Huge row with DH! Help me!!

[DM1720]

Just had a big row with DH over cleaning the kitchen. I usually cook dinner, he cleans up after while I put our kids to bed. It’s a system that works well for us!
This evening I came downstairs and found him sweeping the kitchen surfaces with our dustpan and brush! 🤢 I asked him not to do this before so when I saw him doing it again this evening I got angry and asked why he couldn’t do it the normal way I.e use a cloth to sweep crumbs into hand or even on to floor and sweep after (which he’d be doing anyway!). He couldn’t see where I was coming from at all, and cannot understand what is wrong with his way. I think it’s disgusting even though he plans to wipe down the surfaces after with the kitchen cloth! He said he’s not cleaning up anymore if he’s not left to do it his way etc etc 🙄
AIBU?
Please help me to explain to him how gross this is? He won’t listen. We’re not actually speaking over this!!

If I knew he was doing this I would 100% be washing/changing the cloth every evening afterwards but it’s the fact that I’ve asked him not to do it like this before and I assumed my cloths were just being used on clean surfaces, not on surfaces with floor germs on them. I wouldn’t see the need to wash my dishcloth every night. A couple of times a week, yes, but not every night!

Oh my God people - we have an immune system for a reason.

Assuming there was something AWFUL on the floor last time brush was used
Assuming that tiny amounts of the awful have survived
Assuming that even smaller amounts are transferred to the counter
Assuming that even smaller amounts survive after a final wipe down
Assuming that even smaller amounts then transfer onto something you then put in your mouth...

Your immune system will blast them.

Chill out

This!

I use the dustpan and brush, and then anti-bac it … I don’t see the issue. Sometimes I use the hoover for crumbs..

Never ever had food poisoning of any type at home …

You need to change jobs, he can get the kids to bed and you clean the kitchen. I wouldn’t want to live in a house where the kitchen counters were cleaned with a brush used on the floors either. Might as well use a shoe or a doormat to clean with.

I always prepare things on a plate or chopping board, never on the worktop so crumbs just get put in the sink with the chopping board/plate and I'm less worried about the worktop being sterile.

Not worth a huge row.
Give your head a wobble

And I think him saying he uses antibac afterwards is just something he said when he saw how mortified you were. He’s not concerned enough about cleanliness to think of that.

I’m a v messy cook and especially messy when I know I don’t have to clean up after myself!!!

That's really inconsiderate behaviour, is this a reverse post?

He doesn't clean the surfaces? Just dry wipes them? That's nasty.

^ This. I cannot believe the hysterical reaction from some posters!

Get him one of these… I use this on the worktop/surfaces only (for crumbs and bits, etc.):

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B00940DUEK?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

YAB at tad U

I clean my way and DH cleans his way.

Okay so I think i should have mentioned at the start that it’s the cloth I’m worried more about than the surfaces! So he’s used the kitchen cloth to wipe down the surfaces, after using the dustpan and brush on said surfaces! Is the cloth not now contaminated with floor germs? And no I don’t wash the cloths every night afterwards but I certainly would if I had known this is what he was doing!!! I do change/rotate the cloths but it wouldn’t be every night.
Both prob a bit stressed at the moment and now feel it did blow up into a bigger row than it should have been.

This…. Is not a hill I would die on.

He's disgusting. Yanbu.

Handheld hoover? Much more fun!

Dramatic.

I walked in on my son today getting his house ready for estate agent's photos, he was hoovering the kitchen surfaces After he'd just done the floor...... I guarantee that he didn't even wipe the surfaces after....... I haven't known him be sick since a dodgy burger on holiday at least a decade ago😂

The cloth is "contaminated" as soon as you use it, unless it's only every used on clean things.

' Disgusting, nasty, grim' - are all over the top, you've survived this long, swap jobs and leave him alone

Yuk, and totally unnecessary

Thats grim. Im never eating at your house.

Just buy a separate dust pan and brush..I personally don't see the problem if he's spray the sides down after...people going on about the brush being used on floor then on the sides T towels hold more germs then your toilet seat and some still use them to dry there clean dishes.

Do you launder your cloths every time you use one? I’m constantly wiping the worktops and would have a huge number of cloths to wash each day if I did this. It’s just crumbs and maybe bits of veg peelings .