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To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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NameChangeHoney · 03/10/2022 12:06

I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

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CatsandFish · 03/10/2022 15:31

DavidLostBoysMullet · 03/10/2022 15:25

So your life is crashing down around your ears and your first thing to do is update here? 🤔

ODFOD! What are you doing on this site then if you don't understand the entire purpose of the site?

Wallywobbles · 03/10/2022 15:34

You rock.

Original poster
NameChangeHoney · 03/10/2022 15:34

DavidLostBoysMullet · 03/10/2022 15:25

So your life is crashing down around your ears and your first thing to do is update here? 🤔

I'm not entirely sure what I'm supposed to be doing in a situation like this? But I think I will continue to drink my wine and tell you all what a c*nt he is whilst he's packing his shit

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SleeplessInEngland · 03/10/2022 15:35

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Name99 · 03/10/2022 15:35

Have you asked about the items you found?

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 03/10/2022 15:36

Sorry OP, just seen your updates. Hugs xx

LuckyLil · 03/10/2022 15:37

What a piece of work though deliberately putting her clothes in your drawer to split you up. She sounds like she's desperate to have him.

Choconut · 03/10/2022 15:39

What a prize she's won! Lucky her.

Booklover3 · 03/10/2022 15:40

Ahh what a fucking disgusting individual he is

Crankley · 03/10/2022 15:42

Name99
Have you asked about the items you found?

Have you tried reading the thread?

Noteverybodylives · 03/10/2022 15:43

Has she not replied yet?

Has he gone already?

mamabear715 · 03/10/2022 15:44

I'm so sorry, @NameChangeHoney
Been there - yep, actually lipstick on his collar. You can't get much more cliched.
I hope you'll be ok.. I for one will be around today if you fall apart later (I do the calm thing then fall to pieces after the event too.) HUGE hugs. xx

LuckyLil · 03/10/2022 15:45

Obvious I know but get yourself checked if he was still having sex with you while this was going on.

HairyKnobsAndBroomsticks · 03/10/2022 15:46

Jesus, what a nightmare for you. I honestly thought this thread was going to turn out to be a wind up on the assumption that no other woman would leave these items behind. She obviously wanted you to find them. I'm so sorry for you 💐

Dancingjane · 03/10/2022 15:47

NameChangeHoney · 03/10/2022 15:34

I'm not entirely sure what I'm supposed to be doing in a situation like this? But I think I will continue to drink my wine and tell you all what a c*nt he is whilst he's packing his shit

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If it helps to keep posting on here absolutly do it. Ignore the above poster.

thenewduchessoflapland · 03/10/2022 15:48

NameChangeHoney · 03/10/2022 14:41

Him and his mother slagging me off.
He also seems to have a porn addiction. Disgusting.
I can't seem to find any thing from another woman though.

Men tend to not leave messages from other women on their mistresses for their wives to potentially find,he's either deleted them,hidden them or has another phone which his unfortunately more common than you think.

If your children are only 2&5 it's quite possible he's had a woman over after they've gone to bed and she's left early or hidden her in the morning;your DD saying she heard dad talking to a woman in the shower;he could have had another woman in the bathroom with him.

Herejustforthisone · 03/10/2022 15:48

He is utterly filthy. How awful. Let her have her ‘prize’ of a lying, cheating porn addict. 🤢

britneyisfree · 03/10/2022 15:48

What a bitch!!!!!

So sorry op Flowers

middleofthelittle · 03/10/2022 15:49

rocketfromthecrypt · 03/10/2022 15:20

I don't understand why having blocked someone's contact details mean they're an affair partner? Am I being thick?

So she can't call or message when he's with his wife.

Assume he'll unblock her during working hours or when wife is out

Dancingjane · 03/10/2022 15:50

DavidLostBoysMullet · 03/10/2022 15:25

So your life is crashing down around your ears and your first thing to do is update here? 🤔

OP can do what she likes post break up to help cope with the pain. Nothing to do with you love so bigger off… 🤣

MsDogLady · 03/10/2022 15:50

He really is an awful, terrible father.

thenewduchessoflapland · 03/10/2022 15:51

Sorry just read your updates;he's not only cheated but had her over whilst you little ones were in bed;what a absolute fucking scumbag.

Please find yourself a good solicitor asap to find out where you stand legally/financially.

LuckyLil · 03/10/2022 15:54

thenewduchessoflapland · 03/10/2022 15:48

Men tend to not leave messages from other women on their mistresses for their wives to potentially find,he's either deleted them,hidden them or has another phone which his unfortunately more common than you think.

If your children are only 2&5 it's quite possible he's had a woman over after they've gone to bed and she's left early or hidden her in the morning;your DD saying she heard dad talking to a woman in the shower;he could have had another woman in the bathroom with him.

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May have just been on loudspeaker in the shower. Either way it's not something he should have been conducting in hearing distance of small children. The fact the ex added OP on Facebook recently makes me wonder if he tried to end it with her and she was going to tell OP they were at it. Clearly she planted clothes in drawers to try and split them up. The rest wasn't even hidden.

Original poster
NameChangeHoney · 03/10/2022 15:59

The OW replied saying who's this?
How many husbands is she sleeping with ffs!!!
Had a mooch on Facebook and she's got a boyfriend as well. Tramp

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Name99 · 03/10/2022 16:00

Crankley · 03/10/2022 15:42

Name99
Have you asked about the items you found?

Have you tried reading the thread?

Yes I have, he said she is mental, didn't deny anything went for a shower she looked at his phone and he is now packing silently whilst she drinks wine

I'd personally want more of an answer than I was mental and would be getting him to admit it