Am I “callous and uncaring”?

[HolidayJinn]

My neighbour gets shopping every week from 3 different supermarkets for an elderly couple on our road because they are v particular about their brands of certain things eg only M&S meat but veg must be from Morrisons and bread has to be from the big Saino’s in store bakery. I don’t know exactly why they don’t do their own shopping. It started during lockdown 1 but for some reason is still continuing. The couple still go out and about - the man drives and the woman also goes into town on the bus.

Neighbour is going on holiday for 6 weeks over Christmas to NZ and couple have asked if I’ll get their shopping in. I’ve said I don’t mind getting a few bits but I only go to Tesco and don’t have time to go all over the place. Oh. My. God. They’re acting like I’ll see them starve through the winter. They called me callous and uncaring! I just don’t have time with a full time job and 3 children.

Would you do this? Whyyyy is my neighbour still doing their shopping after 2.5 years?

YANBU.
Why is she still doing this for them.
And why on earth aren’t they doing their own?!

Just no, especially given they are mobile and go out a lot.

I wouldn’t do this. After that response I’d decline to be involved completely. They’re not owed your time or effort, it would be a massive favour, not an obligation. They can do one.

Just laugh and move on.....

I am sure they will find another mug..
Maybe.....

But dont let it become your problem... or even give it another thought...

Well obviously they're still doing it because it's easier for them to send their little minion round three different shops than go themselves.

They are your common and garden cheeky fuckers.

They still go out but want you to go to three different supermarkets for them? I would take back that offer immediately and say you can't do anything for them. They are the ultimate CFs!

Why don't you mind your own business? If you're that interested in finding out why, then question your neighbour about it - they're the one that agrees to do it. They could be getting paid for all you know and need the extra money.

YANBU

The cheeky feckery of that couple is staggering. Your neighbour may well be happy to continue after 2.5 years, that's up to her. Or, she may be fed up to the back teeth of their shopping demands, but doesn't feel able to call time on it. Maybe going to NZ for nearly 2 months is her way of finally putting an end to it.

If asked again, tell them about this amazing new concept - online shopping!

What? She's been called callous for not doing it at well, that is her business!

Do your neighbour a favour (because you are not callous and uncaring) and refuse the request. She may find, when she comes back off holiday, that the CFs have found a different solution to their shopping problem and she is freeeee

Why don’t you improve your reading and comprehension skills?

I don't agree with the neighbours calling her callous, and think the OP was right to refuse the request (though I would have outright refused, not said "I don't mind getting some of it") but it still doesn't mean that what the neighbour does for other people is any of OP's business.

Don't help them, qnd take comfort in the fact they think sainsburys bakery is somehow superior (used to work in two different ones and people would be horrified).

WTF? You're bonkers you.

I do not understand this response at all.

They sound bonkers. I wouldn’t be getting them anything - they and your neighbour know supermarkets do deliveries right??

Why is everyone quoting me? I'm not saying the neighbours are right and the OP is wrong and should have said yes to their request.

Guess the neighbours have entered the chat...

irony

YANBU. They are NOT housebound. Also....3 supermarkets? Beggars cannot be choosers. They are being completely unreasonable. You have a busy life and didn't even need to help in the first place. Old gits 🤣

Don't think you've quite read it right love 🤣

Hi neighbours!

Hilair! 😂

Tell them if that's their disgraceful attitude you won't be doing any of their shopping at all. Stupid gits have just pissed in their waitrose chips.

I'll tell 'em if you like, they've proper annoyed me & I'm feeling a bit grrrr today.

Why would you entertain this even for a minute?

Batshit.

You've kindly offered to bring some shopping in. If that's not good enough for them they can get it themselves.

They've decided it's easier to milk your other neighbour's kindness and have her run round multiple shops catering for them and don't like it when you've not jumped.