To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

This. He probably has no idea they have been left and aren’t yours.
maybe ask about one thing to gauge his reaction and gather the others and put them somewhere safe.
It sounds as though the other woman has told him she’s going to tell you, hence the checking of your phone but other woman knows she won’t need to say anything with you finding all of those bits.
Id keep quiet and get myself in a position to kick the lying knob out.
Sorry you’re going through this OP 💐

Is your 5 year old DD always in the house or with him when your away? Just trying to think how the items could have got there!

Cross dressing or cheating imo - I'm assume cheating as not sure why someone cross dressing would require pink nail clippers. What size is the top? That should tell you!

Did you come home early or something?

You're personally offended. Relax babe

Your initial reaction on finding these things, was not, where did these come from?

If he has had another woman over then it is the worst cover up in the world ever!

Another who is perplexed that you are perplexed.

There are only 3 options here:

• your 5yo stole DH’s wallet and car keys, went shopping, purchased these items, came home and planted them
• your DH is a closet transvestite - is the top his size?
• your DH had a lady over for nefarious reasons and she left the items behind

I think the first option extremely unlikely, which leaves you with the last two.

I don't know why you wouldn't just ask him. It doesn't look good though!

Why are you so passive?

Are you scared of your husband?

He's left evidence for you to find it seems
Either another woman or he's cross dressing
I'd present him with the four items over the dinner table and demand an explanation He can't deny that easily
I'm guessing he's checking your phone to see if anyone has told him
You need to talk about it immediately then work out your plan

Ask him. One item at a time.

Are you scared of him?

Any update OP?

Have you asked him yet?

Told you

You seem to be very chilled for someone whos DH is most definitely cheating or cross dressing. I am guessing you already now the answers to your questions.

Ask if they are his

5 year olds are very honest. There was a lady in the shower. And she left her stuff. She must feel comfortable enough with him to do that.

I find it really odd you haven’t asked him?

After what dd5 had said and assuming she’s at school as to not make a scene infront of her, If he’s out or at work atm I would pack his shit in to black bags toss them outside with the items sitting on top, send a picture and tell him not to even bother trying to come in the house! If he’s in the house I think I would have thrown them in his face already with the black bags n told him to pack his shit n get out.

There's no way on earth they weren't left for you to find.

One item perhaps but not 4. If it's another woman, she wants you to know. If he's cross dressing, he wants you to know.

You are very calm about this.

Considering most posts on this forum are 'my husband sneezed at a slightly different pitch today, do you think he is cheating?' I think unusually you probably have physical proof of something untoward going on.

Ok so a few things,
The items were scattered, not hidden either.
The top was not my size and i did not recognise it.
When I was away, he had the kids, apart from when they were at school and nursery but he would have been at work (unless he didn't go) I don't know.
I don't think he is cross dressing.
He usually goes to work and comes home, he starts early and finishes early and spends the rest of the time with the kids and me. He goes on occasional nights out or bbqs with his mates but that's about it. He's even stopped going to the gym and prefers to be at home.
I haven't asked him yet mainly because 2 items I found this morning whilst he's at work. Finding more has really tipped me over the edge and making me wonder.

You know, don't you?

OP I just had a thought... why not check his feet? He might have used the nail clippers on himself before he put the stockings on😀

Just ask him. Or dont ask him. You know the answer. There's no other answer to this.

Where were these items exactly? How old is your other child?

I think he’s cross-dressing. No one brings a razor and nail clippers to an illicit liasion.