To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

Well it was clearly a very intentional plant by the OW, she definitely wanted you to find out. My guess is that it's been going on for some time and that she's been pressuring him to leave you or he's been promising her that he will. She's lost patience and done this. And that'll be why your husband has been keeping a close eye on your phone too - she's been threatening to tell you.

I doubt she cares about her current BF, he's likely just collateral unfortunately. I expect now she's split you two up that she'll be dropping her bf imminently anyway. You're better off rid, and they deserve each other.

I wouldn’t listen to a word from viper MIL, no matter how relentless she is. This is none of her business. I might eventually send a short, sharp message before blocking with the truth about what her diddums has perpetrated: an affair with Ex that included shagging down the hall from her granddaughters. I’d also include that you’re aware of her slagging you.

And yes, it does sound like she’s bricking it that the bank of Honey is now closed.

I would definitely answer the phone and I’d take pleasure in letting her know what a sleaze her son is.

Could your daughter have seen him go in the shower, then later seen a woman (or him dressed as a woman)?

Oh no I'm so sorry. What a bastard
He can't deny it now
Tell him to leave, and get your sister round/ or on phone to support you

So sorry OP and total respect to you! Way to go!!

So sorry, just read the update. Stay strong, you can do this

Glad he's gone Personally I wouldn't bother with MiL unless you would find it cathartic
You're a strong lady.. Ex doesn't realise how much he's lost... but he will.
Sending you more

God what a day you’ve had. You have handled yourself magnificently OP.

I dont think its the right time to give MIL boyh barrels, she is still the DCs Grandmother, & may still be useful for child care etc.
She doesn't need annexing
"Grey Rock" is the best ,
Short succinct emotionless replies.
Such as:
Has he mentioned my children heard him ?
Has he told you about the porn addiction?
Did he tell you this is a one off, it wasn't.
The children are my priority
No I wont be having him back
Oh really, it doesnt look like he loved me whilst he welcomed her into my bed
He is responsible
That doesn't work for me
Oh thats a shame....
No

Sorry to hear your update OP! Glad for you finding this out sooner rather than later. What a pig your stbxh is!!

Bloody hell. So sorry op, but you’re well rid. Onwards and upwards. Hope you are feeling ok this morning. Good luck, and well done for being so strong.

You definitely sound as if you can weather this storm OP. Good luck!

I’d answer when MIL next phones just to hear what she says; for entertainment sake. Then I’d tell her that I’d read her messages about me to her son, that the Apple hasn’t fallen far from the tree as he is a disgusting porn addicted arsehole and that the gravy train has stopped. Don’t call again as you’re now blocked. Good day madam!

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.
I am glad that you feel no threat to your (home and car) assets.
You could help an awful lot of other vulnerable women out there that have had the benefit of your own wise mum, and are terrified that they will lose their assets even though they are owned outright by them alone.
Please share (when you feel ready) what your mums advice was?
I’m truly sorry if I’m coming across as insensitive.
I’m totally sympathetic and empathetic to your situation, and it was only by chance that my “cheater” ex didn’t claim half my (he didn’t contribute at all) assets.
I just think you could do a a lot of good to the spouses out there that do own their own home, but are being threatened or whitewashed into thinking they have to part with 50% of what is totally theirs, as well as having to cope with the emotional trauma.
You do sound incredibly strong, and for those reading your posts, you are proving to be a great role model.
Much love and strength to you x

So the hangover isn't to bad! I have loads of missed calls from him. I did speak to his mother in the end (I was pretty drunk 😳)
She seemed more concerned about me not giving him one of the cars "to atleast get to her house" as she lives a few hours away. Im greedy and spiteful for not doing so apparently. So I reminded her that 2 women is greedy and that he has a savings account and to use that money to buy his own car, hotel room, taxis, eat, breathe, live from now on.

Was going to ask if you managed any sleep last night. Glad your hangover isn't too bad. I have to say you are incredible. Just got shit done, got him out and didn't listen to any excuses and lies from him. You are amazing.

And perfect response to MIL. Now you can ignore her. If she wants to maintain a relationship with you and the dc, she can put the effort into that and it will be on your terms, not hers.

I'm sure you are completely emotionally drained right now, but stay strong.

And you're right. If he needs a car he can bloody well buy one. You owe him absolutely nothing. So glad you protected your assets, you can call all the shots now. He has destroyed his own life, not you. And he destroyed yours and the dcs in the process. There really are some shitty people in the world.

Excellent response OP. I so admire you, you have taken control, despite the hurt. Such a great role model for your daughter.

@soberfabulous u go ti the settings, account, privacy then its shows blocked contacts.

So sorry ur going through this op. How horrible ur having to go through this. Hope ur feeling ok today. Big hugs

Poor you op. Sorry you are going through this. What a loser, stay strong. X

Good for you OP! The cheek of your MIL beggars belief!