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AIBU?

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To still hold this party if Covid ++?

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Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 07:19

DP has a 40 coming up and we’re having a party - 40/50 people at ours. A couple of friends now have Covid, though should be fine by birthday time.
DP and I were discussing what would happen if either of us were ++ - do we still go ahead? We have events in the run up plus kids in school and we know it’s spiking/spreading.

but UK now just says - get on with it. Don’t even test. Is that right? If someone’s worried or vulnerable they wouldn’t come anyway.

YANBU - just have the party - life goes on

YABU - you have to cancel if someone in the household has COvID, morally if not legally.

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luckylavender · 05/10/2022 13:52

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 07:23

I suppose my Q is - if you think you have Covid and feel okay, are you honestly going to self isolate or do we just treat it like a cold or flu??

Well I wouldn't host a party if I had an infectious disease, whatever it was. Common sense.

Looneytune253 · 05/10/2022 13:52

Personally testing isn't advised anymore so you won't know. Carry on as normal but if you've actually tested positive you would morally have to cancel. Carry on as normal without testing. Only exception I would say is if you were particularly unwell with it or had extremely vulnerable family members

luckylavender · 05/10/2022 13:53

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 08:04

‘There is still the legal question to be answered.’

there really isn’t. Given we don’t test anymore, aren’t encouraged to, and aren’t told to self isolate. And how would you prove where the person got it from? It’d be like trying to convict someone who gave another person flu that ended up killing that person.

Why have you actually asked the question. You don't seem to be listening to the answers.

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Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 13:57

‘Why have you actually asked the question. You don't seem to be listening to the answers.’

I don’t think pointing out that no-one is going to get in trouble with the law for passing on Covid is not listening to the answers.
if you read the whole thread the answers are mixed.

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Jumperoo56370000 · 05/10/2022 14:09

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/10/2022 12:16

Jizzle · Today 10:15
Totally fine to carry on in my opinion. Times have changed, people have moved on. I had Coivd two weeks ago and went in to the office anyway, didn't feel the need to tell anyone as the symptoms weren't too bad. This seems to align with the advice from government and my employers, so all good.“

That was a shitty thing to do. You at least tell people you’re positive.

Appalling behaviour @Jizzle.

Musti · 05/10/2022 14:12

As long as you let people know, I don’t see the problem. I caught covid at a party from I guess someone who was asymptomatic.

bigbluebus · 05/10/2022 14:22

If you know you've got Covid but are well enough to carry on with the party but advise everyone then I think it's fine - all guests can make their own decisions based on the full info - which includes the fact that one of the other guests could turn up carrying Covid regardless of what OP does.
We've been very cautious due to the vulnerable people DH works with. When DH caught covid after Jubilee weekend festivities (most of which were outdoors) we could not think of a single person he'd been in contact with who seemed to have as much as a sniffle and neither myself or our friend caught it then even though we were with the same people. I caught it 4 days later off DH though.
Everyone now has to make their own risk assessment based on vaccination status, health and what other events they might have coming up in the following days that they wouldn't want to miss if they caught covid.

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 14:23

Musti · 05/10/2022 14:12

As long as you let people know, I don’t see the problem. I caught covid at a party from I guess someone who was asymptomatic.

How do you know? Surely you were also going to the shops? Work? Normal life?

Musti · 05/10/2022 14:53

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 14:23

How do you know? Surely you were also going to the shops? Work? Normal life?

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I don’t 100% know but about 10 people got covid immediately after the party, including most who were at the same table.

The thing with parties, you hug and dance, may accidentally drink from a different glass, pick up food from a buffet so I think it increases the chances of catching something.

NicolaSixSix · 05/10/2022 14:59

Let people know you have it and then find out who the covid deniers are in your social circle

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 17:12

Musti · 05/10/2022 14:53

I don’t 100% know but about 10 people got covid immediately after the party, including most who were at the same table.

The thing with parties, you hug and dance, may accidentally drink from a different glass, pick up food from a buffet so I think it increases the chances of catching something.

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Makes me want to go to a party tonight!

RonaLisa · 05/10/2022 17:14

NicolaSixSix · 05/10/2022 14:59

Let people know you have it and then find out who the covid deniers are in your social circle

Or find out who are the sane ones in your social circle.

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 17:15

NicolaSixSix · 05/10/2022 14:59

Let people know you have it and then find out who the covid deniers are in your social circle

Huh?

I get in my car every day despite knowing the risk. Does that make me a “road traffic accident denier”?

RonaLisa · 05/10/2022 17:16

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 12:29

The reality is we won’t test unless we’re really ill. And if we are really ill not likely to want to throw a party anyway.

That's pretty much the obvious answer. Though why would you test if you felt too ill to throw a party? I'm not sure what the point would be.

petpig · 05/10/2022 17:18

Lots of people attending would have probably had it recently and won't mind. Just make you make it very clear to everyone and that you won't be taking precautions by wearing a mask ( or maybe you will)

courgettigreensadwater · 05/10/2022 17:26

I wouldn't know as I'm not testing for it again. If ever I feel really ill I wouldn't see other people anyway, or want to party, so I would do whatever I would've done pre Covid.

courgettigreensadwater · 05/10/2022 17:28

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 07:23

I suppose my Q is - if you think you have Covid and feel okay, are you honestly going to self isolate or do we just treat it like a cold or flu??

If you feel ok why would you even know you have Covid? Even people I know in the nhs aren't just randomly testing any more.

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Splutteramo · 06/10/2022 10:12

‘Everyone now has to make their own risk assessment based on vaccination status, health and what other events they might have coming up in the following days that they wouldn't want to miss if they caught covid.’

i think I agree with this. I expect out of a grp that size someone may be Covid++ and as we’re not testing now they probably wouldn’t even know. Unless they were ill, and in that case wouldn’t come anyway

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