Teacher’s assistant lying 🤥

[Babycakes6]

So I was waiting to pick up my child and saw another mum who is always pushing in, at the school queue, in front of my child.

I saw her do it again in the morning and while waiting to pick up our children, I told her I saw her doing it again and asked her not to do it. She waved her hand at me and told me ‘you’ve got a problem’. The next morning the headteacher asked me to come in and asked ‘why was I making another parent cry’. I told her what was said but she said that the teacher’s assistant ( who wasn’t there at the time) reported me.
I tried to talk to the assistant and told her that I wasn’t yelling and the other mum wasn’t crying but she said she saw her crying and that ‘we have to agree to disagree’. I am gobsmacked and how do I deal with lying? Why would she lie?

What should I do?
AIBU - let it go
AINBU- complain

Agree to just let it go.
There are so many inconsistencies here.
The Original OP says pushing in and now she s pushing and hurting her DD??
Sounds like a drama over nothing and actually if the other DC has anxiety /SEN then you are making things much worse.

This must be very stressful for dd. Fgs don't ask her to scream when someone pushes in front of her!

She is a child, she shouldn't have to see her Mum having a spat in the school playground and then be pressured into "being more confident" and challenging a grown up.

Sort it out with the school. Don't challenge the Mum directly.

I’m more intrigued by the thought of the HT getting involved. Weird situation that.

I'm so confused. So the kids were lining up in the classroom at the end of the day and the Mum went in and got in the line too? And she does the same at the start of the day? What are you on about?

Maybe not but she may be manipulative and be bravely holding back the tears when telling the tale of the mean mean mum who bullied her wahh wahh

You should try and record her doing this to your daughter so you can provide evidence.

Have any other parents witnessed the pushing? Or did anyone witness the altercation between you and other mum? If not, you have no evidence.

Agree with pps, you need to let this go. Work on supporting your daughter to find her voice

Absolutely don't report for safeguarding.
The HT only has to say you were fighting with another parent in the playground. That IS a safeguarding issue..

So this woman is regularly picking on your child?

This mother is pushing children around? Who is allowing that? If this woman was pushing my child around she would be more than crying, she would be in hospital!!

Is this real? If it is I have never known a school to let parents line up in the playground with children. I would take that further without mentioning the other parent as that is a safeguarding issue as any one could wander into the playground without being challenged by a teacher.

Don't do this.

Legal advice? Ofsted? Safeguarding? Moving schools? I can’t believe the drama people create. This mother is obviously pushy and a bit of a twat. Go home and moan to your husband about it and forget about it. Say to your little girl to ignore so and so’s mother for some bizarre reason she likes to line up with the kids (still can’t really get my head round this). Perhaps mention it to the teacher who I assume is overseeing this queue when you next see her but don’t make this a huge thing, every school as a dickhead parent who parks like dick, pushes in first, ass licks the head. Just smile at them all and say hello, this is becoming way bigger than it needs to be.

@MrsDoyle351
I’m laughing so hard I’m actually crying 🤣

it’s getting more confusing by the second

I was going to suggest this, too. At the moment this is just OP's word against the other woman's.

And I'd be encouraging my child to say, loudly and clearly, "Don't push/touch me, I don't like it" if/when this happens.

Next interaction film it "for all our safety"?

This thread is batshit. Safe guarding? Ofsted? Manhandled? Getting you daughter to scream? Not people advising your primary aged daughter to record?

The line stuff is really hard to follow but basically you’re saying this child and her mum always cut in front of your daughter in the line? Well except the times you have seen her cut in front of others and the majority of times where you don’t actually see it at all because you admit to usually leaving, but you know it’s happening?

Thats not abuse! Jesus Christ. As most it’s just being a cunt.
You can’t go to ofsted because of that though!

Can I get this straight.
This is the morning and the line is to go in.
Once the gates are opened the children go and line up ready to for staff to come and collect them. Your child was at the front of the line. This parent turns up and put her child in the second place in the line, but rather than then heading off she lines up with her.
You say something to her and then she goes to the head to complain about you.

Have I got that right?

My assumption is that her child is anxious and she needs to wait with her. I’d be very surprised if she shoved other children out of the way, more put a hand on their back and asked them to step forwards etc.

So, you posted this in the early hours and have continued posting through the night, your posts becoming more and more batshit as time goes on.

My suggestion would be to stick to the playground.

I'm a tad concerned for the poor mammy who thinks the children's line up is for her to get into, only to be screeched at and "reported" (reminds me of kids when we were little who at the slightest ruckus would go "I'm going to REPORT you" with nobody, least of all them, having a clue who they were going to "report" anybody to) and threatened with Ofsted.

Extrapolating from the hyperbole.

Kids line up (in order of arrival)
Evil Mammy arrives and puts her child in line (not in order of arrival but possibly in front of OP's child)
Cue conflict in manner of Vlad and Vlod.

Nothing to see here, move on.

But, OP- you are already "that" parent. Every school has them. It's not a good look and it's not nice for your daughter. If you have made members of staff cry- and from your OTT goings on it's highly likely, then sooner or later you WILL be banned. And that might be a good thing for your poor daughter having to witness all this behaviour from you.

She physically pushes your child aside? So she can get higher up the queue?

if that’s true it’s incredibly odd. But then so would the ta making up shit. Both are highly unlikely.

you being aggressive and having an issue with the woman,,,not so unlikely.

Another here a bit confused with the wording. Is this woman touching your dd in an aggressive way? ie pushing her? Or just cutting into the line? Is this always at the front? If always at the front, maybe her child needs to go in first but otherwise she sounds batshit. Is your child upset by all this? I'm afraid that if my child was being manhandled by this woman it would not be tolerated by me.

You say the head has no problem with the children being watched, therefore they would have no problem with you recording the " pushing " on your phone to show them the issue

I am worried about my DD’s self-confidence which is already low and a bit of a problem. Also I observed the school assembly and school dance and this girl just swipes my daughter aside and pushes in front. After that my daughter just goes at the back and hides. Very disturbing.
I’m thinking that this girl is doing it because her mother has her back, at all times. Being SAHM, she has a lot of spare time and always hangs around the playground, joins the school for every event, excursion etc. If she is pushing kids in the plane sight, what is she doing when I am not there?
Is she the reason my daughter has confidence issues and won’t participate/ hides at school events? My daughter goes to dance out of school and doesn’t behave that way at the other (dance) school and is more confident there. I really think something is going on at school.

I don’t get it either. No queuing at our school. 🤔 They are dropped at the school gate and walk in.

@Babycakes6

either you are trolling and purposefully being elusive with your replies or you are from my take on this: allowing your daughter to be “bullied” by another child and her mum all while you stand there and watch, Is this correct ?