Am I stingy? Boyfriend says i am?

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My boyfriend lives with me.
He earns £700 more than me a month.
He is always "skint"
He said he needed £20 for his phone.
So I said "il take it out of my savings account,just give me it on Monday when you get paid"
So then today he borrows another £10 and says so that's £310 I owe you Monday (£300 half of rent and bills )
I say no £330 ...£20 for phone too
He said "really ,your going to take that off me"
"I only topped up because you wanted me too"
(He didn't -he told me he needed to top up"
So he says "you know I would give you my last"
I said I buy you so much
I spent £10 buying him McDonald's today,I bought the food all week
I spent £170 last week on concert tickets for his birthday -then 2 hoodies for his birthday.
I reminded him of this and he says "no you can't class the tickets for my birthday -you wanted to go too"
I also bought us Xmas pjs for £30 two days ago

So how does he have the audacity to say I'm tight?
I just wanted it back to in my savings.
I'm feeling shitty and horrible now
I'm honestly not tight -I just don't want to get the mick took out of me

We go on holiday in two weeks
I've bought the sun tan lotion,after sun,case straps ,case locks ,luggage tags ,case scales,I bought him shorts for holiday and 2 tees and god knows what else

Yeah it’s not an ideal relationship.

You shouldn’t need to tot up all the little bits of money. He shouldn’t be borrowing so much

What are the odds he's got money stashed in his bank account and its just easier to "borrow" OP's and argue the toss later about whether it's "fair" he pays it back?

If he thinks you're stingy, be stingy; stop lending him money. (Better still, get rid)

Are you serious?

No one's forcing you to buy clothes for this grown man with a job and £700pm more income than you. If you choose to then that's up to you.

I would find his moaning so unattractive.

Once he has paid up on Monday - everything he owes - tell him to make sure he has holiday spends as you won't be subbing him. Take the pyjamas and holiday clothes back if they still have tags - and stop spending your money on this idiot - he is using you!

£300 for board, lodgings, anything else he fancies, sex on tap - and I bed you do all the cooking and cleaning too... he's got you for a right mug!

Ugggghhh HOW can you want to sleep with him, he sounds awful!!

Yes you can win - get rid of him , for goodness sake don’t marry him!

Oh and his concert ticket is definitely his birthday present... or you'll go with someone else! (Or he can paynfor his ticket and you'll get him a different present if he prefers..)

So he doesn't class you paying £170 for tickets for you both to go to the concert as a gift? He wants you to buy him something else too?

Honesty, it sounds very much like he's the tight one and he's just after whatever he can get from you once he's spent his own money on himself.

How long have you been together? This really doesn't sound like a mutually caring relationship and you really don't want to get into the situation where you a baby with this person who needs to be financially provided for.

I can't even imagine why you're with him at all. You must have MUG tattooed on your forehead.

Exactly, why would you waste your life with a pathetic wanker like that

Who tops their phone up anyway when you get sim only for a fiver month

More fool you,

I had one like this. His extra money was going up his nose or over the bar for booze.

What attracted you to him?

He can’t afford to go on holiday then. Go with someone else; they might also enjoy the concert.

This. Get rid ASAP. He's using you.

How does £300 per month cover half the rent and bills? Unless you are sharing a room in a flatshare? Is that really the same as what you're paying every month?

Anyway, yeah, get rid. He's financially abusing you.

OP tell him you earn £700 less than him per month and have no savings so can’t continue to give him money. I would be really concerned about what he’s doing with his money. How are you on 700 less but able to save and he has nothing? Sounds like a nightmare I would want to be rid of

His personality seems deeply unattractive. Am also wondering how you can have sex with a greedy, selfish man-child. Yuk!

Oh OP can you really and truly not see that you are subsidising a freeloader??

FGS dump this sorry sack of shit (after he's repaid his debt to you), raise your bar and your self esteem.

Get rid of this sponger.

@Itsallyellow22 he won't buy anything ,then he will complain that I have new clothes and he has nothing.
I can't win

So? Let him moan. I don't understand the problem?

Why am I the only one seeing what obvious bullshit this is?

If he wants to be petty, he can claim your concert ticket isn't a gift to him.

For his concert ticket not to be a gift to him, he would have to hate the band and only be going with you because you couldn't enjoy it without his company.

So?
Why do you think you are responsible if he doesn't have new clothes?

I think almost everyone on this thread thinks it’s bullshit. Why do you think you’re a lone voice?

Yep.