To ask for a handhold I feel so alone

[elm26]

I'm due to have a 6/7 week scan tomorrow after multiple miscarriages (double figures) and I've got period like cramps and bleeding.

I've been bleeding on and off for 2 weeks, no clots.

I feel so alone and I just want to cancel my scan in the morning. Time and time again I've sat in that waiting area, I've had to listen to the "I'm sorry" words, I've had to sit in the family room with a useless leaflet about miscarriage and a box of tissues.

I'm not religious but I could really do with some positive thoughts being put out there for me tonight, I'm not sure I can endure another loss 😢

Sending you massive hugs 🤗 and strength and I so hope that you get good news xx A lot of women you don’t know are thinking of you xx

Have a hand.
it took 6 years to conceive my first. I was spared the pain of miscarriages so I can’t truly understand what you are going through but do understand the ‘will it ever happen’ feeling and I know that fertility issues are far more common than usually talked about. I have everything crossed that this time is different for you. 🤞
we’re here to hold your hand if it’s not.

I had 2 miscarriages before I had ds & 4 after including one at 16 weeks, have you been offered aspirin or progesterone therapy? It was taking the aspirin that enabled me to have ds. Have you had any blood tests to check if you have "sticky" blood? This is one of the biggest causes of early miscarriage.

@elm26 I'm here to hold your hand, pat your back and shush your tears, virtually. But I am doing so with real feeling, and sympathy for what you're going through. You poor thing. That's so very hard. Holding you tight in my thoughts tonight.

I’m so sorry, it’s such hard thing to sit through. I’ve had an early scan because of bleeding and it’s just heartbreaking. I really hope everything turns out ok. My bleeding turned out to be nothing and I had a healthy baby, but I don’t know if that’s helpful to you or not. Sometimes it’s to scary to hope. Thinking of you. Update us if you can bear to, and take our thoughts with you, even if you can’t. 💐

Hand hold here too OP. You’ve been through so much. Sending positive vibes for tomorrow

I’m so sorry that you’re in this situation tonight, @elm26 .

You are not alone, and I’m sending a handhold too.

Don’t go into the clinic if you don’t want to.

Peace and love to you.

💐

Sending prayers and positive thoughts x

I too had bleeding followed by a healthy baby.
Please be kind to yourself, even if this wasn't the one, just remember that there's absolutely nothing you did to cause this. Nothing you could have or can do to change it and there's still hope for the future

Love and best wishes, OP. Fingers crossed for you.

@elm26 sending virtual hugs over to you. Keeping absolutely everting crossed for tomorrow. xx

Time to 💤 😴

Sending hugs OP. Im sorry you are going through this. Sending good vibes too and 💐

Holding your hand and sending you a whole lot of good wishes and hope. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow

I hope that everything works out well for you. Hand holding and positive thoughts are coming your way. Much love xx

i was in your situation. Then I got an appointment at my gp surgery and saw a doctor that just happened to be doing locum. He referred me to haematology (there was no reason why). I was put on clexane at the beginning of my next pregnancy and It was a success. So please never give up hope.

You poor thing. Hand hold here. I haven't had as many miscarriages but I have had three. Two rounds of failed ivf (miscarriage and then no eggs on second attempt). And I do understand the absolute terror of going for a scan, I can still feel the fear now. I suffered 8 years of infertility, all unexplained.

I know it's hard to be hopeful or have a positive mindset when you've been through so much suffering and a lot of trauma regarding pregnancy. But don't lose hope, I did for a long long time. But I pulled myself back from the brink and instead of saying this will never happen I started to believe that it could, I started to say that it would and my first ever natural pregnancy in eight years gave me my 10 month old.

I've honestly been in a similar place to you and it's so painful. It's even hard for me to think about those difficult painful years, but things change, surprises can happen. I never ever thought it would be me, miracles happened to other people, I saw it all the way through my infertility journey and it was never me, I got left behind. And now I can't believe it happened for me. And it could be your turn.

I know the situation is very delicate so I hope there's nothing I've said that has upset you in this incredibly difficult time. But you're not alone. Sending you love and hugs.

So so sorry OP.
Please remember that giving birth is not the only way to become a mum. One of my best friend is the proud mum of two lovely adopted daughters following years of infertility.

All the best wishes

Thinking of you. I will never forget that feeling.

Thinking of you, @elm26
I had lots of miscarriages but already had children, I can't imagine the pain.. I did eventually get my last baby to term! :-)
My sis had lots of bleeding with her only child, but was fine.
I will say a prayer for you.. God Bless. xx

More hand holds, positive thoughts and hugs. Hoping everything is ok for you. 🫂💐

@elm26

Sending love
I had 7 miscarriages before my first baby then had another one then had my second
Stay strong it's so hard but don't give up your dream xx

Thank you so much everyone, I can't even explain how much your messages, prayers, good thoughts, stories mean to me.

Somehow, against all the odds, baby has a heartbeat and everything looks good for now! Baby is tiny! X

@elm26 That's wonderful I'm so pleased for you x