Why do women hate an OW?

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When a woman is seeing a married man, why do people say they wouldn't want her as a friend, in their lives anymore etc? Why are they judged solely on one thing when there may be so many other positives to their character.

I'm curious really, for the record I'm not an other woman, but my friend is. It's her business and I shall be there when the shit inevitably hits the fan.

If some posters on here had their way, she wouldn't have friends and would be isolated and lonely. I just don't think anyone deserves that when in reality it's the man who has taken vows.

I think this is correct. Eg see @ViolinPin comments about the ow taking the money and “inheritance” away.

‘If you want to fight misogyny.....

Do it with your knickers down with a married man’

weirdest thing I’ve read on MN for a while, and that’s saying something.
I’d suggest heading over to the feminism board for better, more practical tips.

She’s not responsible for the cheating as he can always say no. Same as in same sex couples.

The cheater is responsible solely for his conduct. He is not “tempted away” by an evil creature. He chooses to cheat.

@MsPincher

Ah a reverse of the whole "if there were no dirty women, there wouldn't be any dirty men" argument.

Absolute bullshit.

Adults are responsible for their own behaviour, yes.

A woman who knowingly goes with a married man or woman is responsible and culipible for hurting another human being and as @Skydaze has said, taking away their bodily autonomy.

It's abuse and she's party to it.

End of.

Not be able to provide one other example where 2 people take part in
abuse or any poor behaviour but only one is deemed to have any
responsibility at all

Excellent point and post @Hearthnhome

Don’t be ridiculous. An ow doesn’t take away anyones “bodily autonomy” or “abuse” them. That’s just silly. It’s also awful to blame women for mens abuse.

Quite! So, you didn't know what we were talking about? Don't worry about it.

Two people are not though. One is married to their spouse and is cheating on them. The other is a stranger to the spouse and has no duty to them. Quite different things.

The ow who knows the mm is married is doing the same as the ow who doesn’t. Some men cheat with sex workers who don’t care if their clients are married or not (and why should they).

ultimately men must take responsibility for their own harmful behavior. They cannot blame it on women.

I didn’t make any of that up.

They are all things that have happened on this thread.

Who is talking about my dh? I don’t have one. I don’t want to get married. It weakens my financial position.

But if the only rebuttal is ‘you must be just insecure and not trust your (non existent) husband’ , you clearly have no point to make. Maybe try harder.

How is that any different to ‘if you defend OW you must be one’ that was called ridiculous earlier in the thread.

You can definitely tell who the OW are on this thread! Desperate to take no accountability for their actions at all. I wonder if they think getaway drivers in crimes are innocent too, after all the getaway driver didn’t do the crime?

It's what you believe though isn't it, that true emancipation will only come by not having a concience, morals or empathy.

So you are saying freedom from social, leagal, and political restaints can only be achieved by sexual liberation to the point whereby you actively harm one of your own kind .....women.

The same women you purport to love and protect with strong conviction ?

Well don't ever back me up I don't need that kind of false of support system.

You are a bunch of hypocrytes, hiding behind your only defence of misogyny.
You are the biggest bunch of women haters I know.

Two people are though.

If a man is berating his wife in the street and a woman joins in the abuse of her, would the think the woman joining in isn’t to blame?

Name one situation where 2 people are involved in harming someone else and only one would hold any responsibility?

Fact is, you can’t.

you definitely did make those things up. The “you” doesn’t necessarily mean you personally. “One” cannot simply expect the entire female world population to stop ones dh putting it about. I’m afraid men must take responsibility for their own actions.

some having sex with a mm isn’t involved in harming the wife as I said though. She’s not married to her and has no duty to her at all. She may not know he’s married. She may not care (eg a prostitute desperate for money). It’s not on her to keep him to his marital vows.

Oh it's becoming painful now 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Ops I didn’t make it up.

It’s all in the thread in black and white. You can keep saying ‘that didn’t happen’ but it doesn’t make it true.

ah so now anyone who doesn’t want to be friends with someone who is an OW must just not trust their husband. Talk about small mindedness.

Some of your posts have been very misogynist and overall pretty ghastly. Sorry your dh cheated- that’s was his fault though. Stop raging at women because of it.

Emm yeah you also made up that stuff in your post above about trusting husbands etc. I didn’t say that either as it clearly set out above.

maybe stop digging.

@MsPincher No you're making things up by denying these things were said, they were and you know they were. We've seen some shit on this thread.
You're lying your head off post after post and expect to be taken seriously?

Since you don't get it, it's worth repeating that men are 100% responsible for their own actions and choices.
So are OW.
Have you not noticed you can't stop pp having an opinion about both?

Lol!

Yes, they are involved in harming someone else.

2 people are taking part in an action that’s directly causing someone harm. One person may hold less responsibility. But they are responsible for their own actions.

I’m not at all lying and my posts are clear to see as are yours. I absolutely agree that men are responsible for their own choices as I have said many times.

You talked about concern about husbands putting it about.

If you are concerned about your husband putting it about, you don’t trust them.

not rocket science. It’s like you aren’t even trying

There are clearly a few women in here who’ve been really damaged by the break down if their relationship, and for whatever reason think it’s all down to the OW.
If she hadn’t have come along and stolen their DHs everything would have been fine… doubt it though.
their anger is deffo misplaced.

@MsPincher You just think only men should be judged on their actions, not OWs.