Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

[Wigollia]

For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

This is weird! Yeah maybe it’s early days so you both contribute but he should have just booked your flight with his, and you could have paid the cost of your flight or whatever. Just seems selfish and strange.

Lack of communication

I would have expected to book together so as to sit together. Spending time together is surely the whole point of the break? And, if he used the Amex points for business then surely he could have helped you by paying half the difference. It's not how long you have been going out together but how thoughtful he is. My hubby would not have done that, he would have made sure that we were together one way or another.

What an utter arse flying business to a European city!

You read my mind. Who does that for a short flight?

It’s not just lack of communication. It’s no communication plus a lack of care about how the OP is getting there. The former is fixable. The latter seems terminal.

I think I’d be saying why stop at sitting separately…why not separate planes to separate destinations 😂

Self-absorbed, selfish prick who clearly doesn’t love you. Dump him NOW and definitely do not go on the holiday.

A week since asking and no up. You OK? Decision made?

@Wigollia have you talked to him since? What have you decided?

if I were him, I’d have offered you half of my points.

go somewhere nice by yourself.

Bye bye.

This is the first sign of inequality in the relationship. It won’t be the last. Either he should have offered to help you afford business class or travelled economy with you. Dump, dump, dump.

In this situation, I would book my flight, and let him know.

I just wouldn't tell him that I was booked to a different city. I would also (for maximum inconvenience), book a flight that is due in after his is due. Even better if there is a flight to where he is going that lands around the same time as yours does. And let him wait at the airport for you.

I wouldn't go. That is absolutely horrible.

@Wigollia - please can we have an update?

I always fly business. I will bring you with me.

Emotional unintelligence ramping up there! How could he think that is ok? Should have said that he wanted to go Business and could he top up your ticket to join him. This is a red flag for your (doomed) relationship.

I am even thinking it is not ok when flying with colleagues who have a higher status and they fly business / first class and I have to fly economy, even on long haul flights. Let alone a partner …

My wife works full time sometimes 60 hours a week I work part time about 30 hours we have an agreement that my wife flys business class and I fly economy on all our long haul flights as my wife covers the cost of the flights I do not have a problem with this arrangement

aaaarrrrrr you invoked the dreaded zombie curse

[ screams silently ]

lol all in good fun Dude. its what we do when people add a post to a long forgotten post

Nah, he only cares about himself. Dump.

Oh wow. There is absolutely no way I'd stand for this!

I had an ex like this we went a couple of long haul holiday flights- he would book business class while I could only afford economy.
One of the final straws was he booked himself a plush 5 star hotel in Sri Lanka while I had to stay in a grotty no star hotel down the road, with bed bugs, shared toilet and blood splatters up the wall.
I left him on our return.