Feel embarrassed? Was I in the wrong

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I normally go and get my eyebrows at the same place. I brought my kids with me. They only take cash, and the cash machine is literally two shops away, inside the mall. I have a double pram, one of my child wtrapped in, I said to the lady is it okay if I run and get the money and leave her with you. As soon as I left, her husband called me who was at the shop you needed to take your child with you, so angrily as if I'm being a bad mum, and neglecting my child for being two seconds. In hindsight maybe I am in the wrong, in my mind I have been there for years and would quickly rush and leave, rather than taking the pram out. I felt so shamed and embarrassed by the incident. Was I in the wrong,please be kind I already feel like a shit mum. I'm a single mother of two little one, and I must admit I already feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

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But why the need to comment and debate about whether she should have them done @FOTTFSOFTFOASM? That wasn’t the question asked and I doubt many are interested in your views on eyebrow beauty practices.

It’s just coming across as wanting to be mean to the OP for the sake of it.

Perhaps you needed to ask him why the business is cash only and pointed out that the situation wouldn't have arisen if they operated as a normal business. Don't make yourself feel like shit over a stranger who obviously doesn't want to pay tax. It may not have been an ideal thing to do but she agreed.I'd go to a

Sorry, different business the next time.

I wouldn't have brought kids to get eyebrows done in the first place, its not appropriate. Definitely not appropriate to then leave them behind while yo go to get cash!
Not really a big deal though, I'd forget about it. But not do it again.

I don’t think you are a bad Mum, your child was not at risk from someone you have been a customer of for 5 years.

But I would not want anyone’s child left unattended on my business premises, not at all.

Youve been going there for years you knew you needed the money but didnt stop first-they shouldnt have said yes really maybe the lady got a bollocking aswell

I used to go to aplce like this full of kids all the time just wasnt relaxing and cash only

It's not an issue. Presumably she said yes when you asked? He was being a misery.

But maybe next time bring the cash with you. ;)

Everyone saying re the cash - when I get my nails done if I don't have the cash I can go to the cashpoint (I usually do have the cash).

I had one salon I went to where you book and pay online (Treatwell) and then they demanded I pay by cash too and pointed me to the nearest cashpoint!

Salons should be lucky they're getting custom right now with people having less money for luxuries in my opinion.

Because that's the beauty of AIBU. There's always someone who gets sidetracked onto the issue about which the OP didn't specifically post. Here, it's eyebrows.

I did in fact say earlier that the OP was BU for leaving the baby in the eyebrow parlour but that no harm was done and she shouldn't worry about it any further.

I do have quite strong feelings about women somehow being made to feel that they should do entirely unnecessary things for the sake of some perceived notion of "beauty" (most likely invented by someone who's making a shedload of money out of it), but I am not singling out the OP by saying so.

I agree that my views are probably not of much interest, though. In the same way that nobody's views on AIBU are really of any interest to anyone. it's all highly ephemeral.

I don’t really think that is the beauty of AIBU. It might be the reason it has a reputation for being confrontational and unpleasant though, particularly when seized upon as an additional opportunity to criticise the OP.

I read it as the man called after her as she was leaving the shop (rather than called her on the phone). As in stuck his head out the shop door and shouted "Oi! Get back here and take your child with you!" type thing.
I might have read it wrong however.

I've just re-read it, but it definitely says "he called me" not called after me, which I think would be the wording if it was that he shouted from the shop.

But I can see how it could be the way you've interpreted it, if the OP missed a word or something.

Where does the OP say she was getting "fake eyebrows"?!

I "get my eyebrows done" every 5-6weeks. By that I get my eyebrows waxed into a neat shape, my unibrow removed and just generally tidied up.

I could leave them natural but I have PCOS, very dark hair, thick bushy brows with a natural unibrow, I hate the way they look naturally as they make me self conscious and I work face to face with the public every day and can hardly hide my eyebrows. I also could deal with them myself but I also cannot see without my glasses on, which makes it hard to see the rogue hairs I want to tidy up and has lead to very over plucked and uneven eyebrows in the past

Every 5-6 weeks I pay a lovely aesthetician the grand sum of £7 to take 10 minutes to tidy them up (almost) painlessly, quickly and professionally. It's hardly bank breaking and makes me feel better, why is it a bad thing to want to look put together?

The woman probably had clients and couldn't ignore them to watch your kids.

Where does the OP say she was getting "fake eyebrows"?!

people are making assumptions based on the phrasing in the OP and being arsey about it. I suspect she was just getting them threaded/waxed.

See, I worked in high end retail for many years and would always really try and go the extra mile.. good, personalised customer service brings repeat custom, every time. We aren’t charitably providing a free service, these are paying customers and we rely on their loyalty to survive. And it’s nice to be nice.

If I knew the owners, I would do what you did! Maybe not if they were busy, but if they weren’t, yes. I think it’s fine.
But I’d find another beauticians going forward, the husband sounds very hostile

That's fine - it's not that I'm not nice to people and I completely understand customer loyalty. Slightly patronising to think that I might not. Good for you working in high end retail. I work in a very busy shopping area and deal with hundreds of people a day. There's only me in the shop and transactions are generally fast moving.

Would I look after someone's child? Not a chance.

Regularly I'm asked if I can just mind peoples suitcases/ luggage while they "do some more shopping" or can I hold onto their dog while they have a coffee? Or ( big homeless population) can I look after their sleeping bag for the day. Have you got change for a fiver? Can you break a twenty for me? What bus do I get to so-and-so?

This is not "can I borrow a pen?" territory, and people really need to think about how their seemingly small impositions can add up over the course of a day on one person who might have ten people all asking similar things.

Haven't read all the replies but this is exactly what I would have done so don't feel bad OP! You weren't thinking of what ifs...would be quicker without the pram plus had every intention of being back in a minute ... I'd have done the same x

The guy could have handled it better, mentioning to you when you got back. I can appreciate that if they are cash only, they could end up with a lot of people asking this, which obviously they don't want.

But she had agreed and he was OTT with you.

Don't give it another thought. I'm sure you're a perfectly good mum

"Fake eyebrows" was the phrase I used. I was just using it to mean "faffing around with your eyebrows" (have never known what threading is, and am not interested enough to Google it). But I certainly take the point made by @melj1213 and would probably do something about it if my eyebrows did anything other than sit there anonymously.

Where does it say they’re ‘fake’ brows?
Why does that even matter?

I have my brows done (either waxed or threaded) every 6 weeks or so. It’s costs £8 and takes a few minutes so no reason DC couldn’t go.

The OP asked and she said yes.
What on earth do you think is going to happen?

It's no different to getting your hair done. It's just shaping your eyebrows.

This thread has just reminded me it’s been ten weeks since I had my eyebrows done and I’m way overdue an appt!

@BadLad Oh No. Now I feel very SLOW. It absolutely passed over my head. Duh.