Friend expecting people to pay a lot to attend our 40th

[TigerLilly33]

Hi ladies,

Advice needed please.

It’s mine and my bestie’s 40th next year and we were talking about going away for a weekend with our partners, just the 4 of us.

It’s now evolved into us looking at cottages that sleep about 16 people and asking friends to join us. We’ve seen one we really like and it would work out at £170 per person for a weekend stay.

My bestie thinks this is reasonable but my argument is, yes it’s an ok price if you’re choosing to go away but I worry it’s a lot to ask people to pay to attend someone’s birthday and they will feel obliged to pay it when everyone is already struggling.

Bestie says, well they will have time to save for it. But can people really save any more with not having surplus cash?

I don’t know. Am I being unreasonable or is she? What would you do in this situation? I think I will put the feelers out first and see how people feel about it, I just don’t want anyone to feel pressured.

Don't you just hate it when posters like to tell other mumsnetters how wealthy they are. Their inability to read the room is astounding. There is another one who loves to post how her many children were all privaely educated and that when she talks about her garden it is always "my large garden".

Maybe these people should step outside their ivory towers occasionally.

For the record DH and I could afford to drop £340 on a weekend if it was something we really wanted to do, so it isn't jealousy.

I also think it is crass to talk about money and salary.

doesn’t it 😬