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Feel embarrassed? Was I in the wrong

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Bre10 · 30/10/2022 23:04

I normally go and get my eyebrows at the same place. I brought my kids with me. They only take cash, and the cash machine is literally two shops away, inside the mall. I have a double pram, one of my child wtrapped in, I said to the lady is it okay if I run and get the money and leave her with you. As soon as I left, her husband called me who was at the shop you needed to take your child with you, so angrily as if I'm being a bad mum, and neglecting my child for being two seconds. In hindsight maybe I am in the wrong, in my mind I have been there for years and would quickly rush and leave, rather than taking the pram out. I felt so shamed and embarrassed by the incident. Was I in the wrong,please be kind I already feel like a shit mum. I'm a single mother of two little one, and I must admit I already feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

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BoogieBoogieWoogie · 31/10/2022 07:15

The lady was working. She probably had a queue of clients waiting and should not be expected to stop what she’s doing while you walk over, queue for the cash point and return with her cash
YABU

luckylavender · 31/10/2022 07:15

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What's wrong with having your eyebrows done?!

ObiTwo · 31/10/2022 07:17

Keyansier · 30/10/2022 23:08

Who would you have to leave for heroin?

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Pegasushaswings · 31/10/2022 07:18

scarletisjustred · 31/10/2022 02:24

I wouldn't worry. She almost certainly requires cash because she is fiddling her income tax. People who do that should be careful not to annoy people unnecessarily. He should have held his tongue.

Haha, exactly what I was thinking.
OP, obviously you should have got the cash first but it’s hardly the worst thing in the world is it, he is an arse for being so rude and most people would do well to remember there was a time when we actually gave a shit about each other in society instead of giving women in particular a hard time over everything!

OriginalUsername3 · 31/10/2022 07:18

So she presumably agreed and then he took it upon himself to ring her customer and shout at her? Honestly I'm more worried about her because that's rather abusive steamroling there. I'm sure she was also humiliated

justusandmoo · 31/10/2022 07:18

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Lol. What a bloody ridiculous comment 😂.

RelentlessForwardProgress · 31/10/2022 07:18

Shouldbedoing · 30/10/2022 23:06

Perfectly normal to leave a tot in a pram as a deposit and also for speed. Don't worry. He was being a grump. You did nothing wrong xxx

It really isn't normal to leave young children like this!!

I was once in a cafe in the third floor of a shop, their card machine had broke but they didn't know until I went to pay. The staff member offered to look after my two year old as otherwise I'd have to carry him down the stairs to get cash out, carry him back up two flights of stairs to pay, then carry him back down two flights of stairs again.....not a chance in hell I was leaving him alone with some random.

DarkNecessities · 31/10/2022 07:21

Personally, I don’t see a problem with it.

Also, absolutely no reason you shouldn’t be getting your eyebrows done or taking your DCs to a beauty place!

I would question why they only take cash tbh.

billy1966 · 31/10/2022 07:21

Of course not.

Horrible man.

I was out for lunch the other day with my husband and there was a young couple trying to have lunch with a young baby in a pram.

The owner came over and offered a staff member to bring the baby for a walk so they could eat in peace.

They handed over the baby gratefully in a blink.

I thought it was so kind.

Horrible nasty man.

Aprilx · 31/10/2022 07:22

AliceAbsolum · 31/10/2022 00:30

I think it's fine and the husband was being OTT about being responsible for the child for 2 min

No he was the only person that did the right thing here. The woman should have said no too and OP did nearly everything wrong, turning up without cash in a cash only establishment (as bizarre as that is in 2022), turning up to a beauticians with children, then asking strangers to look after them.

DarkNecessities · 31/10/2022 07:23

Also OP. I try to live my life by the mantra that it’s probably about them and not me.

It’s not always easy but is generally true.

tuvamoodyson · 31/10/2022 07:30

YABU

Itsbadbitchoclockyeahitsthickthirty · 31/10/2022 07:38

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LOL who shat in your cornflakes this morning!

SlurpSlooChortle · 31/10/2022 07:43

Slightly diverting the thread but it was a gamble that the cash point wasn't on the blink!
The one near me is almost constantly broken.

Butterflywing · 31/10/2022 07:53

All this angst and hassle for eyebrows??! Completely missed point of thread

Widgets · 31/10/2022 07:57

How long did it take you to get cash?Assuming it was more than 2 mins?!
As the husband had time to notice your baby was alone, question his wife, notice you had not returned and then find your number and call you. How long did you actually leave your baby for?!?
YABU

Glitteratitar · 31/10/2022 07:57

You’ve been going there for years and knew it’s cash only. Why didn’t you get your cash out beforehand? That makes no sense.

Also surprised the husband has your number. Many of these threading places never ask for a number…

WhoooohMatron · 31/10/2022 08:03

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Are you always such a knob?

Cr3ateAUsername · 31/10/2022 08:06

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Oh get a grip!

Mycatsgoldtooth · 31/10/2022 08:07

I think it’s fine and the husband was OTT. Just take your custom somewhere else x

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 31/10/2022 08:14

Such incidents are bound to be very upsetting OP, but please try not to let it get to you. If you’d asked first, and they knew you, I don’t see that you did anything wrong

‘Cash only’ always makes me think they’re on the fiddle. TBH the only place I know that does it is an restaurant (SE Asian food) where we’ve been more than once with dd and family.
To be fair, the service is very quick, the food is very good, and it’s cheap!

5yearplan · 31/10/2022 08:15

You can’t do that!

fortheloveofflowers · 31/10/2022 08:38

You asked and she says yes 🤷‍♀️

By the way, none of us know what we are doing when parenting, especially when kids are very young. I’m sure you are doing a great job. It’s really hard on your own. Of your children are fed, played with and happy then that’s all that matters.

ABBAsnumberonefan · 31/10/2022 08:39

You should’ve already had the cash out. Presumably you’re not the only customer she has and you were unfair to have left your children with her.

Wombat100 · 31/10/2022 08:40

I think it depends on how well you know the brow lady and whether or not she said it was fine to pop out for two minutes.

If you’ve known her years and she said yes - I don’t personally see the problem. The husband sounds like a knob - he should stop fiddling his taxes and get a machine for card payments.