What’s a subtle sign that a person is a good person?

[YouAreNotBatman]

As in you can just tell they are good people in an average situation.

They always see the good in people. Admit their faults. Are genuinely pleased for others success.
Kind and notice the little things about situations and people

dang, fallen at the hurdle of my resting anxiety face 😔

Reading these, all I can see is my late mother in law. From a privileged background but worked with disadvantaged people. Did everything to make them feel comfortable. Welcomed me into the family with open arms even though I'm sure I wouldn't have been who she would have chosen as a daughter in law. She was astonishingly empathetic

I agree it takes a really long time to truly figure this out. It is easy to be good when the cost is low. Being polite to a waitress and visiting your mum are "cheap" wins. I read an article the other day about the survival rate of women and children in the biggest naval disasters. You'd think they'd have an advantage...women and children first....but guess who actually survives most? The crew. High personal cost....and you see people's real levels of goodness.

Kind to animals and polite to table servers

My DD doesn’t have a nasty bone in her body or thought it her head. She genuinely wants to help others. She tells me off if I ever make a mean comment about anyone. She is never in anyway jealous or envious. She is just the epitome of kindness. I am very worried she will get used and walked over by less nice people however. It could more of a curse than a blessing.

Completely agree and agree with PP who have pointed out that things like asking questions and listening etc are just charm/manners. Also imagine how hard it would be to have conversations of everyone was just asking questions!

I do agree it's a special skill when people include everyone not just the loudest.

To me good people often put others before themselves even when that's not easy or at the least consider how their actions might impact on other people. They speak up for those with less of a voice and they speak up even if it is likely to cost them something.

Some of these are funny: being vege and clean shoes as signs of a good person. I must be evil!!!

Kindness to people around them (including servers), considerate of a person's time and circumstances, generosity of spirit.

There aren't really subtle signs. No one is all good, or all bad.

I don't have a pleasant resting face, and my shoes are scruffy because I like wearing scruffy shoes for everyday wear, but I'm a good person. Mind you, I think clean shoes is perhaps the oddest thing to judge someone by.

My friend told me to look at someone's eyes when they smile. If their smile reaches their eyes they are most likely decent. I like that, but I am not sure how much truth there really is in it. I sometimes give a half-hearted smile when I can't be arsed, and again, I'm a pretty good person.

They like cats.

@Chattycathydoll anxiety face is nit a mean face. Sorry if you felt that way. Anxiety face is deserving of compassion

Still have same friends from way back.

Being able to apologise freely without any snidey shite

They are courteous to serving staff, and to people below them in the work hierarchy.

They don't take credit for other people's work, but attribute as appropriate.

They admit mistakes and apologise if they need to. (Properly apologise - not this, "I'm sorry that you felt upset when I called you a fat cow" crap.)

Scruffy shoes to me are a good thing. Means there are more important things in your life.

Shopping cart theory is spot on in my mind!
“The shopping cart is the ultimate litmus test for whether a person is capable of self-governing. To return the shopping cart is an easy, convenient task and one which we all recognize as the correct, appropriate thing to do. To return the shopping cart is objectively right. There are no situations other than dire emergencies in which a person is not able to return their cart. Simultaneously, it is not illegal to abandon your shopping cart. Therefore the shopping cart presents itself as the apex example of whether a person will do what is right without being forced to do it."

cross post re:apologies, Beak

Someone who smiles at strangers when your out with them you notice and they don't notice you noticing

My best friend for years when I was going through a hard time would subtly help me by saying things like' I'm popping to the shop do you need anything' when I knew she was only going to get me something or she would say she ordered something and two came and they said not to bother returning it when I knew really she had bought me it and didn't want me to feel bad or when she got a new washing machine and offered to do my washing because she wanted to 'try all the settings' but really it was because I was struggling to pay bills.

You should worry!

Apparently I have "resting murder face"!

🙁

I think that the way someone talks to your pet/any animal when they don’t know they anyone can hear says a lot about them.

Bugger!

I've fallen at the cake hurdle.

<consoles self with larger piece of cake>
<shares it with dogs>

Yes! This!

Even if they don't see them often (I live away from 'home' so don't see mine often but we keep updated and chat on fb etc

Absent minded singers seem to be quite a nice bunch of people. I’m not sure if it is because they come across as less self conscious, or more optimistic, but they give off an air of playful acceptance, and fun.

DO you have a mirror?

This. Attempts to categorise people as either "good" or "bad" are naive at best, and can be extremely harmful. Most people aren't either, most of us have "good" and "bad" traits.