To still hold this party if Covid ++?

[Splutteramo]

DP has a 40 coming up and we’re having a party - 40/50 people at ours. A couple of friends now have Covid, though should be fine by birthday time.
DP and I were discussing what would happen if either of us were ++ - do we still go ahead? We have events in the run up plus kids in school and we know it’s spiking/spreading.

but UK now just says - get on with it. Don’t even test. Is that right? If someone’s worried or vulnerable they wouldn’t come anyway.

YANBU - just have the party - life goes on

YABU - you have to cancel if someone in the household has COvID, morally if not legally.

Even before covid the selfish gits that used to come in to my office sneezing and spluttering their germs over everyone, was insane. For many people, asthmatics included, this could be extremely dangerous.

Sneezing and spluttering over people is both rude and selfish.

Other than that, you can't expect people to not go to work every time they have a cold. They'd end up getting the sack unless they're amongst those fortunate enough to be able to work from home!

Flu? You can’t go about your daily lives because you without exception feel shite

but a cold?

I think it would be wrong to carry on. I would also cancel if we had D and V or a serious flu type illness in the house. Suppose it is a bit tricky, if we just had light colds and COVID negative, I might just pre-warn people that some of us had colds and they could come if they wanted to. Think COVID is a bit different though.

The week before our DCs Christening we kept him away from baby groups to try to reduce the chances of any issues. This may not be possible, but I would just try to reduce your exposure in the 2 weeks leading up to the party.

It is a serious illness for a lot of people. And for many people, it's a rotten experience. No it doesn't kill people, but it's nasty and I for one would prefer not to get it again. I know it's everywhere, but if people are hosting a party knowingly Covid + then they do need to tell people in advance.

As someone who currently has COVID and caught it from someone going out without saying, I'd still say go ahead. We don't stop the world for a cold.

You’d isolate if you felt perfectly fine.
So no children? No aged relatives that rely on you?
No work commitments? Take it you’re not a single parent?

Read about Long Covid and then tell me it's just a cold.

It's also not "just a cold" for CEV people. My mum caught it this time last year. She developed encephalitis and almost died, spending ten weeks in ICU with a hole cut into her neck so a machine could breathe for her. That damaged her lungs and I spent part of Christmas day standing in a hospital room with her in respiratory failure, on a vent again, with a doctor asking what I wanted to do if she didn't improve.

So yeah, I think you'd be pretty selfish and shortsighted to host a party while positive.

@delilahhey

Covid is not a cold. Covid is still killing people.

As long as you tell attendees so they can make a decision for themselves then I guess carry on. I agree the world shouldn't stop for a cold (as long as people have at least reasonable personal hygiene and can cough and sneeze without spraying it everywhere); but covid, D&V and flu can all be really bad for people, you'd hope people were isolating with those (definitely with flu as you're unlikely to be able to do much anyway). I was on a plane with a family who all had a sickness bug, the selfish fuckers.

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I suppose my Q is - if you think you have Covid and feel okay, are you honestly going to self isolate or do we just treat it like a cold or flu??“

I honestly would isolate (haven’t had it to my knowledge but my husband did and he isolated until negative). It can be so much worse than a cold, even for vaccinated people. Don’t want to make anyone sick.”

“You’d isolate if you felt perfectly fine.
So no children? No aged relatives that rely on you?
No work commitments? Take it you’re not a single parent?”

not sure why the hostility?

yes, personally I would. Adult children, one at home one not so obviously easier for me than most. My aged (84 and 75) parents wouldn’t want me anywhere near them if I had Covid. My husband is CEV so I would keep away from him. I don’t work outside of home so again not an issue for me.

the question was about hosting 50 people at a party, though. I most certainly wouldn’t do that, whatever my circumstances.

have a nice day.

Surely you wouldn't know if you had covid or not? I don't know anyone who tests anymore. Half the people in our office have had colds the past few weeks but no-one bat an eyelid.

I suppose my Q is - are you someone who is happy to go around spreading a disease that can and does kill, at a time when the NHS is under unprecedented stress, or are you someone who cares about others and society more widely?

Still, warning everyone then going ahead anyway would be a good way of seeing which of your friends are as selfish as you and should be ditched.

We cant stop covid spreading

People are asymptomatic and can also be infectious prior to symptoms developing and for up to 10 days after symptoms develop.

The govt are no longer providing tests so unless you're willing to pay for 1, you wouldn't necessarily know you had covid.

Unfortunately all that means that those who are more vulnerable need to manage that risk

Although as far as I know, death rates from covid remain relatively low as does the incidence of true long covid.

Thankfully no in my RL even talks about covid anymore. Let alone test. Hallelujah

I am CEV and think as long as OP and DH take tests if they feel unwell then let guests know )and I said they would do this) then it is up to the guests.

Tell absolutely everyone and then expect people not to turn up
if - when you do go ahead, even if you are negative. and there are any vulnerable people attending (elderly relatives) I'd even ask people to test first before coming.

I would treat it like a cold or flu, but to me that means not spreading it around, just staying in until well.

How wonderful for you. Guessing you or someone you love isn't CEV.

It's not like you hired a place. It's just a party at your home.

If either of you are ill, what's the harm in postponing a party for a week or two to save your friends/family from getting it?

The world really won't end if you have a party later.

You're right that we can't completely stop it spreading.

But we can each do our bit and the impact would be to minimise it. Which is still worth doing when you are talking about people's lives.

I, personally, would not want to be the cause of somebody else catching Covid. So if I had it, I personally would isolate.

If others are OK with being the cause of someone else catching it, then that's on them.

If you have a horrible dose of Covid and are in bed for a week (as I was), you wouldn't want to be doing anything at all, never mind having a party. If you have Covid with no or minimal symptoms, I would crack on. I wouldn't even know if I were Covid positive because the only time I ever tested was for interest, when I was too ill to get up.

I am in the middle of my second bout of Covid. I feel like I have been hit by a truck. Luckily work advice is stay off for five days - no way would I be able to be doing anything other than shuffling from bed to sofa for a change of scene.

Thankfully no.

I think if you test then you have to tell people, not much point in testing otherwise.
We don't test and just do as we did pre-covid, stay home if we feel unwell. All this isolation bullshit is over and not coming back.

Yes and the minimising would be to tell everyone and make clear no pressure to attend.