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DD's friends "fancy" DH

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Dollydea · 01/10/2022 20:53

DD is in year 8, it's her birthday next month and she's having a sleepover with 5 of her mates from school.
The issue is, according to DD then DH has apparently developed a little fan club consisting of a few school friends who apparently think he's "fit" one of her friends who's slept over in the past found his Facebook and a few of his profile pics have been passed around the classroom so the others can decide if he's "fit" or not.
DH was mortified when she was telling us in the car earlier and has said he's staying at a friends house the night of the sleepover as he wouldn't feel comfortable being around them.

Am I wrong in thinking he's being stupid and overthinking it far too much? They'll be in her bedroom the majority of the time not like they'll be sat downstairs watching tv with us etc.

If I'd known I was gonna be left alone with 6 of them then I wouldn't of agreed to so many staying over but it's too late to cut down on numbers now.

Not sure whether to tell him to stop being stupid or just suck it up and let him stay at his friends house for the night?

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LemonDrop22 · 01/10/2022 21:17

Your dd can tell them he had her dB didn't want to be stuck in the middle of a big girly sleep over night and are legging it .... Phrased more nicely obviously.

VeridicalVagabond · 01/10/2022 21:18

I get it, my husband is 6'4" of Norwegian gorgeousness and there's always a LOT of giggling when DD's friends are round and he enters the room. He's been called a DILF, I had to explain to him what it meant and he was mortified. It's harmless but I understand your husband's discomfort, I think my DH would probably make himself scarce in the event of a sleepover too, for DD's sake of nothing else. Must be very embarrassing for her.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 01/10/2022 21:18

In his position I'd want to do the same thing. I think your DD would probably prefer it as well

Y7drama · 01/10/2022 21:18

I think it’s a good idea he’s going away. As@Prescottdanni123 says.

Anon778833 · 01/10/2022 21:19

I can understand him feeling uncomfortable!

Adultchildofelderlyparents · 01/10/2022 21:23

This "fit dad" fan club has disaster waiting to happen all over it. Your DH is correct to remove himself for the weekend for everyone's benefit.
Young girls with a crush, one of them perhaps seeking attention, makes a false accusation, etc.
Perhaps someone should have a talk with the girls about respecting other people's privacy and dignity and not passing photos of someone around class to rate it. How would they feel if it was a photo of one of them being shared?

startfresh · 01/10/2022 21:25

He's made the right choice. Teenage girls can have some weird fantasies.

nocoolnamesleft · 01/10/2022 21:26

Your DH is very sensible not to be there. It would probably be prudent to lock down his social media rather more.

VroomVrooom · 01/10/2022 21:26

This is so weird…..

user29 · 01/10/2022 21:28

he is doing the right thing to protect himself

Spudina · 01/10/2022 21:28

Also, congrats on bagging a hottie!! 😜

butterfliedtwo · 01/10/2022 21:29

nocoolnamesleft · 01/10/2022 21:26

Your DH is very sensible not to be there. It would probably be prudent to lock down his social media rather more.

Yeah, that seems sensible

Bundlebungle · 01/10/2022 21:31

Tell him to get his privacy settings sorted on sm. Tell the teens he's had to sleep elsewhere because he's horribly constipated.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/10/2022 21:31

Like Nocoolnames says, lock down that sm quick.

TheSausageKingofChicago · 01/10/2022 21:32

God yes, I don’t blame him for making himself scarce. Can a friend/sister or whoever come over to help you share the load? Have a ‘ladies night’ or something

converseandjeans · 01/10/2022 21:33

At this age, their behaviour around men they 'fancy' can be quite silly and some of the rumours they make up can be brutal. He probably is better off out of the house for the night.

Agree with this. They could make up excuses to chat to him & make up all sorts of stupid rumours.

yougotthelook · 01/10/2022 21:33

Bundlebungle · 01/10/2022 21:31

Tell him to get his privacy settings sorted on sm. Tell the teens he's had to sleep elsewhere because he's horribly constipated.

Love this! 😂

Cosmos123 · 01/10/2022 21:34

Best decision.

Turn privacy on on social media.

Just will take one to make up a rumour which can potentially become a nightmare.

Noteverybodylives · 01/10/2022 21:34

He’s being silly.

This is something he’s going to have to get used to and if you have a DS you’ll have to get used to it too.

I get that he doesn’t want to be accused of anything but I highly doubt that will ever happen when there are so many other witnesses around.

Stravaig · 01/10/2022 21:35

He's a wise man!

Somethingneedstochange · 01/10/2022 21:35

I think he's right to stay out the house while they are there. Not only will he feel uncomfortable your daughter will find it a bit embarrassed that her friends are drooling over her dad.

Stravaig · 01/10/2022 21:40

Bundlebungle · 01/10/2022 21:31

Tell him to get his privacy settings sorted on sm. Tell the teens he's had to sleep elsewhere because he's horribly constipated.

Tell the teens he's had to sleep elsewhere because he's horribly constipated.

Love this! Or piles, or gout, or some kind of fungus?
Consult DD and DH to work out what the giggly teens would find most revolting.

Motherofalegend · 01/10/2022 21:41

He probably needs to change his Facebook privacy settings too so only photos are available to friends.

Kitkatcatflap · 01/10/2022 21:43

Are you Madonna? Is your DH 23 year old model called Andrew Darnell? Asking for a friend.

KimberleyClark · 01/10/2022 21:44

I’m sure they do.

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