Would you be bothered flying economy whilst partner flies business?

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For context:

You both discuss going to European city, half of accommodation each and paying for own flights.

Boyfriend messages to say they’ve booked their flights, you message to say ok I’ll book mine now, did you reserve your seat?? Boyfriend says “oh I’m flying business we can just meet up on the other side”

Thoughts?

He'd be shoving his business class ticket up the end of his hole if that was me. Aided with the heel of my Louboutins.

Get rid of him, OP.

And A business class flight to a European destination usually means a doily on your seat, no one in the middle and a rushed meal service.

Not worth it and not worth having lost a relationship over. What a Wally.

TBF both situations can be correct, depends on how full the flight is.

My first trip away with my bow DH was a ski holiday. He earned about 10k less than me so I bought all his clothing for him and paid for most meals and things whilst we were there. This was after a similar amount of time. I didn’t question doing it as I wanted us to experience it together. I understand this is about the flight only but the message is if this is how he thinks of your holidays now it’s not a great future is it.

DH now earns double what I earn and all of our money is joint money, I like to think it’s because of the mutual respect with money at the beginning when he earnt less.

The real benefit of business on short hall is the lounge access. If he’s got enough status you could benefit from that I suppose. Often it’s only £60 to upgrade so maybe suggest he pays for that.
What happens when you go out for dinner, will he order Dom P and lobster every night while you have a regular meal?

If you can't afford business, does he know that? Maybe he assumed you'd do the same thing.

You don't turn in other redirection at the gate for EU flights

You dont usually book flights with Amex points directly- you need another vehicle such as BA or Avios- how did he do it and didn't he have enough for 2? If it is BA you can vary cash and points.

Business on EU flights is rarely worth it (unless its Swiss and they are fab!)

Get yourself a miles earning credit card. Dont open one without a decent bonus and referrals. Headforpoints is a brilliant website for all that guff.

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Ive booked business short haul (BA ) and it was two seats rather than a row of 3 in front of the curtain. . But I agree not much difference for a short haul flight apart from a free coffee as I recall. ( The business seats were due to airmiles ) Long haul - different matter,

My point was rather if the chap wants to go on holiday with you and he has enough air miles he could have discussed it and used the points he had accordingly. ( & you could have reimbursed him for the economy seat which you can afford ) or both gone economy which for an hour or two unless you are Richard Osman sized is doable if the taller person can book an aisle seat.

As with others I would say it the lack of talking about it I would not care for.

Wtf. This guy couldn’t give two hoots about you.

I'd bin this one off. I'd never get as far as "boyfriend/girlfriend" status with one of these men.

I wouldn't inherently have a problem with it myself especially if the reason for the Business Class was leg length as I certainly don't need to pay for extra leg length 😂 But that would be if we were both trying to economise and it was a genuine need. Not this.

Glad to hear you are pulling out of the trip, OP.

It’s the classic MN saying ‘he is showing you who he is’.

I went on holiday with a friend (non romantic) and had enough points for an upgrade to business which I used to get us both upgrades to economy plus (long haul) instead.

Not sure this one is a keeper.

Yeah, this guy's a complete douche bag and if you haven't yet paid for accommodation, don't do so yet!

Tell the douche that you probably won't see each other at the airport but not to worry, as he said, you can reconvene in arrivals.

And don't bother going at all.

• *And if he calls you from the airport, tell him that you're so sorry but you had to cancel to de-flea the cat and that you did go to the airport to try to catch him but you couldn't get past security!

Very weird, even with the Amex points explanation.

I’d been seeing someone 6 months when he started talking about wanting to revisit somewhere that involved a long haul flight. I said I couldn’t possibly afford a trip like that.

He paid for my ticket. I didn’t ask him to, he wanted me to go with him.
We’ve been married nearly 25 years.

If its a deal through an Amex card, it's usually two for the points of one or half the points for a solo trip.

It's possible that he didn't have enough points for both of you and was focused on using his free flight which usually has to be booked within quite a tight timescale.

However for your first break together at the very least, it's thoughtless.I'd message him something like " Our first flight and we're not together- what's that all about ?" at least give him the opportunity to explain why it was more important to use his Amex points than be together.

That’s dreadful on his part.

He looks out for his own comfort and has prioritised that over being together. Personally I wouldn’t be going on the trip with him. 7 months in and you’re committed. It isn’t someone you met last week.

Also, business class to Europe isn’t actually amazing. It’s jumping the queue at security, a pop into the lounge and perhaps an empty middle seat on the plane. Then you get a cuppa in a porcelain cup instead of cardboard. So I think he’s been a bit daft.

Not sure why people initially questioned/didn’t believe it’s true….. my dh has just fucked off on holiday for 3 weeks to another continent without me or the kids, using most of his annual leave in the process. Apparently me being miffed is controlling and mean spirited. Get out now op.

I’d say he’s a twat

I don't think he views you as a keeper, OP. No sane, sensible, kind man would treat a woman he wanted to impress and plan a life with in this manner. Question is, what do you want to take from this behaviour on his part?

FIL and his partner do this. They travel a lot and she uses points (not acquired from their travels) to upgrade her travel as she prefers flying in business, he doesn't see the point in paying extra and doesn't have points so goes economy. Difference is they discuss it beforehand and are both getting their preference

If it's a flight under 4/5 hours I don't even see the point in business class anyway. It's not a long time to sit down, I've spent longer in my own bloody car with nobody to bring a drink to my seat, economy is luxury compared to that.

I don't even understand the added hassle of booking the flights separately, just book the whole thing together and pay half. He doesn't sound a keeper to me.

No I wouldn’t want to go after that!

This scenario came up on the radio recently?

if I were you (or the person I’m question) I’d either not go or arrange a solo trip without him. F that.

I'd think he was a tit.