Am I stingy? Boyfriend says i am?

[llpoolj]

My boyfriend lives with me.
He earns £700 more than me a month.
He is always "skint"
He said he needed £20 for his phone.
So I said "il take it out of my savings account,just give me it on Monday when you get paid"
So then today he borrows another £10 and says so that's £310 I owe you Monday (£300 half of rent and bills )
I say no £330 ...£20 for phone too
He said "really ,your going to take that off me"
"I only topped up because you wanted me too"
(He didn't -he told me he needed to top up"
So he says "you know I would give you my last"
I said I buy you so much
I spent £10 buying him McDonald's today,I bought the food all week
I spent £170 last week on concert tickets for his birthday -then 2 hoodies for his birthday.
I reminded him of this and he says "no you can't class the tickets for my birthday -you wanted to go too"
I also bought us Xmas pjs for £30 two days ago

So how does he have the audacity to say I'm tight?
I just wanted it back to in my savings.
I'm feeling shitty and horrible now
I'm honestly not tight -I just don't want to get the mick took out of me

We go on holiday in two weeks
I've bought the sun tan lotion,after sun,case straps ,case locks ,luggage tags ,case scales,I bought him shorts for holiday and 2 tees and god knows what else

Yes you can. By kicking his lazy cheap ass to the kerb.

Why the hell are you enabling this guy? He's taking you for a fool and you're letting him.

Unless you’re both very financially secure you seem to spend a lot of money on ‘stuff’… I’ve never bought case scales in my life, for example, and that’s a lot of money to spend on an adults birthday (concert tickets and hoodies).
He’s taking the piss though. I’d get rid.

You are a mug with a cocklodger. More fool you.

I think no one else pointed out the specific technicality, that his concert ticket benefits him rather than her.

I know it's blindingly obvious, but gas-lighters say blindingly obvious bullshit so often that people sometimes stop noticing what bullshit it is.

He's sponging off you - get rid

Stop being a mug, get rid.

So what if he doesn't have any new clothes for his holiday.

More fool you.

Bastard. He wants you to do without so that he can buy himself nice things. Get rid of him.

He’s greedy. Saying a ticket doesn’t count as a gift at all because you bought both and only one is for him is greedy. You still bought him one. If that’s his logic then hold him to it: he can pay for his own ticket. Once he’s paid you, you can use that to buy him a gift that he thinks counts.

YANBU. Stop bunging him money when he earns more and tell him to manage his own extra budget of £700 better so he’s not constantly scrounging from you. If he’d ‘give you his last’ then why is he seemingly the only one who needs bailing out as he’s unable to cough up a tenner?

He's either got loads of savings and will just spend all your money while saving his, or has spent all his money and now he's going to spend all yours.

Either way, he's not the sort of person you want to be financially involved with.

It comes under the rule of “tough shit” . He won’t learn if you keep bailing him out.

He sounds like a scrounger who is out to bleed you dry

So his money is his...and your money is also his?

If he does a lot for you such as cooking, cleaning, making you feel special etc then just say you are broke too so can't help this time (repeat repeat repeat), and wait to see how long it takes him to leave. Because he will.

If he does nothing except spend your money then kick him out now. He's a classic cocklodger and not worth it.

Why is he on a phone top up not a contract if he earns £700 more than you, so presumably an ok wage? I can only assume shit credit. SO RUN.....

He’s taking the piss out of you. Stop financing his life while he stashes away the pounds!

Tough. He should be better at managing his money then. You aren't his mother.

You're being taken for a mug.

If he was single all of a sudden he'd find a way to manage and would buy his own clothes.

Walk away.

He sounds like a childish ass. Why are you with him? What does he bring to your life???

If they don’t class as a Birthday gift, then don’t give him one, tell him that you will take a friend instead! Would I f@@k give him a ticket after he had said that!

To be honest op, things don’t sound great. You know you aren’t stingy, he’s the stingy one. Would he ever buy you a concert ticket or some clothes? I’m pretty sure the answer to that is no! He probably has a sizeable savings account as you seem to spend a lot of your money on him, which he doesn’t reciprocate.

I would start saving my money, instead of spending it on him, if I were you. However, be prepared for your relationship ending, when he finds that you are no longer using your money to subsidise him!

You can win, grow a pair and talk to him.

Well that's just tough tits then.
He'll have to dress in rags.

I'd return anything with a receipt tbh.

He's rinsing you for everything he can. If he earns that much more, he should have stuff left and be saving.... Get out before you're saddled with a mortgage, baby or marriage

Just stop it, you gullible fool.

It doesn't matter why he's bad with money, what else he's spending his money on, what he wants, or what he thinks about your spending habits. That's all with him. None of that is your concern.

Stand firm, be fair - to yourself.

You are far from stingy but he is. Can't bear to think about what he'll want you to spend on him when you're on holiday together. Say goodbye to any savings you have left.

Am I the only one amazed that half of rent and bills is £300 a month? 😱