One of my direct reports is on onlyfans

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I am so conflicted about what to do about this but one of the people I manage (a girl in her early 20s) does onlyfans and has a public p0rn Twitter account. Another colleague told me that they found her TikTok through her phone number, and the TikTok links to the Twitter page with the explicit videos, and that links to the onlyfans. The Twitter isn’t even under a pseudonym, it’s her nickname that she uses at work!

The issue isn’t that she has onlyfans as much as the fact that she is using her real life nickname and there are videos of her on a public Twitter account using various toys on herself with her face clearly visible! She has also posted a photo of her hand where she is clearly at her work desk at our office, asking her ‘fans’ to pay for her nails.

AIBU to even think about taking this higher up? My gut instinct was to say nothing and not get involved but if she is this blasé about it then a client might find out. We work in a field where public image matters and staff photos are on the website.

This is made up. Troll

@Orangepolentacake It does happen, I've known of the same thing happening with another individual.

So they basically got away with it.

I can easily believe it. Online sex work is becoming more and more common. There are also plenty of people around (particularly twentysomethings) with a naïve approach to online safety. Which bit of this story isn't plausible?

Unless you're a teacher or politician, then surely it doesn't matter.

Of course it matters. People on this thread are talking like sex ‘work’ is just a second job like any other. It absolutely isn’t. Get over your own misogyny and get real. Would you want your 20 year old daughter doing this?

Get over your own misogyny

I've seen it all on MN now. 🙄

Right, so you’ll be encouraging the young women in your own family to take up sex work then, since it’s all perfectly fine?

Nobody wants their own daughter to do it. Just other people's daughters.

Exactly. I don’t want anyone’s daughters to work in the sex industry. It’s shit for women as a whole and it can be very dangerous or fatal for the individual women involved. It’s not a ‘job’ by any recognisable description of work. It’s grim how many people seem to be fine with all of that.

(I’m sure they’re all out campaigning for workplace insurance, pensions, holiday, enforced workplace health and safety protections, training and development, and sick pay for these ‘workers’ who are definitely just like any other worker.. )

That's the only possible alternative, is it?

Either encourage OP to interfere and get unnecessarily involved in this woman's life or encourage my own DD and nieces to take up sex work?

And how is it misogynistic to say that OP should leave the woman involved to it and not get involved in her personal choices?

Telling a woman they can't do something? "Misogyny"
Telling a woman they should do something? "Misogyny"
Keeping your beak out? "Misogyny"

@SofiaSoFar I think @PalatineHill is referring to the internalised misogyny of insisting that porn is fine and it’s a woman’s right to choose what she does with her own body (the second bit is true to be fair) when the porn industry is horrifically exploitative for the vast majority of women involved in it. There’s a trend nowadays to be really positive about sex work and view it as a job choice like any other, but it’s not. For every woman with an Onlyfans account who makes decent money and ‘enjoys’ it, there are thousands more who’ve been sold a lie and get pushed into doing more and more degrading stuff to keep their followers happy, some even getting stalked or having their houses broken into. All to satisfy the desires of men.

Op has had this reported to her by someone else she manages, she’s not stumbled across it herself. If the company has policies about social media use, additional employment and bro no ing the company into disrepute, op has a responsibility to refer it to HR. If other employee escalated it up then op could end up in the shit for not reporting it herself.

This is super useful! Thanks :) I had side jobs in stripping and camming and normal day jobs. I covered myself by using a stage name, hiding behind a paywall for cam and checking my contract for second job policies. I’m looking to start on OF as a second income (two kids under 2, no enhanced mat as I had just come back to the UK and changed contracts!) and I’m pleased to see an HR pro come to the same conclusions as me re: how the company would see it/ what they could do about it.