DH refusing dinner issue

[Lisagreen12]

thursday morning he txt when he was at work asking what’s for dinner as he needed to know if he had to try borrow some money, with it being the day before payday we had barely any food in
I replied saying we’ve got stuff in for a roast if you fancy it? And asked what time he would be home
he was happy with this
around lunchtime on his break we had an argument unrelated and at the end he said “don’t bother with dinner it’s not worth the hassle”
I didn’t reply to this message as I couldn’t be bothered with arguing but I’m not just going to not bother as the kids need to eat
he’s then gone and borrowed money off his mum and walked in the door after work with McDonald’s
So after 2 hours of slaving in the kitchen cooking a roast the kids didn’t want any of it.
Hes been in a mood since because we argued about that too, him saying I’m ungrateful and that he told me not to bother with dinner so it’s my own fault
but the kids had to eat and I didn’t know he was going to get his mum to send him money at his big age of 37, so was I meant to take the risk and leave them with nothing

Why obviously? No wonder people are skint if they're throwing food away ?
Can you cook? Have you heard of bubble and squeak ?

This.

So many issues to unpack in the op but essentially this poster sums it up

Communication and complete incompetence with money (money can be tight for unavoidable reasons but if it's that tight then borrowing money to spend on a takeaway when you know there's good food to cook at home is vindictive and financially incompetent) are obviously the main issues but I honestly don't know where you'd start with a husband who thought this was fine.

YABU for throwing food away to make a point. The best thing about roast dinners is bubble and squeak with gravy the next day. In fact, cut out the middle man and just have bubble and squeak

Lisagreen12 you can sluce and pan fry cold roast potatoes and vegetables incorporate them into a Spanish omlette next time, rather than chuck them.

Sometimes in life you have to eat shit food

slice not sluce!

I would have made veg and potato patties sort of like bubble and squeak and not thrown them out.

Roast potatoes are lovely when reheated, what are you talking about?

And you survived just fine from the sounds of it.

At the beginning of this thread I was pretty neutral thinking that you both were somewhat in the wrong. Leaning towards your DH being more wrong for borrowing money for take out.

But the more you post the more ridiculous I think you are.

Don’t reheat them, then.

Fry them up with some salt and pepper, they’re delicious.

Or - just throw them away. It’s your look out.

I can't believe you're broke and threw all that food away.

He was a dick, but come on OP. You have one adult on minimum wage and one not working. You can’t afford to throw perfectly good food away and you can’t afford McDonalds.

You could've cooked the veg and potatoes together with some stock and made soup.

Maybe you reheated the potatoes for too long last time, so they went dry? Try again, don’t chuck them out.

Where I live cold sliced potatoes are eaten on crispbread with leek or sometimes mayo, it’s called poor man’s sandwich and is lovely!

So, you're able to provide a wonderfully delicious nutritious meal, but he borrows money to eat shit (so you'll be short next week, unleash his borrow means he never pays back), that's awful!

Then you throw the meal away?

Why?

YABVU

Wasteful and need to sort yourselves out!

Dreadful behaviour, you should both reevaluate.

A mid-week joint for 6 costs about £5. The veg for 6 costs about the same. Less for both if you buy cheap, wonky or in season.

You've thrown away half the cost of the meal.

You both sound like kids playing at grownups, if I'm honest.

Is this a troll post? Who makes a dinner and then throws it away, while complaining they're skint?! And then has a go at the partner for borrowing cash for a takeaway?!

You're both absolutely exhausting.

Buy a damn recipe book or use bbc food or something, and both of you learn to communicate better!

but the cooked veg and potatoes went in the bin..

What a fucking waste of good food which will be safe and taste great reheated. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Day 1: Sliced roast beef with side of roast potatoes and vegetables
Day 2: Chop up leftover beef, leftover potatoes and vegetables. Add water and a beef bouillon cube. You have beef stew.
Day 3: Take strained beef juices. Heat up and add a ramen noodle packet. You have beef noodle soup.
Any leftover soup can be poured on the dog's dry food. There is no waste at all!
This is how I fed my family this week. It's not a 10-day Mumsnet chicken but it's a savings.

Wow ! Sounds like you both need to give you're heads a wobble

Learn to budget & use all the food you have & don't borrow money for takeaways

He needs to grow the fuck up!

Great practical advice! Let’s make this thread into something positive, many of us could probably use good ideas what to make of letovers!

Genuinely gobsmacked that you threw away the veg and the potatoes. I was on your side but now I agree with others, you're both playing house.

And for the leftover thread: in this case, a massive bubble and squeak would have been in order!

He didn't say he was picking up dinner?