Feel embarrassed? Was I in the wrong

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I normally go and get my eyebrows at the same place. I brought my kids with me. They only take cash, and the cash machine is literally two shops away, inside the mall. I have a double pram, one of my child wtrapped in, I said to the lady is it okay if I run and get the money and leave her with you. As soon as I left, her husband called me who was at the shop you needed to take your child with you, so angrily as if I'm being a bad mum, and neglecting my child for being two seconds. In hindsight maybe I am in the wrong, in my mind I have been there for years and would quickly rush and leave, rather than taking the pram out. I felt so shamed and embarrassed by the incident. Was I in the wrong,please be kind I already feel like a shit mum. I'm a single mother of two little one, and I must admit I already feel like I don't know what I'm doing.

My first thought is why didnt you get money first?

My second thought is if you are a regular you know this woman so not a stranger? (my 'hairdresser' was also my best friend, she would have jumped at the chance to watch my kid because she loves babies/toddlers and was always asking to see them more).

My third thought is the evasive way its written though, what did the 'lady' actually reply to your question?

Just don't go back. There was no need for them to be rude even if they were unhappy or nipped out after you to tell you. So they obviously don't want your business again. Their choice.

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OP, YABU for feeling the need to interfere with your eyebrows. I am sure the ones you were born with are perfectly nice. You're also giving your children the idea that women aren't fine the way they are.

You were also BU for leaving your child in the eyebrow place, but there was no harm done so I'd just move on.

If he was at the shop, it also put him in a risky position. No man wants a stranger's young child left unattended in his presence. He could have been accused of anything. His wife should have had more sense. That's if she even said "yes". Were you already half out the door when you said, "I'll just leave her here. Back in a sec..." ?

All he did was tell you that you needed to take your child with you, and he is right really. All the "Horrible nasty man" stuff is ridiculous.

Respectfully and kindly I don't think it was the best idea. Try and get the cash before hand next time. I doubt that you are a rubbish mum. You are also looking after yourself too. It's so important us mums keep ourselves feeling good too. Getting my eyebrows done with a 5 month old screaming was a nightmare. Learnt some lessons. We try things, we're not gonna always get it rights it is ok xx

I wouldn't of done it, but my job means safeguarding is uppermost in my mind. My partner admitted to leaving out sleeping son in the showroom, with the women there obviously, whilst he had a look round one of the show houses. I couldn't believe my ears. However, the husband was unreasonable, as you did ask. He could of had a quiet, friendly word, on your return. Forget about it.

I wouldn’t do this. I think it’s dangerous and irresponsible. Sorry.

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OK, I wouldn't have left my child, OP, but there's no excuse for rudeness to a customer. I think he deserved to be told 'And you need to get a card machine and get with the 21st century!'

And go elsewhere next time.

OP, YABU for feeling the need to interfere with your eyebrows. I am sure the ones you were born with are perfectly nice. You're also giving your children the idea that women aren't fine the way they are.

agree! Why the need to ‘get eyebrows’ when you were born with eyebrows? There’s no way I’d go to a cash only place either! Screams ‘tax dodger’ to me in this day and age where card payments are easier and easier!

I would have done the same.

I would probably take my business elsewhere next time mind. What a rude man

just more of the crap us mums have to deal with! Be strong, you’re doing just fine x

Ach no harm done OP, don’t beat yourself up about it. I work in insurance for my sins and I think that’s the reason the husband didn’t like it - if anything had gone wrong they would be at risk of the policy not paying out because this would breach the terms.

Never mind, we live and learn.

Also ignore the weird posts about eyebrows! Bet yours look lovely.

Exactly, completely irresponsible of you to leave your child in some strangers care even if it's for 2 seconds.

What a dense thing to say. I don’t get my eyebrows done but I can understand why people do. Do you just wander around dirty and naked? I mean, that’s how you were born and how you were meant to live, so I guess you don’t wash, put on clothes, ever remove any armpit or leg hair, ever brush your hair etc….

"2 seconds" 🙄

You need to put this down to a misunderstanding rather than beat yourself up over it.

You could always find a Spanish speaking beautician and ask if you can leave your kids there for a few hours every day………

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Him calling you angrily, when you'd asked, is awful, I wouldn't go back there next time. You did not do anything wrong, you asked, she said yes!

Why did mumsnet delete the comment about eyebrow waxing being vain? Silly comment but not sure what it was violating?

The eyebrow critics on here are a very strange breed. I particularly wonder what is their motive for having a go at a stressed mum because she dares to treat herself to a beauty treatment.

Nobody asked or is interested in your weird opinions on whether she should get her eyebrows done you miserable sods, find someone to kick.

*someone else

I hate it when customers take their children to beauty appointments, it's so selfish. As for the money situation if you must have them with you at least be organised and get the money out beforehand. Too many women expect others to be responsible for their children because of their own disorganisation.

Well there’s asking and there’s asking isn’t there. It could have been
”I just need to go and get your money, won’t be long so I will leave the kids here -ok? Bye”
Technically that’s asking

Ha! Hardly the same. Some things are basic personal hygiene, and are also partly to do with not offending other people <imagines bollocks and boobs freely dangling around Tesco>

Fake eyebrows are in neither of those categories. They are on a par with lip fillers as "things that women really don't need".