How to cope with my parent’s political views?

[Blacktigerstripes]

I’m staying with my parents at the moment, in their early sixties.
How do you cope with differing political and cultural views?

I’m getting so angry the more conversations we have.

My DM doesn’t agree with gay marriage…she also has a totally differing political viewpoint to me and my DP.
I’m finding myself getting more and more angry.

Has anyone else had this issue?

...just dodgy older generation views... I tend to just spend my time with people who I think share my values

Do you mean people who share your bigoted views about older people?

The ageism never stops on Mumsnet, does it?

Practice tolerance, practice the gentle art of persuasion, practice not getting angry about debate.

It used to be enjoyable, debating and exploring different political views. It’s only since the internet was available and everyone got divided into fanatic echo chambers that people with opposite points of view became so incapable of civilised discussion and so angry all the time. It’s a shame.

The best thing to do would be for the government to outlaw all wrong opinions. Well maybe not this government. But one of them,one of the good ones.

We've never been righter, here in the early days of the 21st Century, so it should be easy to sort the old fashioned bigots from the modern compassionate thinkers. It's simply not possible that other perspectives, other cultures,other eras have anything to offer. So fuck em all.

Problem solved OP.

Don’t discuss these issues. Move out.

You are clearly unaware of some hard left views.

Perhaps just agree not to discuss politics as it makes you both angry?

“dodgy older generation views on things”

Nice bit of ageism.

This. And you absolutely musnt ever use them as human cashpoints when you want a loan for a car, to buy a dog or to babysit your children so you can go out regularly. They are dreadful, foolish people who you must absolutely avoid because they are not as perfect as you.
Also you can be totally chilled about people being gay without believing people of the same sex should be able to marry. Plenty of gay people were not keen on it.

I love being in the company of people with differing views in general, not just political. It's great for real and interesting conversation but only if you're able to have an open mind and an appreciation that every one of us are free and able to generate their own beliefs, opinions and political views. Perhaps your opinions get on their tits and they wish you'd just shut up?

How far does this view that "it's OK for everyone to have different opinions on things, you lefties are so intolerant" go?

Is it OK to say you have problems with gay marriage?
Is it OK to say you have problems with gay adoption?
Is it OK to say that gay people shouldn't express affection on the street?
Is it OK to tell your kids you hope you will never become one of "them"?
Is it OK to express your opinion that "they" should all be locked up?
Is it OK to express open support for a political party that is threatening to lock "them" up?

So tell me, all you supporters of "everyone having their own opinion ", where do you draw the line?

I think that might be confirmation bias.

Beautifully obvious.

Unless your views are illegal everything is allowed.

What? You ask candidates their political views at interview, and ditch anyone who you consider left leaning?

Be grateful that we live in a democracy. I have differing view to some of my friends and family and I see it as a good thing.

I choose not to argue about it, our views will never align.

So, if Keir Starmer gets his way...

What's Liz Truss when you need her?

He stands absolutely no chance of ever being in power so I won't bother giving it any brain space

There are posters on this thread who genuinely think it's acceptable for someone to hold the view that gay people should be locked up? And to vote for a political party that promises to lock gay people up?

Just to make this clear: you agree with that?

On the whole, younger adults tend to be more left-wing than older adults (not always; I'm a fairly left-wing adult in a Tory-voting age range, and my parents were even more left-wing than me) so such a situation would be unusual. But I am now anticipating a thread from 'LettuceLovingLiz' to the effect that 'I just took what I thought was an excellent upward career move, but due to the unanticipated disloyalty of my colleagues, it ended after only 45 days. I now have time to visit my parents, but am absolutely dreading my father's intolerable socialist tub-thumping. What should I do?'

I don't understand this.

How about you cope with them the same way they cope with yours? Nice bit of virtue signalling though.

Don't be stupid.

There’s a lot of live and let live here - which in general I’d agree with. That being said my mortgage just went up by £600 a month. So forgive me if I try to discuss/debate with people who are not the elite who vote Tory and find the views of those who say labour just let too many migrants in pretty bloody offensive!

not sure how you get round it OP because it’s not just politics is it….it’s core values and when those aren’t the same it can be difficult to find common ground on anything beyond small talk….board games? Every night?