To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

[NameChangeHoney]

I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

Yes my comment was strange. I just thought about it when someone said their husband would buy them for their 5 year old if they pestered.

How does cross dressing explain a woman's voice in the bathroom? Unless he faked a 2 way conversation?

Cross dresser / sissy. Woman on the phone was no doubt a sex worker, doninatrix. I’d bet my life savings on it. Seen it first hand

Is he on only fans?

Does he have a foot fetish?

Is the top 'his' size?

Hair colour left in razor presumably not a DH match?

I’m sorry OP but that doesn’t sound innocent to me. Sounds kind of bizarre though.

I expect a fairy left them as a present for you. What do you think?

They are the kind of thing that you might keep in your washbag though... and not care about leaving behind if you want to "mark your territory" so the DW finds out. Better to leave something cheap and easily replaceable than an expensive bottle of perfume or jewellery.

He 's either having an affair or cross dressing. The lady in the shower phonecall suggests the former. Is the top in a size that would fit him? If not, you probably have your answer.

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination
Why? Have you left one behind somewhere??

Brilliant! 😂

Benefit of the doubt answer- does he have a sister/mum who might have helped him while you were away and he didn't want to tell you because he didn't want you to know he was useless.

If it is an affair it's worth considering that it's someone you know because they have your phone number.

I wouldn't find it funny at all if I were you

What size is the top? Would it fit your DH?

It is a bit odd, if I was having an affair not sure I'd bring nail clippers!

Obviously someone has been in your house, and it sounds like someone wants you to know. Most likely option is an affair despite the oddities

My take would be that someone has left these items somewhere he won’t notice but you will - i.e your clothing drawers. She might as well have peed on the bed to mark her territory.

The razor and nail clippers were in the ensuite, left inside the shower on a shelf (I don't regularly use that bathroom I just do my makeup in there and use the other bathrooms).

Sounds like an OW making a point.

Sorry @NameChangeHoney I hope it's not as bad as it looks, or as your DD told you.

Youre questioning this? Really? If i found these items (especially someone elses random top in my drawer) i would straight away think my husband is having an affair, id assume she knows about me and wants me to know! Shes left you loads of clues. I'd of already hit the roof by now

Oh also how expensive is the make up palette? No ones leaving behind a chanel palette as a marker but maybe a cheap boots number

It could easily be someone he met for the night on a dating app, or someone he's paid. It's not necessarily a long term affair. It could be someone warning you rather than marking territory

OP you seem very patient. I am very black and white and usually react/jump to conclusions quickly. I would waste no time asking about these items. You are not being silly. They dont belong to you; also along with what your child said about the shower call? I would be livid and would be confronting asap.

"Cross dresser / sissy. Woman on the phone was no doubt a sex worker, doninatrix. I’d bet my life savings on it. Seen it first hand"

You should not be allowed access to life savings 😅.

More likely a woman was actually there and the 5 year old overheard.

This cannot be real.

Your child told you that her dad was talking to a woman in the shower.
You've found multiple items left by a woman, in places your husband isnt going to look but you will, which is what OW do when they're fed up being the OW and want you to find out.

And you're wondering whether or not to mention any of this to him or ask about it?

No one reacts like this. No one sees all of that and decides that nothing is happening and they wont mention it.

You cant possibly be this dim, can you?

Any chances of a babysitter or childminder in house while you were away?

Can confirm, yes.

It only dawned on me a few years later when I was being asked about it. I.e. did he still do it.

When suddenly the penny dropped.

I mentioned it to DH, as it was a family member, and again, the penny dropped.

Yes, this man would rather be known as a cross dresser than an adulterer.

Anyway, back to the Op.

How you feeling about it all now?

Sounds like an ideal place to shave your legs and cut your toe nails?

Who the fuck brings nail clippers and a lady razor to their lovers house?

Exactly!

One earring or a hair clip is a sign of him cheating or even cross dressing.

Nail clippers and a razor definitely isn’t!

What does the top look like?
Can you post a photo?

Yeh ok 👍

I'm a size 8, the top is a 14.
Makeup pallete is a Nyx eyeshadow one.
Hes due home around 2.

I wouldn't even give him the chance to try and lie tbh. Just as soon as he walks in, ask What is her name and how long has it been going on? And if it had been going on with our child in the house I'd wipe the floor with him.