Dh doesn't work on a Friday. He looks after the dcs, aged 1 and 4. I'm a part time teacher and work on a Friday. My alarm is set for 6.55am and dcs wake up naturally around then too.
Dh has got it in his head that he wants to get up early every morning to do a work out or go for a run. But at 5.30am this morning, his stupid loud alarm went off and woke me up and I couldn't get back to sleep.
I think this is really selfish and unfair of him. I'm the one with a demanding job today and need all the sleep I can get. Dc2 is still in our room and has an awful cough at the moment so that's made sleep difficult this week. And I've been struggling with anxiety badly too recently and obviously that has a knock on effect to sleep.
I told dh that he was being unfair but he said that I was awake anyway (absolutely not true) and that most people are up before I get up anyway. He's also just said hoe much better he feels for doing his exercise routine early this morning... that's great, but he won't be teaching thirty 5 year olds today! I feel so exhausted already.
Am I being totally unreasonable here?
AIBU?
Husband woke me up with 5.30 alarm so he could do a work out!
RooksAndRavens · 07/10/2022 07:20
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 07/10/2022 08:58
I’ve worked for 38 years. I’ve never got up at 5:30 am.
It’s not a normal time to wake up at. I’d be fucking knackered and seething.
gavinc0328 · 07/10/2022 07:41
My two cents is to see if you can adapt to his lifestyle to become yours. If he is moving towards a more positive lifestyle, it's not bad you go for the same, at least give a try. Waking up at 5.30 for workout / exercise is a fruitful experience. I bet you'll love it.
Novum · 07/10/2022 09:03
I can confidently state she wouldn't. Assuming exercise means going out for a run, how would it even be possible for both to go out with young children?
gavinc0328 · 07/10/2022 07:41
My two cents is to see if you can adapt to his lifestyle to become yours. If he is moving towards a more positive lifestyle, it's not bad you go for the same, at least give a try. Waking up at 5.30 for workout / exercise is a fruitful experience. I bet you'll love it.
Shecrazy · 07/10/2022 07:58
YABVU thinking you're the only one with a demanding job today when he's at home looking after a 1 and 4 year old and the tiny one is ill!
gavinc0328 · 07/10/2022 07:41
My two cents is to see if you can adapt to his lifestyle to become yours. If he is moving towards a more positive lifestyle, it's not bad you go for the same, at least give a try. Waking up at 5.30 for workout / exercise is a fruitful experience. I bet you'll love it.
EarringsandLipstick · 07/10/2022 07:33
Am I being totally unreasonable here?
Yes. I get up at that time to exercise so that's perfectly reasonable. You say his very noisy alarm woke you - if that's true, that's not ok. But what alarm was that noisy? Are you sure it isn't just his phone alarm?
It goes without saying that he needs to get up quickly & quietly when his alarm goes.
BatteryPoweredMammy · 07/10/2022 09:05
You know he did it on purpose as a ‘fuck you’. Read him the riot act and don’t let him get away with this nonsense.
I get up first and have my alarm on my phone on silent mode so it just vibrates under my pillow. Then I get dressed in the en-suite with just the light from my phone. I wouldn’t dream of waking up my DH if I’m getting up first. DH is the same when he comes to bed later than me.
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gavinc0328 · 07/10/2022 07:41
My two cents is to see if you can adapt to his lifestyle to become yours. If he is moving towards a more positive lifestyle, it's not bad you go for the same, at least give a try. Waking up at 5.30 for workout / exercise is a fruitful experience. I bet you'll love it.
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