Husband woke me up with 5.30 alarm so he could do a work out!

[RooksAndRavens]

Dh doesn't work on a Friday. He looks after the dcs, aged 1 and 4. I'm a part time teacher and work on a Friday. My alarm is set for 6.55am and dcs wake up naturally around then too.
Dh has got it in his head that he wants to get up early every morning to do a work out or go for a run. But at 5.30am this morning, his stupid loud alarm went off and woke me up and I couldn't get back to sleep.
I think this is really selfish and unfair of him. I'm the one with a demanding job today and need all the sleep I can get. Dc2 is still in our room and has an awful cough at the moment so that's made sleep difficult this week. And I've been struggling with anxiety badly too recently and obviously that has a knock on effect to sleep.

I told dh that he was being unfair but he said that I was awake anyway (absolutely not true) and that most people are up before I get up anyway. He's also just said hoe much better he feels for doing his exercise routine early this morning... that's great, but he won't be teaching thirty 5 year olds today! I feel so exhausted already.

Am I being totally unreasonable here?

Although I see you've got no argument about the fact the man is actually choosing the least selfish time to exercise...

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Sorry but that's truly pathetic and worthy of a five year old.

I will happily say goodbye to you Gloriousglory

I think I've got over the issue in my op quicker than some of the other posters have 😂

Dh and I have sorted it out and reached some compromises.

So you can all calm down now 😊

Dh and I have sorted it out and reached some compromises.

Well now you've gone and ruined everything. How dare you both be grown ups and find a solution? What are the rest of us to do now?

(looks around for someone to fight with)

@saraclara yeh, sorry about that 😂

You've mixed the fact he did this because his hobby is more important than you.

You missed the point he's done this because he doesn't want to look after the baby.

You've missed the point that he thinks that looking after children is woman's work!

Got it now @Lightattheendofthetunnel100 and@Clymene ?

This is what a good and successful relationship actually looks like!

Well done OP, glad you and DH can talk!

@Clymene

Tbf, he won't be able to look after the kids if he dies early from a heart attack. Vibrating wrist alarm and job done.

On Fridays he could Stick the kids in front of the tv whilst he does a home workout for an hour

or if they are little they can go in their cot or play pen

would that work better op @RooksAndRavens

@GloriousGlory

what on earth u on about

the bloke wants to exercise which is a GOOD thing

YABU. How is he meant to wake up to do exercise without an alarm!

By using a vibrating alarm. Easy.

This is low

you say the day was exhausting and you were completely drained of energy. Are you eating enough?

YABU and at the same time a tiny bit NBU

I get up at 5am most mornings to get my exercise in before school run etc. I'm usually back before anyone else is up, especially at the weekend. But I also don't wake everyone else up when I get up. I have my alarm on my watch rather than phone so it only wakes me and have my kit laid out ready in the front room.

My goodness. YABU . Try being married to a shift worker. My husbands alarm goes off at 3am most days!!

@LuckySantangelo35 I was quoting others who were saying all those ridiculous things! @Clymene and @Lightattheendofthetunnel100 being the main culprits

I think it's great and even better they have sorted a compromise, but the two above won't like it! They'd rather make up "whataboutery" and try to say the DH is unreasonable.

You are being completely unreasonable.

He is getting up early to workout not to go play golf or go on a jolly with his mates. Fair play to him for doing it because I’d love to find that level of motivation because whenever I’ve tried I’ve snoozed till at least 6.30.

Also I find it interesting that you say you have a demanding job today, yet you say he is looking after DH today. We see so many posts of women and sahp feeling undervalued by their partners because they don’t work in employment and you are the culprit this time.

I have tried to work out when caring for children and i find it a stressful experience so understand why he can’t do it when looking after them.

If you are the one angered by your partner doing something positive with his time, although slightly inconvenienced you should not be kicking him out the bedroom!

I’m a teacher and I am in work by 6.55am! I think OP should be grateful their ‘demanding’ job let’s them lie in until nearly 7am!!

Get a grip.

I'd defo look into options like vibrating wristbands etc but ultimately my training is 100% non negotiable. I wouldn't let anybody else dictate my physical health/appearance any more than I'd let a partner dictate my job or hairstyle.

THIS!!!!

dont know how anyone could argue against this

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No idea what this means 😂

No idea what you mean by this.

YY. I posted earlier about how I had a job where I started at 6am and was getting up at 4am to exercise beforehand. “Demanding PT job” and “waking up at 7am” also do not connect readily for me either.

@BettyT87 good for you.
I'm in for 8, children in at 8.45. I do all my prep the night before and stay later. So teachers do it your way, some do it my way.