To ask my partner for a vasectomy

[Foreveranxious22]

Ok so this is something that keeps coming up with me and my partner and I would like some impartial advice if you have any please.
My and DP have been together 10+ years, 2DC. Not an easy time getting here as I have had multiple miscarriages so I know I’m done having children.
I am super sensitive to contraceptives, I’ve already been on two after having my DD 6 months ago. I get very moody, have whiplash mood swings and sometimes I’m bordering on depressed. I was like this after my first daughter too so I know it’s related to the pill.

Last month we had a pregnancy scare as I had come of my previous pill as I wasn’t myself. This scared us so I agreed I’d try another pill and after advice from my GP I’m currently on rigevidon but same old story as previous contraception. I have mentioned a vasectomy to my DP before but he’s said no as he’s very very squeamish. I made a deal with him when I went on rigevidon that I’d continue taking it so long as he got booked in with the GP for a vasectomy as it can take 52 weeks in our area on the NHS. He’s not even rang the docs and has now changed his tune saying he won’t get one. Am I in the wrong to be upset about this? He knows how bad the pill affects me and I’ve sent him loads of research on the snip from mens POV and they’re a no horror stories. AIBU? Any advice for either of us?

A fucking hysterectomy? I hope you're being satirical. Fucking hell 😂

The way I see it if men say they're worried about a vasectomy is... do they not think their partners were ever worried about having an emergency csection, an induction, forceps, ventouse, an episiotomy, a 3rd or 4th degree tear, or ANY tearing, having stitches there, a manual removal of the placenta and then the recovery which can take years for some women and stories of women needing reconstructive surgery afterwards when she was pregnant? Because ALL that stuff is grim and scary and has potential for trauma leaving her with psychological damage. Women don't have a choice about facing any of these risks after you got them pregnant.

But it's ok, you sit this one out because it might hurt a little bit. Man up.

You for real?!?!

hysterectomy aka MAJOR SURGERY (!!!) Vs a vasectomy? Which can be reversed.

Are you on glue?!?!

This thread is two years old!

Yup, this.

If you know you don’t want more kids then go for your own permanent solution.

FWIW reversal is BRUTAL. If you ever break up and he wants more kids he’ll have a difficult and very painful path to walk.

Edit - just seen the last post and seen this was a thread revival batman! 🤣

He needs to understand his responsibilities though.

In my case I was sterilised via cancer prevention surgery so that solved the issue. But if I had not been having that procedure it would have been vasectomy, condoms or no sex. Simple as that. Men don’t get to be squeamish about a simple procedure AND refuse to use condoms AND expect their wife to use hormonal contraceptives. Not in my book.

Okay. But I didn’t reply to the OP.
I replied to a comment made 2 days ago.
What’s your point?