to think it's unreasonable to expect young teenagers to bring alcohol to the party

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My dd went to her friend's 17th birthday party. This has been planned for a while and we'd had brief chat a few days ago about whether there would be alcohol and she said yes. She's pretty sensible and has access to alcohol at home, but isn't interested and has never abused it, so I wasn't particularly concerned. Also, as it was a house party with the parents there I thought perhaps there'd be a few token beers, wine spritzers and soft drinks.

The parents had provided wine, gin, beers etc. and when this had finished they had to go out to buy more, but before doing so the mother who was clearly angry
shouted at the children they were all rude for not bringing a bottle as it was etiquette to do so.

Surely you wouldn't expect teenagers to think to take a bottle. She didn't go empty handed she took a birthday gift and card. She had two glasses of wine, so nothing excessive, but is upset for her friend who was embarrassed.

My kids always took their own alcohol to parties at that age, as did I many years ago.

Yep house party as an adult and teen you bring a bottle

Mine always took drinks to parties at that age, as did i many moons ago.

House parties were always being your own bottle.

I'm torn but yes ....they're of the student age group where BYOB is (was) par for the course.

I was surprised that the parents had provided gin...posher than parties I went to.

House party when old enough to drink = take some drinks with you.

i used to take a pack of Smirnoff ice

I always provided DS with a couple of bottles of cider for such occasions, mainly to steer him away from the vodka!

Mine always did

Yes, you bring a bottle or a six pack of beers.

I’d expected 17 year olds to bring booze to that sort of party. That’s not a young teenager, that’s an almost adult. If I was the parent in that situation though I’d provide a bit and when it was gone it was gone. I wouldn’t have got annoyed and I wouldn’t have bought more.

Yeah I think most people would bring a bottle to a house party, even a teenage party

I'm on the fence here. When DD was going to parties at that age everyone took alcohol. I provided soft drinks, but definitely did not provide any spirits.

Yes I remember taking alcopops with me to friends parties at 16 and 17

Yep always BYOB

Yep definitely BYOB, my parents used to give me a couple of bottles of cheap plonk - usually echo falls to take!

I never went to a house party where the parents were in the house much of the time, I'm not sure they were aware of the party at all....

There're not children at that age, they are young adults which is what I keep being reminded by my DD who is roughly the same age.

DD has always taken alcohol with her, as did I at that age. If I was the party girls mum I'd have said once it's gone it's gone though, definitely would not have gone out to get the little darlings more!

No, not that she should have shouted, but at that age I think they should bring some with them.

As an aside, 17 isn't a "young teenager" by any definition.

In what world is a 17 year old a "young teenager"?
Parties at that age have always been BYOB.

Definitely should be bringing own booze, 17 is not a young teen at all.

If you're old enough to drink, you're old enough to BYOB. I feel sorry for the birthday girl but the party goers should have taken their own beers. Also 17 is very normal to take beers to a mates.

Tricky age.

I wouldn't be wanting to provide excessive alcohol for that age group, but equally I wouldn't want to expect underage people to buy and bring alcohol.

I think the DM shouldn't have bought more alcohol, just said that she bought enough for everyone to have a couple of drinks and the bar was finished.

You ALWAYS bring a bottle. Basic manners.

Of course, it’s a teen house party, presumably all the kids and parents knew there was booze - so you bring some. It’s on you that she didn’t, because she can’t be expected to know this stuff.