears checked

Trusted friend who can watch baby for an hour at your house while you do the run?

Piriton would work better, anyway. 🤷‍♀️

Send SIL an uber or bolt to collect her, there is no need for the baby to do it.

For the car seat, DS did this in the baby seat but not in the bigger Group 0+, 1, 2, 3 seat that had been suitable for babies too. It isn't about forward facing but being too scrunched up in the baby seat. We didn't travel much at all, but I still wished we'd moved it sooner than 4 months when we did. It's worth swapping the seat now.

Nope, she can get a taxi. Don't upset your baby for an adults convenience.

Ffs - she wants a lift home from hospital, not a shopping trip or the pub!! I can't believe how selfish some people are.

A 4 month old is a newborn to most people.

I have literally never heard anyone refer to a 4 month old as a newborn, you are talking rubbish.

She can get a taxi or bus. She is unbelievably selfish to inconvenience a mother with a 4 month old baby that will cause stress to the driver on the road.

Yep, people on here are crazy and illogical. They don't put their brains into gear before commenting.

You see the world as a cold place, I'm here wondering why people just can't help themselves. SIL's having antibiotics for a UTI, why can't she organise her own transport? It's not like she's been under GA that day. It sounds minor enough to drive or take a bus.

Plenty of us drive ourselves home after minor treatments if not been under GA that very day.