Sunday dinner ... Guilt.

[Rabbitheadlights]

Asking really to find out what the hell is wrong with me? I make a roast on a Sunday EVERY week and not just a basic one either, Rain or Shine, hell or high water in sickness and health.

But my kids don't really care they can take it or leave it.

So why if I don't do it, do I feel this weird guilty type feeling, asthough I'm letting them down somehow? It's ridiculous!

Can I come?

You've probably made it into something in your head that you see as being a symbol of a 'good family' or 'good mum'.

Try and let it go. My mum barely ever made a roast and we never cared. It's just food not a representation of your motherhood.

We have a Sunday roast if ds is here but otherwise we don't. Why don't you do one once a month instead?

I didn't know how to vote - but roast dinners on a Sunday are a tradition that died in my life once I left home aged 18. I'd rather eat what I want, when I want.

I'm 64 and I see the Sunday roast as a bit of an "old fogey" tradition, to be honest!

My mum was a bit of a martyr like this. Nobody was that bothered by a roast, would much prefer something a bit more exciting, but she would insist on one every Sunday. Our household has one at Christmas, then maybe at Easter - that’s it!

I love a roast, it doesn't feel like Sunday for me without one. We cook one even if the kids aren't home.

They might appreciate it in retrospect though? That's what I am hoping when I cook for my DCs! I have family meals that signify my childhood that i recall so fondly. Chocolate cheesecake; meatball and pasta soup; semolina gnocchi - chicken crepes. DH's mother was (in my view) a less accomplished cook but he recalls beetroot and white sauce [boak] with much happiness.

Maybe have a sunday roast once a month and see if they comment? Sounds like there is a bit of taking you for granted going on!

To be honest once the kids are teens they'd rather get a 3 in 1 or dominoes

I never understand how Christmas feels special to people who have a roast every week.

What's a 3 in 1? 😂

I do a roast whenever I feel like it, not on a certain day.

I’ve never made a Sunday roast in my life and I’m pretty sure I’m not a bad mum!

Mine love a Sunday roast and will come home for it. If they didn't I wouldn't do it.

I’m exactly the same- I also get really aggrieved if something disrupts my Sunday- so birthday parties and clubs etc, friends trying to arrange to come over (if I don’t want them for a roast!)- it’s illogical. My children weren’t really bothered either, but now they are slightly older they get a bit annoyed if we miss our roast day. I don’t think it’s the food, it’s just the whole ritual of it. Having an early glass of wine whilst I’m cooking, the children making the yorkshires, the fact they have their veg in one sitting, sitting round the table chatting, no one asking to get down from the table and then cleaning it all up for a game of cards. It’s literally my idea of the perfect family day and I love it. It would 100% be my last supper. Just embrace it! X

3 in 1 is the local takeaway who does curries, kebabs and pizzas. A munchy box (in a bus sheltar)from them is much more appealing to kids than a roast with the family.
Were you never young @Rabbitheadlights ?

This! And falls into Martyr category. I would be utterly sick of eating the same thing every single week or know that Sunday means roast day. I'm certain your kids would like a choice in what they eat too.

I’m the same. I feel very guilty if I don’t have time or am too tired to cook a roast dinner on a Sunday (I work shifts including weekends.) I love it when I have a Sunday off and can roast a chicken and feed my teen boys a wholesome roast dinner.

I have just always enjoyed a roast dinner on a Sunday. It doesn’t truly feel like Sunday without one.

But I don't find it a faff.

Meat in, spuds par boiled, whacked into sizzling fat. I do the veg as soon as and once cooked the serving dishes go in the microwave. Same if I make onion sauce and yorkers are frozen or ready made.

Sit down for an hour. Take meat out to rest put spuds in serving dish and leave on low. Make gravy. DC have to set table, DH carves and they wash up.

Not much more trouble than a spag bol and seems simpler than a lasagne from.scratch.

Gravy also comes in "extra special" plastic tubs.

I don't do one every week because there is only me DH and DD in the house. I do enjoy one though, but it's a lot of faff when I'd rather be relaxing on a Sunday.

I’ve never made a Sunday roast. Can’t be arsed. Pretty sure I’m an ok mum though!

My mum used to do a roast without fail every Sunday. For me it just added to the dull dragging school tomorrow last of the summer wine feeling so I rarely make one!

Same. Find them depressing. Sundays are a much happier day without them.

Also does it mean that you never go anywhere, because you need to be faffing around?

Our kids love a roast dinner, they are at uni now and come home specifically asking if we'll have a roast on Sunday.

We don't always have one, but do by special request...

MIL is coming today and I'm doing her favourite fish fingers, proper deep fried chips and (tesco) baked beans...

she can't manage cooking and the carers just pop a meal from the freezer (I send her home with cottage pie, hotpot, curry, pasta bake etc as I make an extra portion of what we have and freeze it) into the microwave for her.

So we have moved on from roast dinners really, it does feel weird having fish fingers for Sunday lunch, but hey ho...

I only cook one when I feel like doing it, rarely when on request from anyone else.
Today we’re having beef stew in the slow cooker with crusty bread. I chucked everything in together first thing, that’s the extent of cooking today for me 😊