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Splutteramo · 2022-10-05T06:19:19+00:00

DP has a 40 coming up and we’re having a party - 40/50 people at ours. A couple of friends now have Covid, though should be fine by birthday time. DP and I were discussing what would happen if either of us were ++ - do we still go ahead? We have events in the run up plus kids in school and we know it’s spiking/spreading. but UK now just says - get on with it. Don’t even test. Is that right? If someone’s worried or vulnerable they wouldn’t come anyway. YANBU - just have the party - life goes on YABU - you have to cancel if someone in the household has COvID, morally if not legally.

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 10:50

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/10/2022 10:32

If you were to go ahead you must tell all of the invited guests, so they can make an informed choice.

Very wrong otherwise.

And presumably going by your logic, the Op will send out an email to guests requiring them to do the same?

Discovereads · 05/10/2022 10:51

YABU

I am in bed and have Covid right now and that’s not what the ambulance paramedics told my DH four days ago. They stabilised me and gave my DH an earful on how to isolate me here at home and to call 999 if I went downhill again. That everyone in house should be testing daily until we are all negative and to isolate & use sense. I turned a corner yesterday and actually feel human again.

My yr13 is still negative but doing school from home this week as a precaution because it’s common to be negative when you are just catching it and contagious. They said it’s flaring up and the hospitals are full…they’d have taken me in otherwise.

My DH is WFH so all ok there.

I also read on the news that it’s mutated again and is dodging the immunity from the vaccine jabs + booster which is why they’re rolling out the next booster that protects against Omnicron and other new variants. I was supposed to get mine yesterday….but obviously couldn’t go.

The choice to have a party with 40/50 people when you knowingly have Covid is reckless endangerment.

ReviewingTheSituation · 05/10/2022 10:52

Jizzle · 05/10/2022 10:15

Totally fine to carry on in my opinion. Times have changed, people have moved on. I had Coivd two weeks ago and went in to the office anyway, didn't feel the need to tell anyone as the symptoms weren't too bad. This seems to align with the advice from government and my employers, so all good.

So you tested, and went out infecting people whilst knowingly positive? Why bother testing, if that's your attitude?

Just because you felt OK, it doesn't mean the other people you spread it to would be the same.

Don't get me wrong - I wouldn't test for every sniffle etc, but if I did test for any reason, there's no way I would go out spreading it left right and centre!

FartOutLoudDay · 05/10/2022 10:56

I’ve got it (again 🙄) at the moment and definitely wouldn’t feel up to hosting a party, though I have been able to keep working from home. But I only know I had it because I felt rough with weird symptoms and had leftover tests lying around. If I was symptomless I wouldn’t have tested so would never have known I had it and would have gone about my life as normal.

Objectionhearsayspeculation · 05/10/2022 11:29

No you absolutely should not go ahead if either of you are positive!! It's not just a mild cold for some people. We have been extremely careful for the last 2+ years, did a work inspection (work on our own farm and once a year it's inspected for certification) the inspector had "just a cold". This was mid September, one week later I felt so ill DH wanted me to go to A&E tested positive the next morning. I'm still bed ridden not by choice, I can't eat much, my stomach is horrendous and I have hearing loss after an excruciating ear infection that is still agony, my head and jaw hurt so much I throw up if I move wrong and I coughed so hard I cracked a rib. My eldest DD was also severely ill, she's 12 and still exhausted and unwell, DH spent 4 days very unwell youngest was mild symptoms but still coughing. This is the first time in 11 days I've even summoned the energy to reply to some messages and type this

Brefugee · 05/10/2022 11:30

Totally fine to carry on in my opinion. Times have changed, people have moved on. I had Coivd two weeks ago and went in to the office anyway, didn't feel the need to tell anyone as the symptoms weren't too bad. This seems to align with the advice from government and my employers, so all good.

afaik the advice from the UK government is still to isolate for 5 days? And bully for you, you were lucky and it was mild. A person you give it to may not be so lucky. It is literally a lottery. I was absolutely floored last time. DD had it quite badly, DH? nothing.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 05/10/2022 11:32

If any of your guests are looking after, or are in contact with people at high risk, you absolute must tell them if you test positive.

gymbopo · 05/10/2022 11:35

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 07:23

I suppose my Q is - if you think you have Covid and feel okay, are you honestly going to self isolate or do we just treat it like a cold or flu??

If I felt fine then yes the party could go ahead but I would tell absolutely everyone that was coming and tell them you will not be offended in the slightest if they don't want to come. As for going out and about, I would go to supermarket etc masked up but I wouldn't be going out to restaurants, cinema etc until I was negative.

QuestionableMouse · 05/10/2022 11:45

gymbopo · 05/10/2022 11:35

If I felt fine then yes the party could go ahead but I would tell absolutely everyone that was coming and tell them you will not be offended in the slightest if they don't want to come. As for going out and about, I would go to supermarket etc masked up but I wouldn't be going out to restaurants, cinema etc until I was negative.

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Yeah, cause fuck those people in the supermarket! Home delivery is a thing you know 🤷🏻‍♀️

CheezePleeze · 05/10/2022 11:49

QuestionableMouse · 05/10/2022 11:45

Yeah, cause fuck those people in the supermarket! Home delivery is a thing you know 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Home delivery wouldn't be a thing if everyone with a cough/sore throat decided to stay home from work immediately, and wait 4 or 5 days to see if they'll produce a positive LFT or not.

Get real. The country would come to a standstill.

gymbopo · 05/10/2022 11:49

@QuestionableMouse don't be so rude. Learn to debate with people without swearing. Not a good look.

SallyWD · 05/10/2022 12:04

I would cancel. At the very least I'd tell everyone but really I'd cancel. My best friend (very healthy 40 year old) has been signed off work for 3 months with long Covid. I know someone (another healthy women in her 40s) who got Covid in April 2020 and is STILL suffering now, 2.5 years later and is in a wheelchair! One friend of mine still hasn't regained her sense of smell and taste from summer 2021. I know 2 elderly people who died from it. I know most people say "Oh ignore it. I had it and it was a very mild sniffle" but sadly I know too many people who have been greatly affected by it.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/10/2022 12:16

Jizzle · Today 10:15
Totally fine to carry on in my opinion. Times have changed, people have moved on. I had Coivd two weeks ago and went in to the office anyway, didn't feel the need to tell anyone as the symptoms weren't too bad. This seems to align with the advice from government and my employers, so all good.“

That was a shitty thing to do. You at least tell people you’re positive.

MrsSkylerWhite · 05/10/2022 12:19

gymbopo · Today 11:49
@QuestionableMouse don't be so rude. Learn to debate with people without swearing. Not a good look.“

yes, QuestionableMouse. Potentially infecting other people in a supermarket is perfectly ok now, didn’t you know?
Swearing? Shame on you.

Good grief.

TreeLine6 · 05/10/2022 12:23

I wouldn’t test

Ffsmakeitstop · 05/10/2022 12:25

Canthinkofaname79 · 05/10/2022 07:26

I've currently got Covid, I've not had it before, had all my jabs but I feel horrendous. I wouldn't inflict this om anyone.

Me too and my DH. We haven't left the house for 10 days because he got it first and I tested positive on his 6th day.
My dd was going to see her friends who have young children on Saturday but she"s cancelled because it's the responsible thing to do.

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Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 12:29

The reality is we won’t test unless we’re really ill. And if we are really ill not likely to want to throw a party anyway.

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Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 12:29

As in, we aren’t going to routinely test in the run up…

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Ffsmakeitstop · 05/10/2022 12:30

As for the people working and not telling anyone that's awful. Our policy is to stay off until you get a negative test but it is now treated as normal sickness. I've had to use holiday, luckily my immediate manager is not a twat. I can't afford to lose 3 days pay as that's our qualifying period. I just hope I'm well enough to go back.

Jumperoo56370000 · 05/10/2022 13:37

PeloFondo · 05/10/2022 10:31

The problem is managing the risk
So I'm immunocompromised and will be for life
Half this site says get on with it, some say manage your own risk... but how exactly
Managing my own risk seems to be never going to a gathering, supermarket, holiday, anywhere ever again
But then other people say I shouldn't still be shielding and it's just a cold and nobody needs to wear a mask
Genuinely (not being goady!) this is why it's so hard because my blood disorder is lifelong and not months/couple of years. I can manage my risk by asking people who visit me to test but anywhere else is like playing Russian roulette

But I can't stay isolated forever although it's been a long few years now

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Thanks

Jumperoo56370000 · 05/10/2022 13:41

Jumperoo56370000 · 05/10/2022 13:37

Thanks

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Sorry @PeloFondo - I was trying to say thanks for articulating this so clearly.

A small amount of care from everyone means that people who are vulnerable (and that’s millions of people of all ages) don’t have to hide away completely. What happened to caring about one another. “Those that are vulnerable will have to manage their risk” is another way of saying “we don’t give a fuck about people with cancer, kids, those with lung conditions or older people.”

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 13:45

Ffsmakeitstop · 05/10/2022 12:25

Me too and my DH. We haven't left the house for 10 days because he got it first and I tested positive on his 6th day.
My dd was going to see her friends who have young children on Saturday but she"s cancelled because it's the responsible thing to do.

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No children depending on you for lifts or indeed much at all? No aged relatives? No work commitments? What a luxury to hole up for ten days

UnmentionedElephantDildo · 05/10/2022 13:46

If you know you've got it, or are symptomatic in the run up to the party, then you really must let your guests know. Because without that knowledge they cannot make proper choices

The severely immune compromised probably won't have accepted anyhow - the advice to them is to avoid indoors gatherings (and I agree with PP about how utterly shit life if for the most vulnerable for whom the vaccines don't work, in the only country in the world that's rejected the use of Evusheld)

But there are lots of other people who might be caring for more vulnerable people, wish to visit care homes, have holidays or other important events coming up. Or who have long covid, or who can't afford time off work, or who just don't want to get it again

And whereas we all know we could catch it in lots of places, that's not a reason to put yourself into an indoors space where you know someone is infected.

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 13:47

Splutteramo · 05/10/2022 12:29

The reality is we won’t test unless we’re really ill. And if we are really ill not likely to want to throw a party anyway.

If you’re “really Ill” of course you won’t host a massive party! You’ll stay at home naturally so I can’t see the point of testing

Doingprettywellthanks · 05/10/2022 13:48

Discovereads · 05/10/2022 10:51

YABU

I am in bed and have Covid right now and that’s not what the ambulance paramedics told my DH four days ago. They stabilised me and gave my DH an earful on how to isolate me here at home and to call 999 if I went downhill again. That everyone in house should be testing daily until we are all negative and to isolate & use sense. I turned a corner yesterday and actually feel human again.

My yr13 is still negative but doing school from home this week as a precaution because it’s common to be negative when you are just catching it and contagious. They said it’s flaring up and the hospitals are full…they’d have taken me in otherwise.

My DH is WFH so all ok there.

I also read on the news that it’s mutated again and is dodging the immunity from the vaccine jabs + booster which is why they’re rolling out the next booster that protects against Omnicron and other new variants. I was supposed to get mine yesterday….but obviously couldn’t go.

The choice to have a party with 40/50 people when you knowingly have Covid is reckless endangerment.

4 days ago at death’s door and an ambulance called.

4 days ago you and I were debating back and forth throughout the day on a thread. I had no idea that I was engaging with someone in such dire health!