Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

[Wigollia]

For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

He’s a prat for booking business with short haul. Complete waste of money unless it was cheaper. If BA, exactly the same size seats as economy, a bad “meal” and using your points for it is even dumber. Enjoy your same sized seat and extra ££!

This would bother me, but I can't really put my finger on why. Pre-kids we'd never pay to book seats for short haul as we'd rather save the cash for when we were away (and would happily sit apart - we never asked people to move). So sitting apart on a flight wouldn't be an issue, but this just feels a bit different.

Genuine question. Why shouldn’t he travel business if he can afford it? If you cannot afford it that’s not his responsibility. It’s a bit dire to be financially reliant on your boyfriend hoping he’ll either upgrade your seat or he’ll settle and downgrade

I'd also love to tell him on arrival at the holiday destination, that I met a really nice men, who was sat next to me on the plane and we'll be keeping in touch, as we had such a life and got on so well. 😂 🤣

A friend's husband used to do this on the long flight to Australia to see family, leaving her with the children. Or sometimes if they were together he'd take sleeping pills leaving her with the children.

They're divorced.

My bf of 5 months pays for my BC tickets and everything. Raise your standards!

Yep, who books flights separately?

When we have only had enough points (as my husband flies lots so earns them) for one upgrade we don’t generally bother as for us, the break starts on the plane and we want to sit together.

In the unlikely event only one was upgraded, my husband would insist it was me every time. 7 months or 7 years. He’d always put me first.

Your boyfriend sounds like an arse.

Had you agreed to book separately? Or had you not really discussed it, he just went ahead and did it?

Either way it's ridiculous, just to be clear. He's not a keeper.

@Wigollia don't go. What a dick!

What kind of an arse is so self important he'll waltz to the front of the plane while his companion sits in economy.

Is he one of those red trouser types?

Arsehole.

Also who bothers to fly business to Europe.

completely unacceptable

Hes shown you who he is now. Higher your standards.

This happened to us. Our family were flying business class long haul and my husband was told at the gate that he had been upgraded to first. He refused to the upgrade which seemed to cause all sorts of problems. He used to get upgraded quite often but not if we were all travelling together. I think the reason they upgraded him that time was because the kids and my tickets had been booked separately from my husbands.

@adriftabroad that's just not true. Not with BA anyway.

People who have retired and have more points than they know what to do with.

Bloody hell!

Sounds like a Cocky bastard, i think you should marry him.

There's a lot wrong with this OP

firstly, part of the fun of travelling with someone is the actual travel part - having someone to chat to during the flight. It's usually more fun and more special for a first trip away in a new relationship. The fact he doesn't want to do this with you shows that he's not that bothered about spending time with you and he's selfish

two, the fact he didn't mention it first before he booked shows a
lack of consideration for you. EVEN if he had airmiles and wanted to use them to business, he should have mentioned it before he booked.

three the mere fact he booked it with reference to you has the same faults as both of the above -because for all he knew, you may have said 'ooh great I have airmiles too/ or I fancy a business class trip too '.

four the fact he would choose to do this without reference to you FOR A SHORT HAUL flight is really odd. I mean fair enough to consider doing it for a long haul if you can use miles to upgrade but again I would expect a discussion first. But the main point of business class for short haul is for early boarding/early disembarking and TO USE THE LOUNGE. Is that is what he's going to do at the airport? Not have a drink with you but leave you outside while he quaffs the free booze?

All in all it's very very bad. It's made worse that it is early in your relationship when both of you should still be putting your best side forward. So that tells you that there is far worse to come.

Personally I'd dump him.

Yeah I'd initially have thought this was a joke... my dh wouldn't leave me to sit by myself on a full plane journey even if he had the points for business class because its part of your holiday together. I find that really bizarre that he would even think to do that when he could have saved the business points and used them another time. He could at least have spoken to you about it first and you could have agreed you're fine with it which is a different matter and would have been grand but to just go and do it is a bit thoughtless. To me it comes across as selfish and I'd be a bit wary of that attitude going forward on holiday. Does he normally like to get his own way or maybe is just used to putting himself first? It's that thing isn't it "when someone shows you who they are believe them the first time?" .

Because it’s their first trip together. So it’s as much about the journey as the destination. Why wouldn’t you want to share that?

I’m very much a “I’m paying my own way” girl but I’ve never had a relationship where we didn’t both discuss and book it together. As it stand DH has thousands of points, BA Gold membership and lounge benefits. Even before we married he git me into lounge becayse why wouldn’t you?

I would dump him for that alone.
You're certainly not his priority, that's for sure.

I'd tell him to get fucked

You massively drip fed that he paid with points from his Amex. Sounds reasonable to me. He will be able to take you in to the lounge, so you are complaining about not sitting next to him for a couple of hours. Grow up.