How to cope with my parent’s political views?

[Blacktigerstripes]

I’m staying with my parents at the moment, in their early sixties.
How do you cope with differing political and cultural views?

I’m getting so angry the more conversations we have.

My DM doesn’t agree with gay marriage…she also has a totally differing political viewpoint to me and my DP.
I’m finding myself getting more and more angry.

Has anyone else had this issue?

The obvious option would be not to discuss said topics

Do you think they might be angry at your views ? Agree to disagree and leave it at that .

How do they cope with your views @Blacktigerstripes ?

unless it’s that ideological one way street the left wing love to inhabit , where only socially progressive views can be considered “default” and anything else means you’re a horrible bigot?

(Labour voter here btw but I can’t stand the self righteousness of some of our tribe).

They’re entitled to their views, particularly in their own home. Probably best not to talk about it.

I am gay and couldn't care less if someone agrees with gay marriage or not. It's legal. Why are you bothered? Are you one of those people that get offended on behalf of others whilst the "others" you are "defending" are secretly cringing in embarrassment?

Stop stirring the pot would be my advice

Tricky. I’ve just been on a work trip with 3 others, one of whom kept discussing politics, I just ignored and let the others respond.

I am the parent in this situation . Adult DS is trying to persuade me to back Scottish Independence. He knows my views( against ) but keeps badgering me so I now refuse to discuss the subject . I have told him that I respect his views but he should respect mine.

I don't talk politics with my Dad at all. Ever 😂

It’s your anger that needs addressing - not their views.

I keep coming across this attitude of 'how can I force other people to think like me'?
Me and my husband have some very different views (and some very similar). We don't talk about the differences. I think a lot of people would think I'm a horrible, small minded bigot. I know I'm not and I don't force my views on anyone. My parents have some quite extreme views and again, I just don't discuss it. I dont feel like I have the right to go around educating everyone to adhere to my right-think.

I think you need ti examine why you feel nobody is allowed ro gave different viewpoints to you.you are the one with the problem not them!

Agree to not discuss politics

Accept that their views are just as valid as your own, just different.

Don't talk about politics.

Do you get along with anyone whose views do not align absolutely 100% with your own?

Are you quite young by any chance, OP?

I don’t agree with some of my parents’ views, so I don’t discuss those things with them. They are Entitled to their views.

my 19 year old sister, on the other hand, finds my parents’ views offensive - she keeps bringing the topic up and then getting into arguments with them.

the world would be a very boring place if we all had the same opinions. Live and let live.

I think you need to learn some old fashioned tolerance and polite debate.
I disagree with DH on most politics. Adult DC disagree with us and each other. We brought them up to always listen to other people's point of view and respect different opinions.

Maybe you just shouldn't stay with them, I can't recall ever staying with my DPs

How often does “gay marriage” come up in conversation? I mean seriously, I don’t agree with lots of things but I’d be hard pushed to get furious about someone having a different opinion to me. Why do you care what they think on these niche topics?

If you get angry with other people’s political views, you are the problem. Get some help, it’s not healthy.

Is gay marriage a political issue?

Being homophobic isn’t a political view, so this doesn’t seem political as such.

Do you have DC? I’d be concerned at their reaction if DGC was gay, for example.

If they just quietly hold their views and wouldn’t be nasty to someone about it I would just avoid bringing it up.

Jesus, let it go. Why are you getting so offended 🤷‍♂️

I was going to say that I suspected OP to have quite leftist views due to the intolerance of opposing views.