Am I stingy? Boyfriend says i am?

[llpoolj]

My boyfriend lives with me.
He earns £700 more than me a month.
He is always "skint"
He said he needed £20 for his phone.
So I said "il take it out of my savings account,just give me it on Monday when you get paid"
So then today he borrows another £10 and says so that's £310 I owe you Monday (£300 half of rent and bills )
I say no £330 ...£20 for phone too
He said "really ,your going to take that off me"
"I only topped up because you wanted me too"
(He didn't -he told me he needed to top up"
So he says "you know I would give you my last"
I said I buy you so much
I spent £10 buying him McDonald's today,I bought the food all week
I spent £170 last week on concert tickets for his birthday -then 2 hoodies for his birthday.
I reminded him of this and he says "no you can't class the tickets for my birthday -you wanted to go too"
I also bought us Xmas pjs for £30 two days ago

So how does he have the audacity to say I'm tight?
I just wanted it back to in my savings.
I'm feeling shitty and horrible now
I'm honestly not tight -I just don't want to get the mick took out of me

We go on holiday in two weeks
I've bought the sun tan lotion,after sun,case straps ,case locks ,luggage tags ,case scales,I bought him shorts for holiday and 2 tees and god knows what else

I bet he saw you coming! You're a big, juicy cash cow.

So you say ‘well buy some then’.

He’s a grown adult ffs. You don’t have to do everything to him.

*for

Screwing your son is incest.

I mean - buying him holiday clothes. You’re his mum, right? 🤮

Sounds like projection to me. He knows he’s the one with the problem with money. Hold your nerve, and don’t lend him any more.

Jeez what you doing, paying for him and letting him gaslight you to give him more. He’s proper taking you for a mug.

He is totally financially irresponsible and you are subsiding him when he earns notably more than you.

Just stop spending your money on him!

I don’t think OP was expecting us to be quite so robust!

and stop looking to male approval for the source of your self-esteem.

Dump him and get yourself a decent boyfriend. Your bar is set really low if that is the best you can get. Please don’t have kids with the tight bastard. There’s another thread on here where the op pays for everything while the dp saves most of his salary. He even refused to buy the kids their Christmas presents and doesn’t contribute to the food that he eats. You really don’t want to end up in a situation like that so get rid now.

I agree with him that I wouldn't expect or ask for £20 back from a partner.

But this is about a lot more than £20....

No, you’re not stingy.

You are a fool, though.

Quick summary of what will continue to be said:
Dump his sorry arse
Has he got a golden cock?
Don't have children with this man
He's shown you who he is

If you are posting on MN, I hope you have read enough on similar situations to show you that this won't end well and heed what is said

You are his enabler/provider, and now the grabby git is guilt tripping you for not providing more and more.

Well, now you know that you can't buy love OR respect.

there are 2 major issues here.

1. he’s taking the piss and massively taking financial advantage of you in general by the sounds of it
2. calling you stingy is a tactic. He’s being deliberately manipulative so that you’ll want to prove him wrong and keep the cash flow going…

Your boyfriend is a cocklodger and you need to stop giving him money.

i am mid 40s and have travelled plenty. I don’t own case straps, lock and scales. You can buy su cream and aftersún abroad you know!
Are you buying him things he doesn’t want to spend money on??

He earns more than you and you are giving him money for phone credit and a mcdonalds!? He sounds 16 years old ffs. You are not stingy at all.

Take someone else, get a refund or sell them on. Sorry OP but he's a selfish ass who is taking advantage of you. You can do so much better than this poor excuse of a boyfriend.

He's disgusting. Mean and sneaky.

Just ditch him.

Learn the lesson he's teaching you: He's irresponsible with money. Save yourself years of grief and leave him now. Next time, hold out for someone who shares your values, including your attitudes towards finances, saving, spending, etc.

You’re a mug, he’s a dick.

end it and you’ll save yourself a fortune

Pack that lovely new case you have bought him and kick him the fuck out.

What does he pay for?

Next time he asks for money say no, you’re overdrawn. Every. Single. Time.