Husband woke me up with 5.30 alarm so he could do a work out!

[RooksAndRavens]

Dh doesn't work on a Friday. He looks after the dcs, aged 1 and 4. I'm a part time teacher and work on a Friday. My alarm is set for 6.55am and dcs wake up naturally around then too.
Dh has got it in his head that he wants to get up early every morning to do a work out or go for a run. But at 5.30am this morning, his stupid loud alarm went off and woke me up and I couldn't get back to sleep.
I think this is really selfish and unfair of him. I'm the one with a demanding job today and need all the sleep I can get. Dc2 is still in our room and has an awful cough at the moment so that's made sleep difficult this week. And I've been struggling with anxiety badly too recently and obviously that has a knock on effect to sleep.

I told dh that he was being unfair but he said that I was awake anyway (absolutely not true) and that most people are up before I get up anyway. He's also just said hoe much better he feels for doing his exercise routine early this morning... that's great, but he won't be teaching thirty 5 year olds today! I feel so exhausted already.

Am I being totally unreasonable here?

A good man would know better.

a good person would know better

Very odd behaviour is you coming on saying to a mother that is already suffering from anxiety and stress that her saying her husband is essentially gas lighting her, when it was one simple adjustment! And of course, you'll side with @billy1966 because she is backing your craziness.

It's not us not helping the OP.

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I think putting on an alarm for 5.30am in the morning whilst sharing a bedroom with an unwell baby and an exhausted wife who has a hard long day ahead of her is the height of selfishness and not the behaviour of a kind considerate man.

That's my opinion and I'm not for turning.

Telling him to sleep on the sofa or use a vibrating alarm are both solutions.

Putting up with it is not a solution.

When posters write threads about selfish inconsiderate men and ask AIBU, most often the incident they write of isn't in isolation, but part of a pattern of behaviour.

Some on MN a while recognise that and post accordingly.

Others defend vigorously a man's right to be a selfish arse and encourage posters to be more understanding.

Others again call posters that take a hard line on selfish arse behaviour, "men haters"🤷🏻‍♀️

Each to their own.

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No, no , no, no, NO, NO! That is my idea of torture. I think I would have moved out already 😄

Very well said.

I haven't heard any evidence to the contrary so I assume I must be wrong, but for me I don't see how waking up forcefully in the middle of the night and straight away working out is healthy..also if we're supposed to get 8 hours that would mean her husband should really be going bed at 9.30 (perhaps he does I don't know). Also as a sidenote I read that the more sleep you have the less you feel the need to eat in the day. I would find this set up absolutely ridiculous and would not take kindly to it at all 😂

Yes, this 😂😂😂

If l wake up early like that l feel shit all day.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow for real. These kind of get up for a run at 6am people are a COMPLETELY different breed.

These kind of get up for a run at 6am people are a COMPLETELY different breed

From my experience, most of us "run at 6am" people aren't a different breed at all. Most of the people I know like this (myself included) used to be overweight, unhealthy and drink too much, and then decided we didn't want to live like that any more.
And early mornings are often the only time available to exercise if you're factoring in kids and work and other commitments. I'm sure we'd all rather run at 9am if we could, but life generally doesn't allow.

@fellrunner85 yeah I'd just love to run at 9am 😂

How the hell are u even managing to run at all with kids and work commitments? I'm genuinely baffled!

Yes me too. Can’t get past it at all if I wake up really early.