Partner going to a wedding without me

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I'll keep it brief and to the point.
if you were invited to a wedding abroad and you couldn't afford it but your partner could ( together just shy of 2 years) one has no money issues no mortgage good job other has mortgage, much lower income and responsibilities to pay for, would you expect partner to pay for other one?
Would you be pissed off if they didn't and booked it without you? It's the better off partners friends wedding

I honestly think that he fancies a week away for the wedding with his friends without the responsibility of having to 'look after you', making sure you are happy, included when he just wants to have fun with his mates. If these are people he has known for years, it may just be that going as a couple would make the dynamic different and less enjoyable for him. That doesn't mean he is not fully committed to you or your relationship. His friend who booked the trip is going alone too, no?

I'm not saying that you shouldn't be annoyed about it but some people enjoy having separate time with friends.

No, you not living together and it's friends wedding. Yabu

X. His friends wedding so not a joint friend

Other than buying dinners what does he pay for when staying at your house?

If he can "more than afford it" and you have plans for a future together I would be pissed off if finances were separate and I wouldn't do that if I were the higher earner

really? Very few people share finances before living together, this is a boyfriend of two years.

I can’t believe the amount of women who expect boyfriends to take them on holiday and even share finances before they even live together, and share finances is always you earn more so Can I have it. It’s never the higher female earner saying hey dude here is access to my bank account and if it is then she’s told she’s an idiot as they aren’t married

If he can "more than afford it" and you have plans for a future together I would be pissed off if finances were separate and I wouldn't do that if I were the higher earner

also do you tell men this, that if they decide the relationship is long term then before you even live together you want full access to his bank accounts and you want him to pay for you to have holidays?

It's the friends 3rd wedding? If they have divorced all the partners, I wouldn't bother going. Go to their 4th, you'll probably have more money by then.

As for your partner, he sounds maybe a bit thoughtless or/and stingy. I'd find out which before moving in with him.

OP describes him as her
Partner. He's about to move in with her. He earns much more than she does. Is this a partnership or not? Should she eat rice and beans and wear cheap shoes and not go on holidays while he dines out lavishly, buys expensive clothes and has 3
Vacations a year?
I would (and have) cheerfully paid for my partner (now DH ) to go away when I had more money than he did.
Some people like to keep everything separate but that's not partnership. Some people like to vacation separately- but this is happening because she can't afford it and he can.

And no, I don't "tell men this" but I'm not going to commit to a
Long term
Relationship with someone who carved up the bill like a work night out.

All expense paid holiday and work meal out are not even the same things. How can you compare not offering to pay for an entire holiday with a meal with colleagues?

The response would still be for op to bin him off, if op posted her male partner cried because she didn’t invite and offer to pay for him to attend her Friends wedding.

and then when she did, he said didn’t actually want to go, he just wanted to be invited.

At least read the OP's posts before commenting, there's a filter there for exactly that.
She has already said her kids will be with their Dad