I have been with my partner for over 5 years. I moved into his house with my DC's (from previous relationship) after a couple of years. He works away a lot, sometimes several months at a time.
Two years into the relationship he asked me to Marry him. He was tipsy so I laughed and told him to ask me when he was sober. I told him to seriously consider what he was asking for, but he remained certain. He then went away for work, so I didn't receive a ring until 7 months later.
We told the whole family, everyone was really chuffed for us - and my family particularly as my previous relationship was very abusive and nearly broke me.
He has been away for a few months again, but has done a complete u turn on marriage. He says he loves me, wants to be with me forever, but just doesn't want the wedding.
I am really miffed. Previously I never really wanted to get married again, but that was until I met my now partner. I was excited because we had planned to elope, then just have a party when we got back.
He still wants me to wear the ring, but to me it feels like a sign of ownership with no commitment. He's due home soon, and I am seriously considering giving the ring back.
I don't know if I Abu or if those feelings of being controlled previously are bubbling to the surface.
AIBU?
AIBU?
Engaged, but he's refusing to marry me.
Davegrohlsnewwife · 08/10/2022 18:11
Am I being unreasonable?
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Davegrohlsnewwife · 08/10/2022 18:18
I will be okay financially if we do split, and I hope it doesn't come to that - but initially we were looking to buy a place together which would have provided some stability.
But the future feels really uncertain now.
KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 08/10/2022 18:16
He’s keeping you hanging until something better comes along.
The ring was purely to keep you sweet.
Bin him off and do better OP.
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