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Covid named and shamed

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Otterspotter13 · 18/10/2022 05:23

I’m a healthcare worker, returned to work after a week of sick leave due to Covid. Kids also recovered and back at school. At home partner was weakly positive on antigen test (he tested positive when myself and kids were at end of our 7 days isolation) but he has never had any symptoms. Kids had missed their swimming lessons last week when they were isolating with me. On the day of my return to work, partner who should be isolating brought them to their swimming lesson. He left them enter the building themselves so he himself wouldn’t have to go inside. But at collection time he entered building, wrapped their towels around each of them and quickly left with them, bringing them straight to car so they could change there. I was at work on a 13 hr shift wearing a sweaty ffp2 mask out of consideration for my colleagues. I checked my texts and there was a message on a 10 member girl group I’m on, naming and shaming my partner because one of them knew he was positive and saw him at pool collecting kids and not wearing a mask. He is not in this group to defend himself. I’m obviously angry with him for not wearing a mask and have told him off regarding this, he realizes he was in the wrong. He says he repeated the antigen and the line is barely visible, he doesn’t believe he has covid as he is asymptomatic. He was in and out in seconds. Not defending his actions but his mistakes are his and he is not me. Im a hardworking hcw who has always respected covid guidelines. However now I have to deal with his mistake on this toxic WhatsApp group, who are publicly naming him and giving out, like I’m not there or something. He isn’t on this group. I feel it is not appropriate and this person isn’t behaving like a friend should, calling him out like this. Our partners are friends. I feel that if she has a problem she should have contacted him directly or asked her partner to discuss with him. I feel that this woman, a real stickler for the covid rules, she wants to keep covid alive when really it should be buried along with the bloody antigen tests. I’m so over it. I want to leave this group now as I don’t want to participate in toxic behavior. Aibu?

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OrangeKettle · 18/10/2022 15:13

Covid is so boring. And the bloody Covid Captain Clipboard dicks.
I am a healthcare worker. Not testing, not staying in and not vaccinated.
She would make my head explode! What a dick.

OrangeKettle · 18/10/2022 15:16

and before everyone jumps on me, I was testing negative when I actually had covid. I thought I had a sniffle. As in, sneezed a few times. I carried on going to work not knowing I had covid. The tests are a farce anyway.

GloriousGlory · 18/10/2022 16:07

AndTwoFilmsByFrancoisTruffaut · 18/10/2022 10:39

Wow, there are some right old ‘I’m alright Jack’ cunts on this thread!

I can just picture the type of person you are. Uneducated for sure. Most certainly into conspiracy theories. Very, very of the opinion that you are right - all the time 🙄 just generally not pleasant to be around. Ugh. The dregs.

You ok?

AnneElliott · 18/10/2022 17:12

No it wouldn't actually be true but it's completely unfair to bitch about someone on a what's app group they're not on! Plus how many people are walking around with covid and either not tested or still going out as the quarantine rules are no longer in place?

And I'm still amazed at how these people actually knew? I dont share info like that with friends and aquantancies.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/10/2022 17:41

Mariposista · 18/10/2022 09:41

Have these silly women entered a time warm and they think we're still in 2020? Wake up darlings! No more testing and isolation anymore. Each to their own and live and let live!
(OP I understand you needed to test in your work capacity, which is fine, but your kids and OH don't, so they have no right judging any of them).

< live and let die >

OriginalUsername3 · 18/10/2022 17:45

You don't have to isolate with covid anymore. How is this even a thing?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 18/10/2022 17:50

OrangeKettle · 18/10/2022 15:13

Covid is so boring. And the bloody Covid Captain Clipboard dicks.
I am a healthcare worker. Not testing, not staying in and not vaccinated.
She would make my head explode! What a dick.

Aye, of course you are

AiryFairyLights · 19/10/2022 06:02

Just write a message “he’s testing negative now” with loads of ?
She’ll look stupid!

withaspongeandarustyspanner · 19/10/2022 06:20

He's not breaking the current rules though, is he?

YANBU - she's a cow.

My daughter had it recently and was told she could return to school three days after a positive test, regardless of the test results. The irony is, I had been sending her in all week with what I thought was a cold. We only tested her as my DH is a nurse and we had some tests.

Mamma2017 · 19/10/2022 06:24

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 06:51

597 people died within 28 days of a +ve Covid test last week. (Current government unit of measurement).

CEV people remain CEV.

My local NHS regional hospital has two wards full of ill Covid patients. Staff are all masked again when working with patients.

Mt (massive) employer requires people to test if they have any of the symptoms and, if positive, isolate for 5 days before returning (if well).

It is potentially a real problem as the weather gets colder, especially with a nasty flu variant rampant this year.

I get it's frustrating for the invulnerable and the non-believers but wearing a mask hardly equates to sacrificing your first-born!!

YA both BU and unfair to your children.

“Died within 28 days of a covid test”
this IS NOT the same as died because of covid. I am a healthcare professional, covid is a real, flu type infection but not the death sentence to media would have you believe. it’s very much hyped up to create fear. Get a grip on reality.

Twiglets1 · 19/10/2022 06:44

Benjispruce4 · 18/10/2022 09:52

@Wednesdaywobbles i had a text from my GP saying only come in to surgery if absolutely necessary and wear a mask. Our local hospital has also reintroduced masks last week. DD took a flight to Spain last week and had to wear a mask(BA) as cases on the up.

Whereas I am currently on a trip where I have flown to Singapore then Australia and then a few days in Dubai on the way home and didn’t need to wear a mask on any of the flights

balalake · 19/10/2022 06:51

I only wish others cared as much about not spreading Covid as you do. Criticising once is fine, repeatedly going on about a person's mistake if they are not there to defend themselves is not.

Novum · 19/10/2022 07:00

Mamma2017 · 19/10/2022 06:24

“Died within 28 days of a covid test”
this IS NOT the same as died because of covid. I am a healthcare professional, covid is a real, flu type infection but not the death sentence to media would have you believe. it’s very much hyped up to create fear. Get a grip on reality.

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Are you saying that each of those people would have died regardless of having had covid?

Mama2910 · 19/10/2022 07:11

I’m a mental health nurse and we still have to wear masks all the time at work and if we test positive we are required by our employer (NHS) to stay off work (away from patients) for 5 days… does this not apply to all of UK? Quite surprised that a nurse on here was able to work in patient facing role when positive for COVID 🤨

Gillume · 19/10/2022 07:21

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 06:51

597 people died within 28 days of a +ve Covid test last week. (Current government unit of measurement).

CEV people remain CEV.

My local NHS regional hospital has two wards full of ill Covid patients. Staff are all masked again when working with patients.

Mt (massive) employer requires people to test if they have any of the symptoms and, if positive, isolate for 5 days before returning (if well).

It is potentially a real problem as the weather gets colder, especially with a nasty flu variant rampant this year.

I get it's frustrating for the invulnerable and the non-believers but wearing a mask hardly equates to sacrificing your first-born!!

YA both BU and unfair to your children.

I’m sorry I totally agree with this comment, if you’d have had someone die from Covid you may feel different.

Sundayvibes · 19/10/2022 07:25

IntegrityisDead · 18/10/2022 06:51

597 people died within 28 days of a +ve Covid test last week. (Current government unit of measurement).

CEV people remain CEV.

My local NHS regional hospital has two wards full of ill Covid patients. Staff are all masked again when working with patients.

Mt (massive) employer requires people to test if they have any of the symptoms and, if positive, isolate for 5 days before returning (if well).

It is potentially a real problem as the weather gets colder, especially with a nasty flu variant rampant this year.

I get it's frustrating for the invulnerable and the non-believers but wearing a mask hardly equates to sacrificing your first-born!!

YA both BU and unfair to your children.

Meanwhile 450 people would have died daily to cancer. All this covid nonsense needs to stop.

Lozzybear · 19/10/2022 07:26

@Benjispruce4 Spain have never got rid of their requirement to wear masks on planes and public transport. Nothing to do with cases going up. BA only ask you to wear masks if the country you are travelling to or from requires them.

Doris86 · 19/10/2022 07:31

Novum · 19/10/2022 07:00

Are you saying that each of those people would have died regardless of having had covid?

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In many cases yes they would.

Lifeischallenging · 19/10/2022 07:47

This!
Your husband should have worn a mask. It’s not a big deal. It’s irrelevant if he ‘thought’ he has Covid or not, his LFT was positive - he should have acted accordingly.

That said, there was no reason for your friend to call him out publicly on a group chat and I would send her a private message explaining that she was out of line.

sst1234 · 19/10/2022 07:48

Novum · 19/10/2022 07:00

Are you saying that each of those people would have died regardless of having had covid?

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Is someone dies in car crash a week after having Covid, what do you think? It wasn’t Covid that killed them, was it.

Why is it only Covid where the statistics are recorded in this dishonest way? Deaths from no other cause are recorded like this.

OMG12 · 19/10/2022 07:48

include the number of a psychologist in the message and tell her you thought she might find this useful as you have heard they are excellent in helping to deal with anxiety.

Canyoubelievethesepeople · 19/10/2022 07:56

I would suggest that people on this thread read the current guidance. There are very much still isolation periods- 5 days for adults and 3 for children. Covid has not gone away. People are still dying.
The partner should not have done this but equally it should not have been posted to a group of people, especially where he can’t defend himself.
I would suggest a reply of:
”I am unsure the purpose of your message on here because X isn’t on here, however, i’ll pass your thoughts along and X will discuss them with you”.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 19/10/2022 08:01

Mamma2017 · 19/10/2022 06:24

“Died within 28 days of a covid test”
this IS NOT the same as died because of covid. I am a healthcare professional, covid is a real, flu type infection but not the death sentence to media would have you believe. it’s very much hyped up to create fear. Get a grip on reality.

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Oh no - another self/stated health care professional. God help us all

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 19/10/2022 08:03

Sundayvibes · 19/10/2022 07:25

Meanwhile 450 people would have died daily to cancer. All this covid nonsense needs to stop.

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< I wonder if it would be possible to have a special board for the covid deniers >

🤔

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 19/10/2022 08:08

AndTwoFilmsByFrancoisTruffaut · 18/10/2022 10:39

Wow, there are some right old ‘I’m alright Jack’ cunts on this thread!

I can just picture the type of person you are. Uneducated for sure. Most certainly into conspiracy theories. Very, very of the opinion that you are right - all the time 🙄 just generally not pleasant to be around. Ugh. The dregs.

I wish you were right - sadly I think they're quite ‘ordinary’ people