What’s a subtle sign that a person is a good person?

[YouAreNotBatman]

As in you can just tell they are good people in an average situation.

The ability to put others first. That could be offering help, opening doors, listening, being kind, sending a text asking how someone is with no motive, remembering something importabt about someone else, allowing someone else to be in the limelight, taking a moment to make someone feel good /special /cared for. The absence of these things doesn't always mean someone is bad. Nice am sure we all have days where we are more thoughtless, rushed, stressed etc and we forget to always put other people first. In fact always putting others first isn't healthy. But I think the ability to do so is the sign of a good person.

Giving others credit, including people, having time for people in need, and animals.

They don't make a fuss when they do something nice for someone else. They are gracious and do not put people down or make others feel stupid or lesser.

Someone who seems interested in other people and doesn't keep going on about themselves. I often find the worst sort of people ask what you do (as a job) almost instantly. This is a sign to me that a person is trying to assess how important you are = not nice.

Could be 😉!
I hope I’m more like her in some universe!

Clean shoes sounds a bit clean freak

See, I know someone who can strike up easy conversation with anyone. Is gently interested and perfectly polite, including to serving staff etc. To me this is charm not "good". He's awful to his girlfriends after a while.

I read about ‘the shopping cart theory’ once.

If somebody puts their shopping trolley in one of the designated points after they have finished with it then it is an indication they are a good person.

It is often easier/quicker/more convenient to the person to dump it close by and there is no negative consequence to them to do so, but returning it properly is respectful and more
convenient to others.

Generally kind and very aware and empathetic to others.
but also knowin human are fallible and can make mistakes,themselves included so they aren’t goody goody all the time which only makes them understand all the more.

Actually I'm not sure about the being nice to waiting staff etc. I am unfailingly very polite in restaurants, hotels etc because it is good manners and very easy to do. I don't think I am a particularly good person though. Kind of average.

I do agree that someone who is rude to waiting staff is probably not a good person though.

I think what a PP said about being kind and patient with elderly people is probably a good one. I don't think I'd score very highly on that. I mean I'm not awful or anything, but definitely could do better. Food for thought.

Genius Khan and Charles Manson were vegetarians, and Pol Pot was a vegan.

@MrsGhastlyCrumb

Oh, thank you so much! ♥️

How they speak to their children and other peoples children.

Accepting and none judgmental.

*Genghis Khan

Clean shoes 🤣

Couldn't help but notice OP that you said 'meating' her after all of the comments about being a vegetarian LOL. I know just what you mean though. Where I work I have noticed a big difference between someone who is all about herself and what she's done etc and there's someone else who is lovely and humble but actually has done some amazing things. She never says but its gradually come out over time as I've got to know her.
Some people feel the need to impress but that's maybe a lack of self esteem. The lovely person I'm talking about would never be judgemental but the first person I've mentioned either.

This is a major one for me. Recently worked with a colleague I didn’t really know before and when everyone started speaking over each other, he was great at making sure quieter people were heard

A lot of what people are saying is good social skills. You can be a good person, and have poor social skills.
I think it all starts with honesty

Well it's very difficult isn't it.
All of the replies so far basically describe the behaviours that a psychopath or paraphiliac will adopt to mask their true self.

You can't tell who is "a good person" from subtle behaviours without knowing them properly. It can take years to really know someone and even then they can take you by surprise.

Good manners - polite and considerate to all, regardless.

I don't think there are any real subtle signs that a person is a 'good person,' merely the absence of bad signs and then you have to assume the rest or wait it out for them to reveal themselves.

I have met criminals of the worst kind who were generous, could charm the birds from the trees, treated people seemingly of lower status than them with every respect, they seemed friendly, well spoken and kind...in actuality, they seemed like some of the most subtly sign posting 'good' people I have ever met so now I am immediately suspicious of anyone who seems like too good a person.

I suppose, a subtle sign of a good person being a good person then is someone who has flaws. They don't relish in them or falsely humbly point them out...they just are and they own those flaws or try to hard to work around them.

IIRC Hitler was a vegetarian.

Couldn't help but notice OP that you said 'meating' her after all of the comments about being a vegetarian LOL.

Oh no! My English truly failed me in the worst (best) time.

I think doing nice things for people and not boasting about it or drawing attention to what they've done - so being kind for it's own sake rather than for the social kudos.
Not gossiping about others.

As an older poster, a lot of the suggestions here seem shallow, and liable to lead you up the wrong path. As others have said, social skills and fake charm can be learned and used to abuse others. How do you think narcissists get close to their victims in the early days?

If you want to know if somebody is a good person don't listen to what they say. Look at what they do. Consider whether it is consistent with what they say and the values they espouse.

Especially if doing the right thing is not the same as doing the easy thing, or the crowd pleasing thing.