How to cope with my parent’s political views?

[Blacktigerstripes]

I’m staying with my parents at the moment, in their early sixties.
How do you cope with differing political and cultural views?

I’m getting so angry the more conversations we have.

My DM doesn’t agree with gay marriage…she also has a totally differing political viewpoint to me and my DP.
I’m finding myself getting more and more angry.

Has anyone else had this issue?

But then you agree that it's complex when it's your own family. Especially since many posters here think it's fine and it's best not to talk about it.

I'm using whatever language I want to as apparently we should all just disregard other people and say/think whatever we want.

If you genuinely think racist things no one can police you but if you admit to it people are allowed to want to talk about it and call you a cunt. This is pretty simple surely.

We are going around in circles here.

Of course people are allowed to disagree with each other. But OP is getting very angry at the fact that her parents have a “totally differing political viewpoint” to her and her partner, suggesting that she thinks they are wrong and should think the way she does. While OP may not agree with their views, she does not get to dictate how her parents should think instead.

to repeat yet again - all people are perfectly entitled to their views as long as they are not breaking the law.

as Voltaire said - “I may not agree with what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.”

This thread is bizarre and has little to do with the OP.

Of course people are at liberty to hold whatever views they want. But equally we are all at liberty to discuss and challenge those views. It's also equally reasonable to find it hard that one's own parents have views that disrespect others, or which seem uncaring.

I don't believe for a minute that all the posters who've gone down the 'it's unreasonable not to respect their free speech' line simply ignore all those with extremist views, or would let their own family members go unchallenged if they express views which are considered unacceptable in today's world.

It's called being tolerant. It's one of the values of British Culture and is about accepting we live in a society with others who have different views. Whilst that can at times be frustrating, it's what makes us stronger overall

tolerance if other people’s view points is perfectly valid. And necessary to a functioning society.

Where I draw the line is tolerating racism, homophobia and misogyny. I will not tolerate those. They are not valid opinions to hold. Racism, for example, is not a “point of view” that I have to tolerate thanks.

And if history is any indication, the self righteous views of today will become the antiquated views of tomorrow.

The youngsters of today and all their enlightenment will go through the same thing when they get old.

Why are your views automatically right and theirs wrong, they are probably angry at your views, why do you arrogantly assume that they are wrong

Yes this…

My parents are the same. My mum especially and is getting worse. Honestly I just avoid any politics talk and change the subject if it does come up.

That's about it.

But what counts as racism?

The popular "anti-racism" of Robin DiAngelo is described by people like John McWhorter as being "condescendingly dehumaniszing."

So which of them are you not going to tolerate?

What has some random argument between 2 people got to do with it?

There are some things that are out and out blatantly racist, and some things that are more subtle that some people may not notice or agree on. To a certain extent different people will have different interpretations of what constitutes racist.

That doesn’t mean someone has to tolerate racism just because you want to go round in circles about what it actually is

@MangyInseam there you go. You said it. That is exactly like the mealy mouthed semantics I will not tolerate.

you know exactly what I mean. I’ve told you where my line of tolerance stops. You can dance around it all you like.