To think women should have more sway in naming babies

[yellowbottles]

Lighthearted. Ish. Maybe.

AIBU in thinking women should have the most say in naming their children?

I'm about 8 weeks away from giving birth and still deep in what has been a physically awful pregnancy. I've been incredibly ill throughout and it's taken me to the edge mentally and emotionally.

DH and I married last year. I took on his name, in an ideal world I would have double barreled but my maiden name was already a double barreled name, so I decided to take on my new husbands surname. Our baby will have his surname.

We're getting to the naming baby crunch talks, and we can't decide! He has his favourites, I have mine. AIBU to think that, as he gets to pass his surname on to baby, and as recognition of a bloody rough 9 months that I've endured, I should have final say on first-naming our baby?

@saraclara totally agree!!!!!!

Yes, indeed. Insisting on primary parental privileges because you were the one who gave birth is potentially setting you up for a lifetime of primary parental responsibilities too. If you're basically THE parent and he's just a bit of a helper, why would he expect to financially support YOUR child? Or do school drop-offs and pick-ups, or take time off work when YOUR child is ill?

No, it has to be something you both agree on.

If it bothers you then you shouldn’t have taken your DH’s surname. Maybe give one of your maiden names to DC as a middle name.