to think it's unreasonable to expect young teenagers to bring alcohol to the party

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My dd went to her friend's 17th birthday party. This has been planned for a while and we'd had brief chat a few days ago about whether there would be alcohol and she said yes. She's pretty sensible and has access to alcohol at home, but isn't interested and has never abused it, so I wasn't particularly concerned. Also, as it was a house party with the parents there I thought perhaps there'd be a few token beers, wine spritzers and soft drinks.

The parents had provided wine, gin, beers etc. and when this had finished they had to go out to buy more, but before doing so the mother who was clearly angry
shouted at the children they were all rude for not bringing a bottle as it was etiquette to do so.

Surely you wouldn't expect teenagers to think to take a bottle. She didn't go empty handed she took a birthday gift and card. She had two glasses of wine, so nothing excessive, but is upset for her friend who was embarrassed.

So what exactly is your problem?

or point

Giving a child alcohol from your home to take to someone else’s home is perfectly legal

Sorry I thought ‘Their kids are probably as boring as them’ was a reference to their teens being boring.

maybe you can read the chain and context before jumping in next time

saves you looking like a tool

I don’t understand why you are quite so rude across numerous threads, it does read that you are calling non drinking teens boring but you can’t stand by that can you so you attack me, go away.

It reads like that to you

someone who didn’t bother to read the post I was replying to

context is key and reading is fundamental

I asked a question, you answered, I apologised, you called me a tool, just stop taking this so seriously.

If you are old enough to drink alcohol at a party and you had clearly accepted she would be, then of course she takes her own.
The only difference between this scenerio and an "adult" party as it more accepted that they take any unfinished alcohol they brought with them

I always took alcohol, if you are old enough to drink at parties you are old enough to bring your own booze

And you are no better than a playground bully, I will name change just to get you to leave me alone but yet I have no life 😨 Would be funny if it weren’t so indicative of how people like you operate.

Noone is shocked that teenagers drink, do you think we live under a rock 😆 it's that someone would firstly supply alcohol to underage teenagers without their parents knowledge or permission and secondly start giving off at the kids for not turning up with more alcohol to drink before going out and getting them more, again without their parents knowledge and permission. How do they know the kids didn't turn up without alcohol because their parents had refused to buy it for them as is their right as a parent. Plus as a youth worker I've seen plenty of young people end up hospitalised or end up in really dodgy situations because they didn't know their limits at that age. The host parents providing the alcohol are leaving themselves wide open. I have no issue with them giving their own teen alcohol to drink and providing soft drinks for the rest but I wouldn't have been buying other teens alcohol if they didn't come with it in the first place. Plus we've all been at parties at that age that got out of control because of the alcohol and the teens not being aware enough to handle it.

Quite a few posters are indeed surprised teens drink

i think you need to read the thread properly

no one has mentioned about the host parents giving the guests alcohol at all.

Leave you alone?

Says the person continually goading across multiple threads

pathetic

I've read the whole thread lol have you? Because there's a few people talking about the host parents and noone being shocked that young people drink.... kind of sounds like you're deliberately missing the point here.

As a parent I wouldn't assume that another parent would willingly be providing alcohol at a 17th (probably as I wouldn't do it myself for others teens) and I wouldn't assume they'd be happy for my kid to turn up with alcohol to drink at their house either. I think that's definitely part of the argument because it shows how different parents have different standards and expectations/perspectives. Its funny how you are criticising other posters for getting wound up over this but you're the one being rude and insulting with your responses and attempting to make it personal if anyone disagrees with you. For that reason I also will not be engaging with you anymore.

I wouldn't class a 17 yo as a young teenager so if going to a party where drink is expected then yes they should probably take some but on the other hand if you are the responsible adult would you go and buy more alcohol or think oh good the alcohol is finished I don't need to worry so much now.

Seems like the only person getting their comments deleted is you.