Am I stingy? Boyfriend says i am?

[llpoolj]

My boyfriend lives with me.
He earns £700 more than me a month.
He is always "skint"
He said he needed £20 for his phone.
So I said "il take it out of my savings account,just give me it on Monday when you get paid"
So then today he borrows another £10 and says so that's £310 I owe you Monday (£300 half of rent and bills )
I say no £330 ...£20 for phone too
He said "really ,your going to take that off me"
"I only topped up because you wanted me too"
(He didn't -he told me he needed to top up"
So he says "you know I would give you my last"
I said I buy you so much
I spent £10 buying him McDonald's today,I bought the food all week
I spent £170 last week on concert tickets for his birthday -then 2 hoodies for his birthday.
I reminded him of this and he says "no you can't class the tickets for my birthday -you wanted to go too"
I also bought us Xmas pjs for £30 two days ago

So how does he have the audacity to say I'm tight?
I just wanted it back to in my savings.
I'm feeling shitty and horrible now
I'm honestly not tight -I just don't want to get the mick took out of me

We go on holiday in two weeks
I've bought the sun tan lotion,after sun,case straps ,case locks ,luggage tags ,case scales,I bought him shorts for holiday and 2 tees and god knows what else

He earns more than you so it's a choice not to buy new clothes (and it might be a good one if he doesn't need them) - let him complain.

Cover your share of the joint expenses and nothing else for a couple of months so it's clear how much you've been subsidising him. Does he ever lend you money?

You need to get yourself out of this set up. I hope you aren't considering marriage and children.

Get a refund on the Christmas PJ's OP, you won't be needing them.

That is if you have an ounce of self respect.

Let him moan ? Or keep a spread sheet and show him how you do x,

I stopped reading after the Xmas PJs bit.

Which are you subsidising, coke or gambling? 🤨

Seriously, do not become financially linked with this man!

You know he is a cocklodger, OP.

OP, you are an idiot.

You say he 'lives with you' - you need to change that to 'lives somewhere else', and do it ASAP before he bleeds you white financially.

The concert tickets is a bit of a present to yourself then. I hate it when people do this.

But apart from that, you're being treated like a mug and not even appreciated.

However, your comment that you'll take the £20 out of your savings account is a bit weird. You don't have £20 in your current account?!! (if you don't, you need to stop funding him). Or were you passive-aggressively trying to prove a point?

Exhausting.

Are you so desperate for a boyfriend that you’ll pay him to be yours?

He is making a mug out of you and finds it amusing to do so.

Cancel the holiday and take a friend.

He lives with you in your house?

He's a cocklodger. I'd ask him to move out.

@TheRossatron This is spot on - OP do yourself a favour and get rid .. pronto

This!! Also if he earns more than you, and needs to lend a tenner.... suspect things. I mean what the hell is he spending the money on? Does he have secret debts, or a problem like gambling? This would send me into detective mode to be honest. Big hugs xx

OP please google the lyrics to the TLC single No Scrubs and reflect on its timeless message

My ex was like this. I put up with it nearly 5 years on and off. He never paid for so much as a bottle of water, mug here paid for the lot and I’m a single mum ( he had no kids) it won’t get better op

@HundredMilesAnHour no ,I knew if I took it out of my current account I wouldn't get it back
I thought if I said it was from my savings account he would Pay me back

You can have a relationship without living together you know, bet it was his idea to move in.

How are you attracted to him? It’s all a bit bank of mum and dad isn’t it, ask for loan then make them feel mean if they have the audacity to ask for it back.
he’s a scummy freeloader who tries to manipulate you into proving to him you’re not tight by making you feel unreasonable when you want your money back. He knows he wants you to pay his way when he asks, what sort of a man would allow you to deplete your savings for him?

You don’t trust him, you had to create false urgency to get him to be reasonable and pay you back.

He's gaslighting you , it will only get worse. He is the tight one. How long have you been together?

You're definitely not stingy!

You buy him plenty. Far more than he deserves.

What has he bought you?

Also you have savings and he clearly doesn't.

What is he spending all his money on that he is constantly running out?

Where do you live that £300 is half of rent and bills or are you subsidising him there too!

You're not tight. He's a freeloader/cocklodger/sponger. Take your pick. LTB.