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To think WTAF at ‘Bonk for Britain?’

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Upthebracket22 · 09/10/2022 17:58

Anyone seen this? It’s apparently based on a policy from (far right) Hungary where the media were saying that too many women were going to university and thus wouldn’t be having kids!

www.thesun.co.uk/news/20048496/women-tax-cuts-have-children/amp/

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dapsnotplimsolls · 09/10/2022 18:46

I've wondered before how Hungary is allowed to stay in the EU!

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 18:47

FatKyle · 09/10/2022 18:23

No tax. I'd be in. I always wanted a big family. I just couldn't afford it. People that don't want to do it don't have to.

This. What’s the harm? It’s still a choice.

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 09/10/2022 18:51

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 18:47

This. What’s the harm? It’s still a choice.

Why is it not being put forward as a plan for men? What message would this give? What happens to the ‘status’ of women who don’t have children?

Downdowndownigo · 09/10/2022 18:53

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 09/10/2022 18:51

Why is it not being put forward as a plan for men? What message would this give? What happens to the ‘status’ of women who don’t have children?

Exactly this.

Just another way for society to shit on childfree / childless women.

Florenz · 09/10/2022 18:55

We need to reduce the population, not increase it. Ridiculous idea.

Blocked · 09/10/2022 18:55

I'd have a house full of children if I could afford to work and pay for their childcare. Or we could afford to exist on one wage.

Upthebracket22 · 09/10/2022 18:55

“This. What’s the harm? It’s still a choice”

Because its mysogynistic bullshit

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UthredofBattenberg · 09/10/2022 18:56

Brillaint. Exactly what the world needs, more people.

We must all do our part for the Republic of Gilead

Still, I suppose 50% of all jobs would be freed up cause the women folk will be at home tending to their many offspring.

I assume the average house prices will then become affordable on one wage somehow. And the NHS, GPs, schools and other infrastructure will just sort itself out. They are so well funded at the moment...

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:01

Upthebracket22 · 09/10/2022 18:55

“This. What’s the harm? It’s still a choice”

Because its mysogynistic bullshit

Why is it misogynistic?

Chattycathydoll · 09/10/2022 19:02

So promote the breeding, and do nothing to improve the infrastructure to support all of these newly spawned workers. Great idea if this was like simcity or something but if they really wanted bigger families to be feasible they’d have not closed the childrens’ centres that offered family support, stop dicking about with FSM, and offer better benefits to fathers.

Exasperatednow · 09/10/2022 19:02

YellowTreeHouse · 09/10/2022 18:43

Lots of hysterical dramatics and catastrophising going on here.

How do you think it starts? With something big? I wish people knew their history.

Chattycathydoll · 09/10/2022 19:03

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:01

Why is it misogynistic?

It doesn’t support families. It doesn’t give children or parents better prospects. It just encourages women to give birth, in an otherwise unsupported environment.

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:04

Exasperatednow · 09/10/2022 19:02

How do you think it starts? With something big? I wish people knew their history.

How what starts? We need more babies, they’re going to incentivise having babies. I fail to see the issue. It’s a choice and if you don’t want to do it, you’ll be no worse off than you are now. I would be 101% again penalising women for not having children but this isn’t it.

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:05

Chattycathydoll · 09/10/2022 19:03

It doesn’t support families. It doesn’t give children or parents better prospects. It just encourages women to give birth, in an otherwise unsupported environment.

It does support families because it gives them the extra cash towards their living expenses.

cardibach · 09/10/2022 19:05

missbipolar · 09/10/2022 18:13

Tbf I don't necessarily think it's a terrible idea in itself but I'll probably get flamed for that

It’s an a ritual Nazi policy. It couldn’t be further from not terrible. Especially next to everything else they are up to.

luxxlisbon · 09/10/2022 19:05

I don’t have strong feelings for this policy but if I’m honest I don’t understand the strong feelings against.
Surely if it was only some sort of tax break against childcare it would be put as not caring about women, not caring about families, pushing women into work etc
surely this way families who have children in childcare see a difference to their income and families who have more casual childcare arrangements or work opposite shifts to their partner also benefit.

Honestly to me all the complaints seem quite hyperbolic.

And how is it against women who can’t have children? Surely this would be no different to child benefit in that regard and I don’t see anyone regularly saying that unfairly against childless people.

cardibach · 09/10/2022 19:06

missbipolar · 09/10/2022 18:13

Tbf I don't necessarily think it's a terrible idea in itself but I'll probably get flamed for that

Also, I thought we were full? If so it makes no difference if the extras are born here or not. Do we have room or don’t we?

LastnightIdreamtofsomebagels · 09/10/2022 19:06

Theeyeballsinthesky · 09/10/2022 18:31

What happens if you’re a woman who can’t have children?

do you become a second class woman? Less valuable to the fatherland because you can’t procreate?

It makes you an Unwoman, and off you go to the colonies, as I recall.

Exasperatednow · 09/10/2022 19:06

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:01

Why is it misogynistic?

Because if they really wanted to support women they'd put in better infrastructure to help women work such as affordable childcare that included better paid childcare workers (who are mostly women). They'd also make sure that child maintenance payments actually happened when women often and inevitably get left with the all responsibility.

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:06

cardibach · 09/10/2022 19:05

It’s an a ritual Nazi policy. It couldn’t be further from not terrible. Especially next to everything else they are up to.

Oh come on. Because they’re going to give tax breaks to people with kids, we’re morphing into Nazi Germany?!

cardibach · 09/10/2022 19:06

YellowTreeHouse · 09/10/2022 18:25

You’re aware it’s not compulsory, yes?

Yet

Cuppasoupmonster · 09/10/2022 19:07

Exasperatednow · 09/10/2022 19:06

Because if they really wanted to support women they'd put in better infrastructure to help women work such as affordable childcare that included better paid childcare workers (who are mostly women). They'd also make sure that child maintenance payments actually happened when women often and inevitably get left with the all responsibility.

But the extra cash will help towards nursery fees, no?

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 09/10/2022 19:07

It’s awful because incentivising fertility is wrong at every level.

cardibach · 09/10/2022 19:08

Upthebracket22 · 09/10/2022 18:32

@Theeyeballsinthesky yes, quite, terrifying. And to all those not able to see why it’s so grim, it’s the start of a road to less womens rights - a road you could argue we are already on

It’s a rhetoric which preceded the issues with abortion in America. The slipperiest of slippery slopes.

MsBombastic555 · 09/10/2022 19:08

miceonabranch · 09/10/2022 18:17

Presumably it's Hump For Hungary over there 😄

Women aren't domestic animals to be used for re populating a country though.

Oooh are we doing this??

Smash for Sweden 😀

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