To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

You know the rules with mumsnet, photo or it didn't happen. 🤣

I don't know - you'd probably want to shave your pits if you were staying at your boyfriends for more than a couple of days

I'm assuming he doesn't have a sister who might have babysat?

OP you haven't said what you're going to do when he gets home. I'd suggest be as non-chalant and non-accusatory as possible, so you don't spook him or encourage him to hide his tracks.

If I were you, I'd ask about one of the items first. For example, "I found some pink nail clippers in the shower, they're not mine. Do you know where they came from?" then see how he tries to worm his way out of it.

If the items don’t belong to you or your DD it’s proper mystery.
You may never find the answer. 🤭🤭

poltergeist?

It’s an affair and she wants you to know.

She’s put the top in your drawer and the other stuff lying around to mark her territory.

Cross dressing is my guess. Maybe talking to others online/virtually form a community.

He has been careless with leaving the things out as deep down he wants you to know.

I used to take my razor and toothbrush out with me when I was young in case I pulled 😁.

Could it be that he got somebody round to help with the children whilst you were away as he couldn't cope and was too embarrassed to tell you?!

Would the top fit him? If not then see above ☝

I have to say it doesn't sound good, and the fact that the top was 'hidden' in your drawer does sound as though it's another woman, who wanted you to know that she was there.
The items are clever too and hidden in plain sight. Being sexist here but a man is unlikely to notice that they're there but a woman would notice, as you have done, as they are not yours. Sneaky.

Why did she use the guest room ensuite?

Unless they'd had sweaty sex and he was in the ensuite to your room and she used the other one.

How did 5 year old know about the conversation with a woman - obviously it wasn't Grandma or a voice she recognised and obviously it was a loud/ suspicious/ odd conversation as she noticed it in the first place.

Wise up OP, someone is leaving huge, obvious clues for you to find.

not sure if

Lay them all out and gauge his response when he sees them. You don’t even have to accuse him, just ask him what he knows about them.

@Notanotherwindow

Yea exactly this.

The items are clever too and hidden in plain sight. Being sexist here but a man is unlikely to notice that they're there but a woman would notice, as you have done, as they are not yours

There’s something in this. My DH would never recognise those type of items as not being mine.

What does the top look like?

Can you take a photo.

It does sound like a woman has planted the items wanting you to find out. Items left in the ensuite might at a push be explained to be belonging to a family member or babysitter (or him dabbling with shaving or makeup) but noone has accidentally left their top in your drawer or make up among your personal things. Also he was talking to a woman in the shower!

You are not being unreasonable. I hope you are ok.

This is what i was thinking. His mother or sister?

I’m not sure DH would know where my tops go, but it’s conceivable he might put laundry away if I was away for a week. He definitely wouldn’t give it too much thought.

Aye, there’s nothing worse than when this happens

I hope you get to the bottom of it.

Why are people asking for a pic of the top? Do they think they'll recognise it and nail Stacey from work as his side piece?