Feel embarrassed? Was I in the wrong

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I normally go and get my eyebrows at the same place. I brought my kids with me. They only take cash, and the cash machine is literally two shops away, inside the mall. I have a double pram, one of my child wtrapped in, I said to the lady is it okay if I run and get the money and leave her with you. As soon as I left, her husband called me who was at the shop you needed to take your child with you, so angrily as if I'm being a bad mum, and neglecting my child for being two seconds. In hindsight maybe I am in the wrong, in my mind I have been there for years and would quickly rush and leave, rather than taking the pram out. I felt so shamed and embarrassed by the incident. Was I in the wrong,please be kind I already feel like a shit mum. I'm a single mother of two little one, and I must admit I already feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

I have my brows threaded/waxed & tinted monthly. And my lashes tinted. So shoot me.

I forgot to add above OP not to worry about it, we all make mistakes as parents.

As you know it’s cash only then you should have got some on the way there op- what if your child started screaming or crying? It’s inconsiderate to the other customers anyway

Why didn't you get the cash on the way??

YABU to leave your child with a complete stranger.

The husband was right to ring you.

It sounds like you put the women on the spot and their insurance probably doesn’t cover small children and if you claimed something happened to your child whilst at their business, they would at the very least lose customers.

Seriously this is why people are so depressed. It should be FINE to leave your little one with someone you know pretty well for TWO MINUTES while you nip to get some cash. We live in such a sad world where this is seen as horrendously inappropriate and like some awful faux pas and OP should be hanging her head in shame. As to why she didn’t have the cash- presumably she forgot to get some out, or thought she had some but didn’t then have enough, she is human!

Came on to say exactly this. Also if OP asked and the beautician said yes then I really don't see a problem. If the beautician can't say no then that's on her.

Please don’t worry OP. You didn’t do anything wrong. In a few weeks this will just be.a bad memory. In a few months it won’t matter.
💐 for you.

Weren't they fussing / crying while you had your brows done?

OP’s number would be in the booking calendar.

I have done this.
In Asda with a trolley of food and baby. Toddler needing a wee, so I the lovely staff at the customer service told me to take him while they watched baby.
All well.
Don't feel bad.

It wasn't a total stranger. It's a place OP goes to regularly.

Why should it be fine?

I have been on the receiving end of this and I don't want to take responsibility for someone else's child. Im not unkind, I just don't want it.

You should have got cash first and taken the children with you. You've been before so must have known it was cash only.

If the woman in the shop was not happy with it then she should have said so. Not agree and then let her husband call you to make you feel bad.

I know what you mean and if it was for half an hour or something I’d agree, I guess for me, a couple of minutes is just not a big deal- sounds like the child was in the pushchair, and worst case scenario they started to cry their mum would be back in no time.

It just feels like such a tiny and minor favour, one that actually makes quite a big difference to the Mum, it seems sad to me that it’s such a huge no-no to most people. Being honest I would never ask this favour of someone, because I’d worry the person would feel like those on this thread do, but I wish I lived in a world where more people would just help each other like this. Like I say- if the mum had said - ‘can I park her here for 20 mins while I get my food shopping’- then I’d agree that was inappropriate, but this just seems so simple to me and sad it’s such an issue.

Sorry I was trying to reply to madnesss there!

You left your child there as collateral, but they may have been worried you just weren't going to come back for them

If the woman agreed, and you were two minutes, then it was her h who was being U and rude.

I'd find somewhere else to get my eyebrows done, and I'd tell the woman why.

They lost my respect at “cash only”. I wouldn’t worry about their opinions of you x

It's standard practice to note phone numbers when making appointments.

I know it's not easy. I remember how hard it was being a single mum myself with a baby and a toddler.

I don't think you did anything wrong.
I'd just put it down to experience for next time.
I made so many mistakes when mine were little and found myself in lots of situations similar to yours. It doesn't make you a bad mum.

I think the woman's husband could have been more tactful about the way he told you.
Maybe it was some personal issue that made him overreact.
It could be anything. He and his wife may be struggling to conceive.
I'm just speculating, but what I'm trying to say is it wasn't your fault and you shouldn't blame yourself.
Just try to put it out of your mind and move on from it.

Its all a learning curve. I make mistakes all the time so please know you’re not alone.
Im sure you won’t leave your dc again like this, although I don’t think it’s that bad what you did at all. The husband doesn’t sound nice at all-I wouldn’t go there again.

Honestly, it won't have been two secs would it. He wouldn't have had time to notice, look up your number and call you if it had been that quick. You have been going for a while and knew it was cash only, why not go on the way.

I don't think you were neglectful, but no, I wouldn't have left my child.

YABU. You always get your eyebrows done at this place so you know they only take cash, you should have had it ready.

No, you should not have left your kids with her. That was wholly inappropriate. It would have been just as quick with a pram.

You also shouldn’t be taking your kids to a beauty place, either.

It was a mistake to do it and having ended up saving someone’s baby from tipping over in the pram and their toddler from falling downstairs in a beauty place while their Mum had something done (I was waiting for teen DD) it would have been better not taking the kids at all.
However, it doesn’t make you a shit Mum

The OP presumably knew as she goes there often